2007-01-01 07:20:40 · 24 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you care for you.
2007-01-01 07:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Illusive One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you must be hot, this should help you :)
Create a list of qualities you want in a Dream Guy, and expect to get about half on any date you go on. For example, a list may say "He Must: 1) Work on or have a higher education, 2) Have a job, 3) Have a car, 4) Treat his family with respect, 5) Refrain from drug use." Choose traits and qualities that are important to you as this list will be a tool to better understand who you're dating.
After you create this list, open up the door! Tell any and every guy that is interested in you that you are willing to date them, but they must understand that they are not the only one you're dating. This means there should be no jealousy, and no one gets hurt in the process.
Schedule dates with each of the men, and keep a mental list of those qualities running in your head during the date. When you get home, check off the qualities you saw displayed, and write the gentleman's initials next to the mark so you know which one displayed that particular quality.
Continue dating and complete this process for however long you feel you need. Things may take a lot longer than you think, and the relationship may take turns you never saw coming. This step-by-step is just a spring board for you to get out and on the hunt. When you feel ready for a committed relationship, look over the list and see who has the most qualities you wanted.
When you find the two best men, think over what qualities you wanted that they might not have, and decide if you can handle the fact that they don't have those qualities. Can you handle the fact they don't have a car? Can you handle the annoying things he does during dinner, like talk with his mouth full, slurp when he drinks, or talk too much? If yes, then don't rule them out. Then think about how they make you feel when you're around them. If conversation and that "spark" aren't there then obviously it's not right for you. If they are, then perfect.
Search your heart, and make a choice, letting everyone else know that you are no longer in the market, at least not for a while. Explain to them that although you like them as a friend, and enjoyed the dates, you're just not interested in a relationship with them.
Schedule a final date with the number one guy, and discuss with him how you feel and what your intentions for the relationship in the future are, and ask him if this relationship is going to go further. Talk with him about where you want it to go, and where he sees it going, and if he truly is the one, then be willing to wait a reasonable amount of time.
2007-01-01 07:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by Boss 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are in school, then you don't need to pick anyone. You need to focus on your school work. Men will always be there, but you only have one shot at school.
Date the ones that seem nice, but what do you need a boyfriend for. Maybe you will find someone special, but don't make that the entire focus of your life. Good luck.
2007-01-01 07:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of flute player 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who will treat you the best. Observe how he treats his friends and how he talks about women. Choose someone who is kind, caring, funny, smart, sensitive and self-confident. It may take some experimenting so I suggest you not make any commitments and just date a few of them to see which is best. There's no reason you can't have more than one boyfriend as long as you only dating. Enjoy the attention while you have it!
2007-01-01 07:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by THe VaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to choose one that you are comfortable with. If there is anyone worth while that is vying for your attention, you will feel an attraction to him. Most young men are only after one thing, so you need to take a relationship slow. If he really cares for you, he will not mind waiting. If there is one characteristic that a man possesses and you are uncomfortable with it, ask yourself if you can live with that quality, because it will not go away, it will probably get worse. Listen to your head, not always with your heart.
2007-01-01 07:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by Gary S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not pick any of them. Date the ones who respect you as a person.
2007-01-01 07:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every guy in your school wants to be your boyfriend, guys in school are still idiots and they still don't know what they want. But to help you with your dilemma
look at these things
1.intelligence
2.responsibility
3.personality
4.friends
5.looks.
if he is cute,hot,hunk..w/e and an idiot...NO No!
if he is moderately your type and is at least higher than normal....go for it.
if he loves his family he will love you, gets along with your friends he will get along with you
he respects you, you will respect him.......good luck in your picking.
2007-01-01 07:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by escvelocity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont neeeeed to pick somebody, if none of those boys interest you then i suggest waiting until you find one you are interested in..going out with somebody just becasue they like you will only give you a bad rep, but if there are some boys who like you and do interest you think about what you would really like..somebody whose funny or somebody whose serious..its really a matter of personal choice
2007-01-01 07:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself. You aren't all that. I'm sure not "ALL" the boys want you. The ones with the brains are the ones that would pass you over in a minute!!
2007-01-01 07:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by sixcannonballs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut one of the frisky ones out of the pack.
2007-01-01 07:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by bobweb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the guys huh? Aren't you putting yourself on a pedestal?
2007-01-01 07:22:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋