In your eyes, If you daughter(16) went to second base with her b/f when you weren't home would you let it slide as nothing??
2007-01-01 07:30:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Why make such a big deal out of it?? I am on the pill. She didn't care when my bro had sex at 16 but freaks when I even kiss a guy.
2007-01-01 07:34:56 · update #1
She was at work and my dad was on buisness in london. Why is it she is harder on me??
2007-01-01 07:36:39 · update #2
Second base:copping a feel
2007-01-01 07:37:51 · update #3
I would confront her and definitly if you haven't already- have "the talk" with her. Explain to her that what she is doing isn't wrong but that she needs to know when to draw the line and how far is too far.
2007-01-01 07:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by swanseaemtgirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're on birth control? Good for you! No, I don't believe it's a big deal but I also think you should avoid getting caught by Mom & Dad just as a show of respect. Take things slowly with the bf too - I waited until I was in love for a year to have sex and thus didn't go there until I was in college - and I am, 14 years later, so glad I waited because it was well worth it to be with someone I already loved emotionally and spiritually as well.
Try to understand that your parents are worried about you because you are and forever will be their "little girl". There is an unfair standard, especially since boys can get the girls of other families pregnant, but I think it becomes almost impossible for many parents to feel that way when they experience it. I would not, as a parent, let it 'slide as nothing' - I would talk to my daughter about the boyfriend, if she is sure she's ready to get physical, if it is worth not doing so. Many guys will literally say and do anything to sleep with a girl because their hormones outrun their sanity sometimes. Your boyfriend should be aware that in order to gain your trust, you need to move slowly. Remember - being on birth control does not mean you should have sex, it means you are emotionally mature. Prove that to your Mom & Dad by waiting until you are absolutely positive this is the one for you. If he truly loves you, your boyfriend will wait. If he attempts to convince you against your wishes, you may want to reconsider whether or not he is the 'right' one.
All the best!
2007-01-01 07:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't let it slide as nothing. It's too bad she didn't do anything about your brother having sex at a young age, and maybe she realized her mistake and is trying to do better by you. You may be on the Pill, but that doesn't mean you have to have sex. Sex, especially for a young person, is something that you often can't deal with. It brings on all sorts of adult emotions that you may not be able to handle. If you go to your mom w/ the honest intentions of trying to talk reasonably about it with her, you might be surprised at her reaction. The more you talk to your mom about this, the better off you're going to be. IF you do end up having sex, and I really hope you don't until you're much older, you'll have that avenue of communication and trust opened up with your mom. Please value yourself however, and refrain from having sex until you're older.
2007-01-01 08:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would have a long serious talk with my daughter about the dangers of uninformed sex. If she didn't know about pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and the fact that boys will say absolutely anything to have sex then I would school her about all of that, but most importantly I would tell her how having sex and finding out you were used is a terrible feeling. It would make her feel little better than a warm piece of meat the boy used to masturbate against - that if it's real love the boy will wait.
2007-01-01 07:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness that's all they did at 16!! Boys shouldn't be allowed in the house when you are not home. How did you find this info out if u were not home? I would definitely talk with her.
2007-01-01 07:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by NIKIPASS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably because she doesnt want you to make the same mistaked ur bro did.....and she probably doesnt want you to get pregnant at an early age(not sayin you will). but that is prolly why.
my sister went out and got pregnant at the age of 15....then my other sis got pregnant at 16 then lost the baby.... and i am 14 and my mom wont even let me date or anything!
but it is ok i need to focus on my skool work and my life.
2007-01-01 08:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by ReyMysterio_Fan619 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not a chance of letting it slide but hopefully my daughter will make better choices.
2007-01-01 07:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info!
How old is she and he? 16-17? Be glad it was third or more.
13-14? probably need t talk to THEM!
But there need to be more info on circumstances etc.
2007-01-01 07:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no she is getting to the age where she wants to experince and befor u know it she could be having sex and may end up preg so don't ingore it talk to her and if you feel if it is nessicary put her on birth conrtol
2007-01-01 07:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by hellokitty_19_2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is your definition of second base and what are the house rules?
2007-01-01 07:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋