for starters I am gay! ok here is my story, I was in teh reltaionship for 2 years and me and my X broke up around October. Yeah he was the typical jerk, he was mean, he lied, he cheated and he had some other issues as well. In any event, I still loved him through thick and thin, hell and high water. I was always there for him, I was loyal and trust worthy, he was the complete opposite, to the point where I believe he is Bi-polar or suffering from some mental issues. Well like as soon as we broke up 2 or 3 days later I went to his myspace page because he was on my mind and I see him with another guy in his pic with him and it said my love my life, and that broke my heart even more. What am I to do, I felt like he use me for what e could to get from me, and played me soooo dirty but yet and still I can not get over him. I will admit I did love too hard and now it is comming back to haunt me because it ooks like he is not even sad or even missing me at all and I was nothing but good
2007-01-01 08:10:48 · 11 answers · asked by louis_vuitton_don864 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, you got "took for a ride". You already know what happened--your question reveals it. Probably one of the guys he cheated with, he simply decided he liked more than he liked you, or could get more from him than he could get from you, and decided to dump you. When you're dealing with a selfish, cruel, faithless person, it doesn't matter how you behave. They're gonna do what they want. Well, actually, it does matter how you behave: If you allow it, it just makes it easier for them to do what they do.
You already also know that you love too hard, as you said, and it also sounds like you are willing to love when it's not reciprocated. You have to figure out why that is. Why are you willing to get treated like dirt and still almost worship the person?
If you can figure that out, and change it, it might help you get over this guy, because then you'll realize that by getting out of your life, he's done you a favor. You deserve better than that, and until you *realize* that, you're never going to get any better than that, because subconciously, that's what you'll be looking for and that's what'll come to you.
Good luck.
2007-01-01 08:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let me say...I'm sorry, but here are some tips to get over the breakup:
Stage 1: Be Sad About It
Okay, you're allowed to whine, complain, cry, or whatever over this dude for no longer than 2 days. Break out the ice cream! Break out the movies!! Break out the tissues!!! Then, move on
Stage 2: Moving On
Make a list of good qualities that you would want in a guy, and then make a list that ur ex had. In addition to that, make a list of bad qualities your ex had.
Stage 3: Moving On (Some More)
This is my favorite part...here you would look in the mirror, and curse him out like he was there!!
Stage 4: Moving On (Even More)
Hang with your friends, it makes things better...Go out, have some fun! Party!!! Go see a good movie (Dreamgirls was good)
Stage 5: Have You Really Moved On??
You'll know if you moved on when you can go through a whole day, without thinking about him, or even going to his myspace page.
2007-01-01 08:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Hinata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have did it to make you jealous. If your seeking revenge, I'm no longer telling people how to get it. You have a right to feel used and I know it hurts, but you need to find someone else and hope it hurts his feelings when he sees your not alone. At the least, when you do see him in real life, don't let him see you down. If he's mean like you say, and you put up with him for awhile, there's not too many other people who will deal with that. My point is that eventually he will come back and this is when you don't talk to him or give him any hope at all. Then he will hurt. You go and find yourself someone else and forget him. I felt like that about someone once, and it hurt. Only time will heal it.
2007-01-01 08:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that you are who you are. And it sounds like a very genuine and loving individual. He did to you what he is going to do to each and every individual he deals with. That is who he is, and be very aware, what goes around comes around. We all will reap what we sow in this world. No exceptions. His behaviors have more to do with who he is and less to do with who you are. You just keep being the person God has created you to be, he will send you someone better suited for you, with the same ideas, morals, and values in regards to a relationship. Look at it this way, better you found out now rather than waste an entire lifetime with him. And now that he is out of the picture the real person can come along. Give yourself time to heal, the end of a relationship is much like a death. Grieve and move on. It is not the end of the world, just the end of a very painful and fulfilling relationship. I wish you the best, good luck and God bless****
2007-01-01 08:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im sorry but it kinda sounds like you 2 wont be together again. i mean theres a chance but pretty much teh same thing happend to me except with my girlfriend. im not gay or bi. it is possible that he might be bi-polar i know a few people that are and they can seem like the nicest people at first but in a second they can turn angry or really depressed. dont worry man theres somebody out there for everybody. youll find anouther boyfriend and maybe he will be the 1 you spend the rest of your life with
2007-01-01 08:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww. I can extremely relate. I had a boyfriend and we've been broken up also for almost a year and I still love him very much. And miss him alot and he has another girl in his life now and tells her he loves her. breaks my heart also.
If this guy told you he loved you, and stayed with you for THAT long, you OBVIOUSLY meant more to him than he's making you believe. NOBODY stays with someone for 2 years that they didnt love and didnt care about. this new guy you say...its only been a couple days and he says he loves somebody else? yeah right. no he doesnt. it takes at LEAST a couple of months to get to know somebody and learn to love them. Since its only been a couple days, hes trying his hardest to avoid you and move on as quickly as possible. Hes telling this other guy he loved him so he can get into his pants. Hes probably just trying to shove it in ur face cuz he knows you'll look at his myspace.
take my word and delete your myspace!! I had one too and all i did was look at my ex boyfriends page and his new girlfriends page and watched them be happy together in their pictures. deleting your myspace takes you away from looking at all of that. i promise it will help!
My advice is to let him go. it will be hard, i know all about it. But if this guy really cares about you, he will want ur friendship. If you avoid him for now and try to show your happy, he will see that and want at LEAST your friendship back!
goodluck!
loves
2007-01-01 08:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by luv2dance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's ruff, sorry that you are being put throw that. i know how it feel, i've had it done to me one to may times and its not easy getting over it. the best thing to do is to find things to do that will keep your mind occupied so that you don't think of him. don't talk to him, make yourself unavailable to him if he should call you or try to see you. try to meet new people and before for know it you'll have a new love interest. take care of yourself because if you don't no one else will and obviously he isn't worried about you. move on sweetie you are worth much more then that and you don't deserve to be treated that way. its hard to find a person with a good heart and he should consider himself luck that he had you in his life......good luck and take care.
2007-01-01 08:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say how sorry I am for your pain, sounds like you are out weighing the good times with the bad times, you must let this guy go, you deserve much more out of life, you sound like a very good person and you deserve a better life and he wasnt giving you that. it hard but you must let him go. Him putting that picture on my space was heartless. (time only heals a broken heart), good luck to you, believe me you will find the right person or soul mate in time.....
2007-01-01 08:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im not a girl. But i know what you mean. I dated a girl for 3 1/2 years, joined the army. She broke up with me THE DAY BEFORE i got deployed to Iraq for 18 months. I would be more than glad to talk to you if you dont mind
2016-05-23 03:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a chic
2007-01-01 08:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋