I recently married she has never had a male figure in her life but she liked Evan when she first meet him. Now she throws fits everytime he enters the room or tells her to do something. Not only is she doing this to him but now she has started it with me. We have tried the couting, and the standing at the wall and sitting in a chair. We've gotten down on our knees at her eye level and tried talking with her, I've even tried rewarding her when she gets so many stickers for a week, but nothing is working. She has even gotten to the point where she will pee her pants cause she gets so upset. What do we do next?
2007-01-01 07:20:17 · 16 answers · asked by Deanna S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Ignore it for 2 weeks. When she passes out or gives up, then continue with your request. When she pees, give her clean clothes and then continue with your request. Be patient, it may take several times. No punishment necessary.
If it doesn't go away in 2 weeks, take her for therapy because it's possible she's got a deeper problem.
2007-01-01 07:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow you sound like you have your hands full. If the marriage has been recent, it's expected to have some sort of window of adjustment.
Have you tried coming up with some fun activities that the three of you can do? Next morning that the three of you are together talk to her and say, "Hey we were thinking of going to the park, do you want to go?" And spend some times preparing activities for lunch like making sandwhiches and using the cookie cutters to make shapes out of them. Or by picking out games that you guys can play at the park.
I am thinking with marriage being recent, you guys are tired and have your hands full with a lot of projects around the house on the weekend. It's a good ideology to start in a few marriage and family that family comes first, come up with a routine of doing something fun once a week together.
2007-01-01 07:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing is actually encouraging her behavior.
Children will repeat behavior they are being rewarded for doing. In this case your daughter acts up and receives total attention from both of you. She is controlling the show.
Now you must reverse what she has learned. When she begins her "I am the Queen" act, you must totally ignore her. Tell her once in a normal tone of voice that her behavior is unacceptable and until she can act properly she will be ignored. Then do so no matter what. It will be a battle of wills and it won't happen overnight, but if you persevere it will happen.
If you want a happy little girl then she must learn you love and care about her enough to make sure she abides by society's rules. If not, you will have problems with her forever.
Good luck mum!
2007-01-01 07:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is in school, find out from her teachers what she talks about there. You might want to ask for the help of a school counselor, too. It sounds like she's getting all the attention she wants from you - how about clenching your teeth and ignoring her until she realizes that her behavior isn't getting attention anymore. Of course, a good smack on the backside might help temporarily, but she knows how to push your buttons and she's loving it. Put her in her room without a TV, music or toys and let her kick and scream until she gets bored with having no reactions. And here's one you won't like - children who are abused/molested often start wetting their pants again. How long have you been with Evan and how often is he alone with your daughter?
2007-01-01 07:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by SUZI S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she needs is a good little swat on her behind let her know that you are the boss and you are not going to fall for her little tricks she needs a Little punishment and ignoring her might work but with my experience with kids ignoring doesn't work and it will get worse with time also let the new man get after her every now and again to let her know that you and him mean business and her fits are not going to fly
2007-01-01 07:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her again she is only a child and hitting will only make it worse and she may feel that your new husband is trying to take place of her real father and there has to be a reason on why she is acting out talk to her again or have her talk to some one else some one who she likes alot weather it be a family member or a friend and that will always help!!!! good luck
2007-01-01 07:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by hellokitty_19_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go deeper than that and would check if has to do with any kind of molesting,may be she can't express her self and tell you what is going on.Sorry to go there but we need to be aware of everything when we put a men in the house that is not the child father.
2007-01-01 07:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by realistic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her, you and your husband to see what the problem is, some time kids can sense thing s we as grown ups can't.
2007-01-01 13:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for a good ol' spanking. I like the way someone put it earlier "beat her behind." Gotta put that foot down now, or she is going to get more out of hand.
2007-01-01 07:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Gemini 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET HER TO THE DOCTOR TO HAVE TESTS TAKEN. It sounds like she may have something affecting her brain
2016-05-23 03:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋