My friend says he really likes me, but I am not interested. I've tried to be direct, I've even tried the silent treatment, but he still persists. I've told him that he makes me uncomfortable and angry and this kind of behavior is going to ruin a good friendship. But he doesn't seem to get it.
2007-01-01 07:59:50 · 20 answers · asked by shaigrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From the sounds of it, this guy is what i like to call a WUSSIE! He's a needy, insecure, manipulating BOY.
I bet he is soo nice to you, always doing you favours, kissing your ar$e (yes i said ar$e, i'm english). He thinks by being that way you will feel attraction for him, and because your not (and i don't blame you) he wants you even more. Its like the saying "you always want what you can't have". He needs to learn the hard way, you have to shut him down, don't answer his calls, don't spend any time with him, and get a friend to talk to him. This guy is a manipulator, he uses the nice behavior to try and MAKE you feel something which you just can't feel for him. Don't take his acts of kindness as genuine, it's his way of having control over you. I bet he is even pushy when you hesitate to take something he offers or when he compliments you, and he is pushy for you to accept. He's basically trying to trade his favours for your love, which isn't a fair trade as it's in his favour. Don't trust this guy! IF (and thats a sunlight blocking IF) he manages to be accepted by a woman in a relationship, he will start wanting to know where she is, who she is with, who she talks to, and then takes total control over her life.
RUN!!! SAVE YOURSELF!!! lol Good luck!
Happy New Year!
2007-01-01 08:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by SiriuS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in danger! His behavior is going to get worse. If you don't believe that go on line and look up the signs for domestic violence. All of your signs are there. Talk to your family or close friend and let them know what is happening. Arrange an open meeting w/ your x while they are present. Tell him again in front of them IT IS OVER. He's going to play the emotional role. I'm sorry; he may cry. Tell him again It is over. Tell him not to call, come by accidentally, no contact whatsoever or you will go to the cops. Understand it does not stop at hitting. You need help you can't do this alone.
2007-01-01 08:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by kymkim1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice is to give up the friendship. Because if you don't he'll always be trying to get with you. If you if told him point blank and he still hasn't got the message whats the big deal. Let's face it. This guy likes you, you don't care for him like that but because you are friends that means you will be around him then you will have to tolarate this pest. Drop the friendship for your own peace...
2007-01-01 08:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by mitteycole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just think you are playing hard to get with him, a lot of guys just don't really understand when you say no. Believe me I know how it feels, and if you really want to get it through to him maybe you should try not being so direct. That may sound crazy at first but I had a similiar problem not to long ago and instead of talking to him myself I talked to a friend first and she was upfront with him and told him what I was feeling. He may just need to hear it from someone else who he knows you trust and that is close to you before he realizes what a fool he is making of himsely. Good luck with that :)
2007-01-01 08:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have told him that he is ruining the friendship between you two with his immature and ignorant behaviour, and he hasn't seemed to care. Now show him that you were serious. Don't talk to him, don't accept phone calls from him, don't answer emails, etc. etc. When he asks you why, tell him you have ended the friendship because it meant so little to him that he couldn't be bothered to act like a friend when you asked him to stop acting like a moron.
2007-01-01 08:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years previous = Gr 3 suitable ? I bear in mind whilst i became in Gr. 3 i became working around asserting stupid stuff , beating different toddlers up. I additionally had a sprint brother bypass away whilst i became 5. yet on no account ever I stated stupid stuff to my mom, the clarification it is as a results of the fact i'm East Indian and if I did even say something on the brink of a swear be conscious or some subject equivalent to a swear be conscious i might have have been given slap, A slap beat down lol hahaha. yet I additionally had this different pal who became Caucasian in gr.3, me and him use to do stupid stuff at college, yell out undesirable issues. He reminds me of your toddler. He became relatively spoiled and he use to assert propose issues to is mom and merely wreck out with it, If I stated stuff like too my mom i might are starting to be some extreme beats. i think of thats the version , thats why Indian toddlers stay in line and don't disrespect their mum and dad as plenty. Heres a catalogue of issues i think of you ought to do a million. supply him a spanking here and there, if he gets too uncontrolled( I have been given spankings I became out suitable , i did no longer become some serial killer because of the fact I have been given some spankings , like they tutor on television lol. ) 2. confer with him, tell him, attempt to describe to him your discomfort , your thoughts , what are you feeling. isn't youthful to comprehend,i became that age as quickly as and that i understood from incorrect and suitable. 3. tutor him your struggles , 4. attempt molding him, do merely no longer supply him a punishment and thats it. tell him why he's getting punished , tutor him that what he did harm you , and tutor him how he can extra helpful himself. bear in mind a spanking or 2 does not harm everybody.
2016-11-25 20:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happens to me ALL the time it usually doesnt ruin any friendships but it does sometimes make me feel uncomfortable around them but at least i dont lose a wonderful frienship in the process
i know i havent answered ur ? yet but hang in their maybe he'll just get over himself
2007-01-01 08:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by cheerchic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he cannot take a hint or even a direct response, you are going to have to cut off all communication with him. He can't accept "No" for an answer.
2007-01-01 08:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try avoiding him. If he still stalks and/or harasses you take it to the next level. If you have brothers ask them to pay him a little visit and explain it to them. No violence just talk. If that doesn't work, call the cops.
2007-01-01 08:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Yea Yea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
---Well if I were you I would tell him
----"(He's name) I have told you & told you again I am not interested in you, not that way anyways...I'm real sorry but your leaving me with no choice...either you quit acting this way & telling me all of this you & I can't hang out anymore until you truly understand how this is effecting me & our friendship..."
Tell him something like that....
I honestly believe this is the only good choice you have in such a situation....
Good luck
2007-01-01 08:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋