This is making me crazy!!! I love two women. I spend the night with one, and the next night, I'm with the other. I do not want to hurt either of them. They are both cluless about eachother. I know one of them will be hurt in the long, or short run. I know that I seem like a bad person to you all, but thats life. Can you help???
2007-01-01 08:11:54 · 8 answers · asked by Voodoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you may need to ask yourself is... DO I really CARE for either of them in the way they deserved to be cared for? Yes..it is possible to love two people at once. But chances are that is because they each give you something the other can not. So therefore...you have to decide...if you are able to live with only one of them..be totally satisfied with her alone...and be able to give her what she needs and deserves. Because right now, it doesn't seem as if any of that is happening. And most importantly...What does your gut/instinct tell you? Your heart may be confused right now...but your gut always knows! Good Luck!
2007-01-01 08:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by MiMi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a good friend wouldn't have made you do that. But a good boyfriend wouldn't make you leave your best friend for him. You should talk with you best friend and forgive her. Make sure that you make her not do anything that you don't want to again (kinda like no peer pressure). If your boyfriend has a problem with the two of you being friends, then he's not a good boyfriend. He would be accepting your decision. When you and your best friend make up, take a break (NOT a break up!) with your boyfriend and see if he accepts the fact that you are best friends with your best friend.
2016-05-23 03:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am glad you are not my man..... get the decsion done and overwith as you are now responsible for taking time away from there lives as that they could have invested in the man of their futures. I say get rid of both as if you cant decide probably neither is the one for you. You are basically enjoying them for pleasure and not for who there really are inside as if you had proper feelings you would know who you wanted to be with. Start over and do it right next time- do you not think you are worthy to have a good one o one relationship- go out and find her. I am still glad that you are not my man!
2007-01-01 08:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by lindasue m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please end it with one of them. Look into your heart and make a decision. My ex told me the same...that he did not want to hurt either one of us. He finally had to make a decision when a baby came along-I found out after the fact. If he had told me sooner, yes, I would have been hurt, but not nearly as much as I am now. He let us go on and on, telling me everything was wonderful and telling me to not be scared (I've been left before as many have and get skittish), and how much he cared about me. He joked once and a while that I would be the one to leave him!
Even after I found out, he wanted to be with me! It has taken a lot of time and even more tears for me to free myself from the painful situation. And, because she found out as well, they have been rocky ever since-even threatening divorce.
Please, if you don't hurt one now, you will hurt both later.
2007-01-01 08:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truely think you need to make a decision. Regardless someone is gonna get hurt not including yourself as well. But wouldn't it be easier now then later? If you let it go to long you'll lose both, do the right thing!
2007-01-01 08:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by invisible.wings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whichever one makes you emotionally stronger is the one you should settle for. If you can't settle for one or the other, you don't deserve either and serve no other purpose in humanity other than being like a human leech.
2007-01-01 08:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking here no one can help you choose becuase no one knows you or your girl friends, after you tell both of them neither one is probably going to want you, so choose the one who still wants to be with you.
2007-01-01 08:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a list of pros and cons about each one. you have to choose or at least tell them. it's not fair to either of them.
2007-01-01 08:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by megansa0811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋