im so depresed?

Question

i have a wonderful friend who i care for dearly. but i think the feelings i have are stronger then just friends.

i have two problems i really would like answered as they are killing me inside:

1) i feel my friend used to fancy me but i didnt realise untill she had gone off me.i knew i had liked her all along but because we got on so well i didnt know what to do. i feel that it is my fault that this happened. But doesnt everything happen for a reason?? maybe if we went out we wouldnt be together now and hence not be friends. but knowing i could of had her and cannot now is killing me

2) secondly i feel that we are not as good of friends as we used to be. she never txt's me anymore and doesnt seem to interested in what i say. how can we be good friends again??

finally, i have had quite a few crushes in my life and im only 15 but my felings for this girl will not go away. i have felt this way for months.

please help me with my two questions

And A Happy New Year To All

Answer 1

You are so young. You shouldn't take these kinds of things so seriously. Just try and have fun!!
I really think you should tell her how you feel. Call her up or text her and ask her to go get coffee or something with you. Ask her to hang out more. Make an effort to see her more and when the feeling is right, tell her how you feel.

Answer 2

Question 1: Does everything happen for a reason? Yes, the Bible clearly states that. Will we know what those reasons are while on earth? No, we can't know God's mind and we don't see the big picture, God does.

Question 2: How can we be good friends again? All you can do is be kind, ask her to hang out or to see a movie or have a coke you and a few others.

As to the questions you didn't ask: There is a reason that kids and teens shouldn't date and you have found one of them. Dating should be saved for adults or at least sixteen and older. A person needs the maturity to handle their feelings with wisdom. (This doesn't mean all older people have a lot of wisdom and don't make mistakes. We do!) Teens should focus on their studies, getting into a good college, getting a good job, and then on spending time on girlfriends.

Depression can be a serious problem. If you continue to feel plagued by it you should speak to your folks and maybe your doctor.

Answer 3

Maybe she feels the same way you do and is now also depressed, thinking that you don't like her. I've had women in the past go quiet on me all of a sudden because they fancy me and it bothers them that I don't seem to feel the same way. I've also acted this way before when I've fancied a girl who hasn't seemed interested.

Might be an idea to tell her how you feel, at worst you'll be depressed because she doesn't feel the same, but at least you will have a real answer and can move on.

If you tell her and it turns out she does like you then it'll be a bonus.

Answer 4

So you have a special friend. You are only 15. Friends are important. If the two of you can become good friends again- that's great. But you are very young, and right now- your studies are more important. You will have friends and acquaintances throughout your whole life- people come and people go. But we need to remember to keep our eye on what's important. Doing well in school, getting good grades, going to college, and getting a great job. Then you will have your pick of many opportunities!

Answer 5

Don't get depressed, after all you are 15 and have your whole life ahead of you. Maybe you and her need to have a chat, she might not be talking to you much because she thinks you don't fancy her. It's not your fault, sometimes it's hard to show people how you feel, and she might not be able to tell you her feelings either. It's all part of growing up, but it is never perfect or simple, however old you are.

Answer 6

I went through a similar situation, my old best friend was gay, i had a feeling that she fancied me, but she was very shy and wouldnt show it. she met a girl on the internet and within months moved down to her and i havent heard from her now since '99.

The best thing for you to do is to try and move on with your life, it will be hard and if your friend needs you she will call.

Answer 7

get over it. im only 13 i see this as a huge mistake. its not the end of the world. move along dont stick with the past. go look for some new friends.

Answer 8

You are over complicating things... Just let her know how you feel. If she doesn't want to be friends with you because you expressed yourself, then she is not worth being friends with.
My brother was huge on this friend of ours... She had a rule that she wouldn't date friends. She knew how he felt, but was still friends with my bro, she just wouldn't date him.
CyberNara

Answer 9

you are only 15 and you have a long life to live. trust me, im going trough this whole drpression thing to and i no its not great im geting better by taking time and sloeing down with my life...and i no its had even when there is no one to talk to...well if you need to talk to someone get me a email estracha@yahoo
dont cut your self

Answer 10

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