Some people have this thing that they don't want someone who shows interest in them. I'm not talking about clinginess either, just showing interest mildly is a turn-off, and they have to go after people that have no interest whatsoever.
This seems horribly wrong. I can understand not being interested in an ugly person, but not being interested in someone because they're interested in you?
I have the opposite rule. If a woman is interested in me, she's going to at least get more of a shot than disinterested woman #2. And the result is that I get more passionate, less one-sided relationships.
but perhaps I'm missing something. What do others think?
2007-01-01 07:42:53 · 11 answers · asked by electroberry1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's the approach of the person showing interest... not the interest itself. You know yourself that if someone WANTS something from you, you are wary of them. It's the same thing with women... if it's obvious, and the approach is wrong, it warns her off. After all, guys who are hustling and bad BF material are the ones who are more overtly interested and affectionate... they get what they can quickly and move on. Who wouldn't b e wary
2007-01-01 07:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by skipdip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're free to do anything you like, at the risk of being fired for doing so, and thought of as an asshat in many scenarios in life. Go for it, film it, post it on YouTube so I can also laugh at you <3 hahaha Same as women. If women want to get ahead, you walk a not so fine line between beautiful and feminine, and too sexy. Remember the show Ally McBeal? The short skirts...it's just not something you do unless you're already extremely established and can actually do pretty much anything you like *or* are on a TV show. Otherwise, you're setting yourself up to fail. Dave Chappelle's "Just because I'm dressed this way does NOT mean I'm a ho!" -- "That's absolutely right, it doesn't. But you're sure as hell wearing the Ho's Uniform!" ... perfect. I gotta YouTube the whole bit one time, compares it to wearing a cop uniform and then being indignant when someone says, "Help me, officer!" -- "Just because I'm dressed this way does NOT mean I'm a police officer!" It's funnier when he says it =o/ Anyhow, beyond professional, do what you like is how I see it. I dress like a wh*re when we go to parties. It's fun to do, we both enjoy it, even single I enjoyed it, but I didn't expect to meet the love of my life that way. Realistically, I did it knowing what the outcome would be and what impression it would give. I was obviously fine with that, or I would've worn something else.
2016-03-29 03:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married now, but when I was single, the manner in which someone showed interest made a big difference. In other words, how and when. If someone was a flirt, as in, with *every* woman, I was repulsed. If someone who didn't know me came on to me, I would tend to assume that they approach women regularly based on looks. On the other hand, if a guy befriended me first, and THEN showed an interest in me, it didn't guarantee that I would be interested, but it certainly increased the chances of it. Also, confidence is attractive, but being arrogant or crass is not.
2007-01-01 07:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I am married, I have a different perspective. My wife is the only women in my life that has shown the least bit of interest in me, but that having been said, if some other women did now show interest, I would first twirl my wedding ring in front of her and if she persisted just explain flat out that she is doubtlessly an extremely attractive women but I can love no-one but my dear wife. I would feel sad about rejecting her as I know how that feels all to well.
2007-01-01 07:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by THe VaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people always want what they can't have.... and they sometimes also want to feel "victorious" when they have gotten what they wanted but didn't think they could have.... Either way, it's a vicious circle because once they get what they didn't think they could have, they don't want that anymore. And some people just don't feel deep inside that they are worthy of the interest people show in them.... Life is complicated and we humans make it even more so....
2007-01-01 07:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Groucho- never wanting to be a member of any club who would have him as a member. If you have a poor opinion of yourself and someone shows interest in you how much can you really trust that person's judgement when you question his taste. Another aspect can be the cat and mouse games that goes too far and pretty soon you are running but no one is chasing you anymore.
2007-01-01 07:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by squirrelbabygirl7 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have always that it is flattering if someone showed interest in me, even if I was not interested in them.
But being repelled by someone who shows interest, I have not a clue really why someone would be repelled, well, other than being controlling...or wanting a challenge if someone else does not show interest...Then these women wonder why thier relationships do not workout.
2007-01-01 07:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that does the same thing. He rejected 2 hot girls that were interested in him, simply because they were interested. He told me he was making out with this nice looking girl and got turned off because she said she was attracted to her.
And then he goes to presue not so hot girls who show him no interest. Strange world. I guess he likes the challenge.
2007-01-01 07:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by tarzan428 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am typically NOT attracted to or interested in women who show interest in me. I have to go after them or I am not into their presence.
2007-01-01 07:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when someone shows intrusts in you its good but if it was alot you will hate it just like me well i like it but sometimes
i wish u get it
2007-01-01 07:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Maral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋