Overprotective parents?

Question

How old were you when your parents let you go out with just yours friends, and no adults? Its just really irritating for my cause all of my friends are allowed to, but im not.

i do understand their position, but im talking about going out with like 2-3 other friends, who all have cell phones

Answer 1

The question is, HOW OLD ARE YOU?

My parents didn't let me do anything at all, so you're not alone. Unfortunately I allowed something t o happen that forced their hand, I got married very young.

More info please. If you're older that 15 you might want to have a chat with an understanding relative who might pull for you to have a little more freedom. Try not to grow up so fast though, you'll find it's not all it's cracked up to be.

Answer 2

Let me speak on this subject of over-protective parents. When parents work hard to raise their children such as I have. We teach them the best way we can that brings them up right in this world and give them a set of values.
Now when the child reaches the age where he or she is now ready adventure out, the dating, the movies,the games, fun , fun ,fun the parents begin to get scared that she or he will do something she should'nt or the boy will not do right..ect

Uncertainty and is this very reason that we think we have'nt taught our children enough yet and need more time and this causes the over-protection value to hit hard.

Parents need to feel confident in themselves and in their children that you have spent the last 12 or 13, 14, 15, years with them teaching and training them that has bloomed wonderfully.

The fault line is in the parents when they have'nt been able to come to terms with themselves that they've done good or not and fail safe...they won't let go and worry constantly because they have failed themselves in fear that they have left something out in the teachings where infact nothing is left out.

They just are so use to being parents that they can't handle the facts and changes that their child is growing up...when will parents cut some slack and let your teachings go to work...............

So what you have produced will bloom. We as parents can sit back and not worry, because we have taught our children good.

Now here comes the the difficult part.

Even though, you teach the children good, that doesn't mature them faster than what time will do.

The adventure they will undertake will take time and patience, but what you have taught them will carry them through the times when important decisions from the child makes, be it for responsibility or whatever.

The lack of maturity in the child alerts the parents that they feel they cannot let their child go yet.

Now if the child is growing up fast and mature enough that the parents can say, she or he is very mature for his or age and the parents give themselves a pat on the back for a job well done and now must cut some slack and let your child be free and trust your teachings and when the child responds favorably as such then the presure comes off and there is no OVER-PROTECTION, but because by law the child is still a dependent under the parents until 18, they must abide by the rules and there is limitations that every child must understand until they are 18 and can function on their own independently and then there are limits until they reach 21.

So the steps are slow and the process of a child at 12 going on 21 can be the most difficult time for any parent to break loose from , but they have too sooner or later.

My Son is in College and he is doing good and my teachings have paid off. I am a Father of one Son so I had it easy no girls..ha..ha
Good Luck I am finished an out of here. Aldo has spoken.

Answer 3

Age 16 but I had a curfew of 11pm. The car also had to come home with at least 1/2 tank of gas in it or couldn't use it again for a month. You don't say how old you are but hanging out with no particular plans is a lot more dangerous than when I was a teen in the late 60's.

Answer 4

Sorry thing is your parents wouldn't let your friends if they were their parents, so you can't really complain they don't let you considering you are the one they care about. As a parent myself let me say it most likely depends on whom you are hanging out with, your own actions, and perhaps your age. It may be frustrating but against popular theory the partying and going out continues well into adult life, you wont miss out on anything. And if you are perfect and completely trustworthy and your friends are too, you still have to realize your parents are ppl who have sacrificed and loved you more than any of your friends, and your making it to tomorrow and beyond is their biggest concern, be glad they love you and don't pout or give attitude over it, show you are mature enough to accept their rules and only talk about it with them in a calm voice. Find out what it is they are concerned about and see if maybe there is any way to compromise. Any sneaking out or throwing a fit will only confirm to them you are not ready to be left on your own, prove yourself a hundred and fifty times if you have to, they do know what you are going through and they are looking back at their own childhood, they don't want your life more difficult in any way, nor do they want it to end bc you wanted to have some fun and either you or somebody you know did something stupid, let alone all the strangers out there they have to worry about. Being a parent is hard, you have your treasure right there in front of you, and you become a dragon...you covet it. Enjoy the coveting you will miss it someday when they are gone.

Also, it is a mis-nomer that in the old days parents had less to worry about, bc for them back then it was the worst compared to when they were young. As children/young ppl we see our world differently then when we get older, and when you have children all the bad in the world sticks out...at least if you are a good parent. Every generation of parents had real reasons to worry even for the past time periods, so when my parents worried they had real things to worry for, and same with theirs and so on down the line. The world always gets worse and not better. Just know you are hearing from parents who love their children, like your parents do you.

Answer 5

I'd say I was about 12-13. But take into account that when I was that age, things/places were actually considerably safer. I remember staying out late with my friends in our front yard playing. Now that I'm a mom, I wouldn't dream of letting my 2 year old out for long. Just remember they might be protective of you a little bit more because of how society is now.

Answer 6

How old are you? Like I tell my kids "I'm not everybody elses parents... I'm yours". It's really not about being overprotective it's about how mature and responsible you are and your friends seem to be. As parents, we have the responsibility to raise our children with self respect and caution. I used to say the very same thing about my parents. Everyone else got to go "cruising downtown" but not me. Eventually at age 16 I was allowed to go with a curfew. Just try to understand parents aren't trying to make our kids miserable we are just trying to do what's right. It's a tough job raising kids.

Answer 7

You need to show your parents that you are responsible. If you are a good student and help around the house without being asked and keep your room clean. I think your parents will start to give you a little more freedom. That's assuming you are at least 15. If not, you're going to have to wait.

Answer 8

Trust your parents. They have no intention to harm you or hurt you.
They are surely looking at your well being.
You have to do enough good to build the trust of your parents for letting you go out with out supervision.
Every parents have different watch-list and different parameters.
Ask an orphan? They were probably left alone in this world from the day they were born.
So do not get pissed of with your parents, try and convince them if you prove yourself they will surely allow you to do what you want.

Answer 9

How old are you ??? And are you mature ??? Can your parents trust you ??? I let my kids start going with their friends at 16 , but they had to be mature , and I had to trust them . Start Small , a movie , invite your friends to your home to meet your parents . I never let my kids go with people I did not know , and I always knew where and who my kids where w ith . If your parents feel comfortable about all of this , it will be better for you in the long run.

Answer 10

12 or so. Small town USA. There are a lot of factors your parents have to consider, including where you live. It's one thing in small town Tennessee, it's another in suburban Chicago. I would wait it out a little but you didn't say how old you are so it's a little hard to say what you might be able to do.