Nono...I mean my 11 yr old son has a girlfriend in school...and he came back and told me that they have already kissed...omg..I'm very worried that he might grow up to be a Casanova in love...what should I do...i cant bear to break them up but im very worried about his mentality...what should i do..
2007-01-01 08:38:45 · 24 answers · asked by livin_on_an_altar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you must be doing something right since he was able to tell you about it so I wouldn't say much at this point other than tell him that going further at his age is not recommended , aside from that your boy is growing up and no problems it's likely nothing to worry about at this particular stage. Perhaps tell him what you would do in his situation or did . With a son of your own I strongly suspect you have some experience in this area. Good luck he sounds like a healthy boy.
2007-01-01 08:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 11 year old son had also kissed a girl and he's handling it quite well. It's normal and natural! You can't be with him 24/7, so as long as you've taught him how to behave around a girl, he'll be fine. By the way........just because he's kissed a girl doesn't mean there's anything to 'break up' - kids at that age rarely actually 'go together', so quit worrying!
Happy New Year!
2007-01-01 16:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately in these days kids start so early. You have a right to be worried. You just need to be sure to set a good example of how to treat and respect women. You should also make sure he understands the consequences of having sex at such an early age and how to protect himself against disease and pregnancy. When my kids are a little older I'm going to try and scare them out of having sex to early but I have girls and do not want to be a grandma in my mid thirties. Good luck as long as he sticks to just kissing you should be fine but just incase I'd have that talk very soon.
2007-01-01 16:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax,dont worry about it,with all the stuff they show on the tele these days you shouldve been surprised if something like this hadnt happened.Dont show your concern to the kid in an alarming manner,just sit him down and talk to him about it.Best thing to tell him would be that if it carries on he might end up losing a friend,thats because her parents might not be as broadminded as yourself.Better still ask his dad to do the talking.Good luck and a happy new year.
2007-01-01 16:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by ytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh goodness, nothing bad is going to come from them kissing. At least he was honest about it and told you.
My first kiss and first boyfriend was when I was just nine years old. It didn`t go any farther than that, and never has in all the other boyfriends I`ve had.
Don`t be worried. Nothing is going to happen.
2007-01-01 16:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by SRAWRRR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just surpervise till he gets to the point he wants to know what condoms are for and how to put them on. If he is getting in trouble for kissing then intervien but untill then let him have his cute kid love, it will probably be something he will never forget so don't turn it into a bad thing!
2007-01-01 16:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by HushYourFuss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to find out how they are kissing if its just little inocent pecks then no biggy but if they are already doin the tongue tango then you might just want to keep an eye on it and let him know its a little too soon for stuff like that.
2007-01-01 16:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by 45 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That "forbidden fruit" comment is misleading because I took it as your son got to "home plate".
Well...guess this is the time you have that "birds and the bees" talk. Start now. Don't hold off. Right now it's kissing. Eventually it will get down to sex by his teen years.....be responsible and talk!
2007-01-01 16:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and ask him about it.....he will tell you....i like her...or it was a fun thing...or I did not expect it............only he knows what is in his mind and how he feel about it.............it might be nothing
as for becoming a Casanova.....some guys break a lot of hearts but they have to be willing hearts in the first place......if you do not have a stable relationship as an example....then explain relationship and their benefits to him...........
but as to the type of guy he becomes romantically....that his choice down the years....some guys just don't want to settle down and enjoy the company of woman.....till he meets his match....
it is good you have concern...but have the chat first before you establish the future in your mind.......
2007-01-01 16:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jonathan L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As his dad tell him his is to young to engage in dating behaviors and he should wait until he is 15 or whatever you think the appropriate age is. Now is the time to excel in education and sports not playing Dr. with school yard trollops.
2007-01-01 16:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋