I know that some people are religius and have pre maritial physical relations. If that is you do you feel it is okay and acceptable. I am in a situation where I choose to either continue having a relations with my boyfriend or follow my religion. My religion calls for celibacy for unmarried couples for up to 1 yr only. My bf tells me that he is not able to do this. Should I conceal our physical relationship?
2007-01-01 07:58:37 · 25 answers · asked by Kitty 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The fact is that by asking this question you show you have a conscience.
If your religion teaches you one thing and you do another, you might get away with hiding this from you parents, friends, church but you couldn't hide it from God and you can't hide from your own conscience which will bother you because you obviously believe what you have been taught. So ask yourself, would living a double life be worth it? OR if you don't care why keep it a secret. In the end, I am in complete agreement with the answerer who said that if your BF cared for you he'd wait. Do you really want to be with someone who is pressuring you into violating a belief that is so important to you? I don't know how old you are but do you think he's going to be your boyfriend a year from now. Two years from now? And then how will you feel about your decision?
2007-01-01 08:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Q&A Queen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a good time for the both of you to discern the meaning of the word "Love".
Eros Love = the physical sensual side of love.
Philia Love = the love between family members.
Agape Love = The Love that will die for another.
Where are you in your relationship? In America many are taught only the first type of love relationships. Instant gratification, release, physical response without the commitment, heart, or soul of the action. The second is the love between parent and child, brother and sister, etc... The last type of relational love is this true love of agape love. The man should aspire and in fact is commanded in the bible to love his wife greater that his own body or life. THIS is agape love. Where is your bf?
Remind him that not one recorded incident has occurred in history that a man has died remaining celibate until marriage. Physically, it is not the extreme, although he will cry like it is!
Stay firm. You deserve better, and if he can wait, you will be worth it!
God Bless.
2007-01-01 08:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lives7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by religious. Some may disagree, but I believe you can be religious and sin. If fornication (pre-marital sex) is a sin according to your beliefs (which it is according to the Christian Bible), then your actions would be disobedient, sinful, rebellious, and irreverent. As far as I am aware, all Christian religions teach that you should avoid sin as it brings heartache, sorrow, remorse, and deprives you of additional blessings. However, a person's spirituality and level of religiousness, although it is manifested outwardly through your actions, is a rather personal and inward attribute. Consider the adulterous Samaratin woman Jesus spoke with at the well who wholeheartedly believed He was Christ. You can be a sinner and a believer. However, this does not condone sin. Although you can choose your actions, you can not always choose your consequences. Although not part of the question, I would suggest waiting till marriage.
2007-01-01 08:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by neil_ritz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly possible to be religious and still have physical relations! If you want to; simply do it then ignore the part of the religion which is telling you to do so. This simple formula has been used by individuals throughout history to deal with a religious paradox. For example the Christian Crusades; the pope commands that the holy land must be liberated from heathen Muslims. The commandment 'thou shalt not kill' goes out the window. Loads of people die.
2007-01-01 08:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Gez H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nikah is something which is done only with the approval of the mosque and top people there. He is not circumsized means, he is not converted. How can it happend if he is still a christian? even if he had done it, it is illegal. If you dont want divorce,then it is better not to threaten him and make him angry. Slowly get to know what he is expectign from you ...i mean adjustment or break up.........Do u have children? let them stick on ur side. I don't talking to him would do something good , since he is having a person to brainwash him. Give him peace and let him think abt it. give him adequate mental and physical pleasure. drag him to ur side. let see what happends next. post another question after knowing him.
2016-03-29 03:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any religion which forbids physical relations between loving couples is a false one, preaching against nature and the continuation of man. I advise giving your religion a miss and carry on doing what you are programmed to do.
2007-01-01 08:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you either follow your religion or not. If you "cheat" and do it anyway then which is the greater sin? Your BF should respect your situation and not force you into making a choice.
2007-01-01 08:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if that is your religion and your belief and you feel strong about it, then don't have sex. if he loves you he will respect your wishes. but if you make up your mind that you're going to have sex, consider a few facts before doing so:
how long have you been dating
is it serious enough to take it to the next level
is marriage for-seen in your future
if you answer no to these questions, seriously...prevent the preventable!
2007-01-01 08:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most religfions actively ENCOURAGE physical relationships....within marriage.
The argument for celibacy is that if something is SO special (and, after all, if God invented sex then it opught to be special) then it is worth waiting for the best time to explore it.
If you feel guilty or unsure about anything, the chances are that it is not right for YOU.
2007-01-01 08:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by alan h 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Read your 360 and profile info - in response to those - No, I will not be giving up sex! Why?! I don't think you want to either from the sounds of it. You say that you were your bf's first, so of course he is going to hunger for it! If you decide to keep it a secret and stay with him - keep an account of how many times you sin, keep a tally and send me that to me - I'll be your confessor! Lol! I am being serious. (email me) Good luck
2007-01-01 08:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋