Is fighting healthy for a relationship?

Answer 1

I would say it's *normal* to have *disagreements*, and how healthy or not depends on how its done. Here's some really good advice from the about.com website:

The way a couple fights can often tell psychologists more than what they fight about. If done correctly, conflict and healthy, fair fighting, can strengthen a relationship.

Here's How:

Don't let little things that bother you build up until one of you explodes the issue into a large fight. That's not fighting fair.

If you are angry about something and don't try to talk about it with your partner within 48 hours, let it go. Otherwise, you are not fighting fair.

If your partner doesn't want to discuss the matter, set an appointment within the next 24 hours to have your fair fight.

Fighting fair means you know what the issue is. Then, both of you stick to the subject.

Keep your fight between the two of you. Don't bring in third parties like your mother-in-law, his best friend, or your children.

Fighting fair means you don't hit below the belt.

Fighting fair means you don't bring up past history.

Fighting fair means no name calling. Even endearing terms and pet names can be hurtful when you are using a sarcastic tone.

Be careful how you use humor. Laughter is good, but teasing can be misinterpreted and can be hurtful.

Listen to one another fully while you fight. This includes watching body language. Look at one another while you speak.

Don't interrupt during your fight.

Fighting fair means you don't blame one another make accusations.

Try to use 'I' sentences instead of 'you' sentences.

If the two of you are not extremely angry, try to hold hands while talking during your fight.

Be open to asking for forgiveness and being willing to forgive.

Even though it may be hard to forgive your spouse, not forgiving can cause more harm both emotionally and physically to yourself and to your marriage. Holding a grudge is letting someone else live in your head rent free.

Remember to not fight to win, but to fight for your relationship.

Conflict is not the problem. All couples have disagreements. It's not knowing how to effectively argue that creates difficulty in a relationship.

Don't use the words "never" and "always" in your statements to one another.

Do not yell. Do not scream. Do not talk in a threatening tone.

What You Need:
Conflict management skills
A sense of fairness
Putting your relationship first
Willingness to forgive
Ability to listen

Answer 2

Fighting is a broad term.
Disagreeing is healthy and should be a part of any real relationship.
It's more about how you fight, that's where questions of whether its healthy or not. Name calling, hitting or belittling the other person is most unhealthy. Disagreeing but working it out actually shows that the two of you want to work things out where you are both happy in the relationship.

Answer 3

Almost everyone is bound to fight, but I wouldn't say it's very healthy for a relationship.

Answer 4

A little bit of fighting occasionally is okay, but if it's at the point where you fight almost every week, it's not good for your relationship.

Answer 5

Fighting is healthy. If you didn't care about the person then you wouldn't care about fighting with them.

Answer 6

its fine.... a relatinship is never perfect and even after years you are still going to fight about stupid things but just remember that a relationship without fights is never a real relationship!! good luuck!! byeee

Answer 7

I don't know about healthy, but it's definitely natural.

Answer 8

That's what the experts seem to think. but I don't believe it to be true.

Answer 9

Some is, but too much isn't

Answer 10

no is not...You can dialogue but not fight...