2007-01-01 08:31:22 · 14 answers · asked by SHELLIE G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What is there ages and what are the problems.Maybe we can help.guitpicker777@yahoo.com
2007-01-01 08:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by guitpicker777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds are that the underlying problem is you. When dealing with a child, let alone children, it is important to be the adult. What does that mean? It means being the one who is in control and makes the decisions. You cannot back down, you cannot lose the little battles of will. If you say no, and they do it any way, you just showed them that they don't have to listen to you. Every time that happens, their influence grows stronger and yours grows weaker. The more you win, the easier it will be to maintain control. So... all you gotta do is win. Winning isn't easy, kids are very persuasive and persistent. They can wear you down over time and get eventually get their way. How do you win? You will most likely have to change your tactics and personality a bit. You are not their friend, you are a parent. Parents are not afraid to oppose their children's views or desires. You are the voice of reason and experience, two things children lack and under value.
If you say no, you had better stick to your guns. Don't reason with them, don't let them debate it. If you say no, that's it, end of discussion! Tell them that you are the boss, and you are responsible for them until they are 18. They should know this, but it can't hurt to remind them who runs the show, who pays the bills, and who buys the food. Don't be afraid to use the things you provide as a means of control and a method for compliance. Make no mistake, it is tough and it is difficult, but it is also necessary and rewarding.
2007-01-01 16:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Discipline Book: How to Have a Better-Behaved Child From Birth to Age Ten by Martha Sears and William Sears
2007-01-02 00:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember physcially smacking is violence. Full Stop. Talking of full stops - see the NSPCC's website and find out what the charity thinks of 'smacking'. Hopefully it will be banned in UK soon as it is in Sweden. The one single thing any parent can do before having a child is to read, read and read. Educate yourselves with regard to how children learn and develop. This will, undoubtedly, convey the damage caused by physically hurting children.
No doubt I will get lots of thumbs down for this answer from parents that have hurt/still hurt their children and need to justify their actions. So be it.
www.nspcc.org.uk.
2007-01-05 09:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by personwithgreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to parenting classes find out what help is available to you locally. Sounds like you need some help have you any extended family living near you? We grandmothers can ease the burden quite considerably. Need details of ages etc and what the behavoural problems are first though.
2007-01-03 20:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by cathyjast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-01 16:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Geraldine J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use the naughty step and counting to five. I warn them that i am going to count to five and then put them on the naughty step. you must follow it through every time you start if you do not then it does not work. with the naughty step it is 1 min for every year of their life. Good luck you must have the patience of a saint i only have 2 and i feel like i could pull my hair out sometimes.
2007-01-05 15:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya
i have got five children of my own under 8 years and also have all the neighbours kids around often as i love them all
basically you just need a few rules and also don't let them see that they have annoyed you
don't let them have sweets/chocolates/crisps or fizzy drinks unless its a real treat.
they learn to behave to get what they want, trust me.
2007-01-01 18:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by rabiyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the icon with the pencil, add details and a box will pop up. Then you can ask the rest that didn't fit.
2007-01-01 16:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Part Time Cynic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you tell me more on your children or email me. i will try and help you the best i can as i work with abused children who have behavioural problems.
2007-01-01 20:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by kjw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every kid is different but it is something in the way you direct rules that are not going enforced.
2007-01-01 18:16:32 · answer #11 · answered by Zanik99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋