so i wrote my "girl" a letter regarding how i felt about our relationship. nothing bad, just the way i felt about me going out of the way, & how my friends do more for me than her. how everytime i want to go to and hang with her, she comes up with some excuse why not. yet turns around, & does something with her cousins, friends etc... so i was right to the point, & i have asked questions before about her on yahoo answers with an overwhelming response of "im getting played, & to move on" i also expressed concern with her saying its my fault that she failed her college classes this term. so my other women friends have more than her in their college classes, & passed fine. so when i brought that up with everything else...my response was ALL about her college & homelife, etc. with only 3 lines about us. she wrote a novel, & it had nothing to do with us, so i am thinking of just pulling the plug. am i out of line? i just dont think she has the time for us anymore, & i get the blame 4 school
2007-01-01 07:51:35 · 10 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea..its not worth it. she seems dramatic (im sure ur laughing becasue yea, most girls -including me- are dramatic..but n her case, i mean overly dramatic). maybe shes just stressed out about school and life in general and takes it out on you. id say give her her space and let her figure herself out. you have done what you can...told her your feelings...and it isnt enough for her. its 2007..what a perfect time to cut the crap outta ur life and leave 2006 and its BS in the past!!
2007-01-01 07:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your information, not the question.
Well ultimately we are responsible for our own action and behavior- in both great successes or horrible failures.
I can honestly say, when you get an award you thank everyone who shared that success with us. So I would also believe that in failure we are not alone either. Consider some of the valid points if you love her.
A person you have a relationship with (our mate) is part of you- two halves to become one whole. If one failed so do you both and visa verse from a simple card game to loosing a house in foreclosure. So one semester in college is a issue, of course.
My concern lies more with your action- a letter is really impersonal and actually quite rude. If you have concerns and are demanding a "change" in the relationship. It is your responsibility as a mature person in a relationship to have an open discussion regarding it, not a written debate.
ONLY by the way you address "her" and the manner in which you handle and communicate with "her". It is crystal clear to an outsider that you don't love "her". We handle things we love, tenderly and with compassion, understanding and acceptance.
Maybe a good New Year's Resolution and adaption to life from this point onward would be to address personal matters more personally. "we" the people are not in your heart, and should not make such choices for you.
Perhaps this is fresh start and you can release this relationship so you both can find the correct person to support another to reach your own personal agenda's or goals. Life is too short not to make an investment with friends and relationships.
Don't waste time, if its not working- Bless it and gracefully move on.
Best wishes to you both.
2007-01-01 08:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let her go to me and her failing the classes had little to do with you being supportive she can do it because she is a good person and you sound like one too. Enjoy friendship but allow true love to come together.
2007-01-01 07:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying over spilled milk..........she is selfish and only cares about herself. Move on, stop wasting your energy on her. You deserve someone better. Better yet, hang with your friends for awhile and don't date . Give yourself some time. Enjoy life.
2007-01-01 07:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should have done that long ago. u deserve better than a stupid girl who dosent just gives u time but blames u. move on and find someone who actully cares for u.
2007-01-01 07:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by no longer caligirl. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She failed her courses herself. Unless you kidnapped her studying time, she failed herself. If I were you- find somebody else who WANTS to be with you.
2007-01-01 07:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her, for your own good. The only reason she has not dumped you is probably you pay for stuff. Being played yo!
2007-01-01 07:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by tarzan428 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it seems like you two just don't fit together, you need time apart. Maybe not permanently, just until she gets things together.
2007-01-01 07:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Laureneliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too nice or you just like the drama. who cares now....go ahead and move on.
2007-01-01 07:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah GB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No more crap!...run, run for your life & good luck.
2007-01-01 07:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋