Our relationship wasnt one of those stupid shallow high school relationships, we really really cared about eachother and we've gone through SO much together. I don't understand why she wants a break. We have loved eachother for a very long time, 4 years we've been dating, hell we liked eachother since grade 5 and we are both now 18. I know you're going to say that we are young but that is not it at all, we had something very special, we would do anything for eachother. We've travelled together, we have all the memories in the world together. We continually told eachother that we love eachother and that we were right for eachother. She had told me alot off stuff about herself that she hadn't told anyone else, and we could openly share our feelings. She means more to me than anything else, I have even felt suicidal sometimes and it just happened yesterday. I am a complete utter wreck, I cannot function properly with out her by my side. So what I don't understand is why she wants this?
2007-01-01 07:22:34 · 11 answers · asked by Drew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because the stupid message only gave me 1000 characters I'll continue here. So I don't know what to do, I've read many people who have the same problem but I don't want to wait I want her now, she even said that the feelings were gone but later called me and said that she just said that so I wouldn't call her. I know that she wouldn't just throw our relationship away. I honestly wanna know why she feels like this, because it makes me so sad and all I want is her back. I have no more motivation in doing anything, I sit on my chair listening to music that we liked. And everything I do, or say, or see, makes me think about her! I am just overwhelmed with this change that she wants. She says that she doesn't want to lose me and that she still loves me but she just wants a break. I don't know whether to believe her or not as much as I want to I just hope that this strengthens our relationship more than anything. The things she's said to me will hurt me for the rest of my life if not true.
2007-01-01 07:28:19 · update #1
That's the thing I do not want anyone else, I don't believe that there is anyone else for me, I'm not interested, she is perfect for me in every single way.
2007-01-01 08:23:39 · update #2
find another gf.Or make her jealous by dating another gf.
2007-01-01 08:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel that you are in emotional pain and a lot of emotional stress. I do not know why she wants a break because I am not inside of her brain. Have you asked her? Give her some time. Let her miss you and let her understand what you represent for her. A lot of relationships go trough the same problems. Even married couples that have been together for a long time have the same problems. It is not age. Sometimes people grow apart too. That happens. What I can tell is to give her some space, let her think a little bit about you and the relationship, and also the consequences of not having the relationship. Because if you stop loving her, she won't have you anymore. Sometimes the fear of loss is very powerful to make people understand how important others are. Have heard of the saying you only appreciate when you don't have it anymore. She is definitely secure about your feelings. Stop calling her. Disappear for some weeks. She will be back.
2007-01-01 09:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like that sometimes happen without any obvious reason.
It has happened also to me, after so many years of relationship I simply felt like in prison. Yo know, you meet each other being very young and don´t really lived all these teenager experiences as other 16/17 years old do... so you reach a point when you say to yourself: Has this been all?? What happened to my life?? There are so many things to explore... and I never had the chance to do so...
Although it´s stupid, but many young people who started their relationship being really very young reach this point.
All I can say to you is: Give her time!! Don´t press her. Although you are feeling very sad and heartbroken, don´t rush her. Just let her alone some time, she has to have this time on her own to think about her life and see some friends and have some life without you... sounds hard, but sometimes we simply have to see what life would be without our partner. It´s just one step more to adult life.
I´m sure she will come back to you. As you already said, she does love you. All she needs is a rest, that´s all.
2007-01-01 21:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look leave her
she is not worth u
u desrve some one better
and dont feel so bad
this is life
take it as a gift from god
and see u r a man and behave like one
just coz of a gal u cant feel like a dead body
i think u should ask her the problem
other wise just throw her out of u r life
this all is for u r benifit
good luck
2007-01-04 21:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by soniya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear this, and i can relate to this alot but the only thing i can think of is to "wait", like someone once said "if he comes back, hes all yours... if he doesnt, he never was" and if you trully love eachother then im sure this will only be a distant memory once youre back together. i wish you the best of luck. my case didnt have a happy ending, so good luck.
2007-01-01 12:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by assesina989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with bbluckylove. I know it'll be hard for you, ignore her until she starts talking to you. Make her miss you and she'll return to you.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-02 10:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by haseen_gudiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry but you need to let her go she is over you and you over her you no it so do i move one with your life cry if you what to but don't let her stop you from following you dreams
2007-01-01 11:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by A P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is that she's may be dating someone else.
2007-01-01 12:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Megan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say just thank for her be in your life journey remebering about her significance
2007-01-04 20:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by vande_matram27011987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry babe. maybe she wants to try new things... reallly whatever her reason you cant stop her. it will get better. and if you need to talk message me. it will all get better
2007-01-01 11:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋