My mom was supposed to be working the night shift and my dad was in london on buisness. I had my b/f over and we were watching tv and just hanging out.(nothing past 2nd base) We fell asleep on my bed with me in his arms. My mom came home, but didn't yell or anything. Now she won't talk to me and doesn't believe me that nothing happened. Why doesn't she trust me??
2007-01-01 07:11:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 16. She says that no boy can just be content with that if he hasn't already had sex with the girl. How can I get her to believe me??
2007-01-01 07:15:02 · update #1
I have never lied to her before. Is part of it because my brother began having sex at 16??
2007-01-01 07:16:43 · update #2
If u are telling the truth than u should be mad at her for not believing u.... BUT on the other hand maybe u didn't sumthing b4 to make her not trust u? If you did than I agree with her... if you didn't u should sit down and talk with her. maybe she knows what it was like for her growing up and she doesn't want u to repeat her mistakes... CHEER UP!!! U will be Thankful that she cared so much when ur not 16 and pregnant!!! ;)
2007-01-01 07:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should have put your b/f to sleep in a different room. You mother should none the less have more faith in you and if you said nothing beyond 2nd base happened she should believe you more than anyone. She's probably just shocked at how much her little girl has grown and knows she has to have that mother-daughter talk about the birds and the bees soon that probably makes her nervous. She may just be waiting for your dad to come home from London and ask him to deal with it. Your mom needs to trust you and you need to try and explain to her that you value her opinion and would not do anything she would consider unseemly for a young woman.
2007-01-01 15:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by THe VaN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't trust you because you blew it!
First of all you say your mom was "supposed to be working"... she probably doesn't allow you to have boys over when no one is home all night, right? (I don't know too many responsible parents who would.)
If this is true, why should she trust you if you first broke her trust in you by breaking her rules? She trusts you to follow them, and you didn't. AND, she walks in on her daughter in bed with a boy... whether or not anything happened, that's enough to piss any parent off.
She was a horny teenager once too - believe it or not, that's why she doesn't believe you... And since when is 2nd base "nothing"? One thing leads to another...
2007-01-01 15:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyedann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad at her because moms are just trying to help. But about the not talking part i just dunno. Because you always need to talk to your kid about the problem. But if you know you did nothing and hyour boyfriend knows and it is the truth you NEED to sit down and talk to your mom about this if she won't talk just keep saying what you know is right and go with it.
She doesnt not trust you she just feels uncomfortable with the fact that her duagter is growing up and knows about the world of sex and boys. And she is scared about that, you would be too if you found your daughter with a boy on a bed, wouldn't you? But you know whats right so stick to it and see where it takes you. no matter what she loves and and so does you dad and your b/f.
hope this helps. =] good luck
2007-01-01 15:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you did not go all the way the act of bringing your b/f into your room when your parents were not home violated their home and the trust they have in you.This shows your mom what you are capable of when they are not looking,and frankly she is disgusted by your behavior
2007-01-01 15:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have u lied to her in the past? I have a 18yr old daughter and if that happened to us I would believe her because we have never lied to each other. U raise children telling them the truth and they will do the same with u.
2007-01-01 15:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by STACY L 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Parents are so hard to understand. Grrrr. Have you done anything in the past that makes her not trust you. If not, then she's overreacting. You should probably tell her nothing happened even though it looked like it's bad and say that you understand why she got mad, you just want her to trust you. You are her kid, and she should trust you.
2007-01-01 15:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps being in bed together in each others arm is NOT a sight for a mother to see her child in. I suggest watching TV in the livingroom from now on.
2007-01-01 15:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, when she saw the two of you together her imagination drew up the worst scenario - which was sex. You can't make her believe you, all you can do is tell her the truth and leave it at that.
2007-01-01 15:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
PROLLY BECAUSE HE SHOULD HAVE NEVER BEEN THERE TO BEGIN WITH,, SHE IS PROLLY HURT BY WHAT YOU DID WHEN SHE THOUGHT SHE COULD TRUST YOU TO FOLLOW RULES SHE IS OUT WORKING TO GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT SO YOU NEED TO RESPECT YOUR MOTHER........
NO MOTHER WANTS TO COME HOME FROM WORKING ALL NIGHT TO SEE HER UNWED DAUGHTER IN BED WITH A MAN...... THAT IS WHY SHE IS ACTING THAT WAY PROLLY.... JUST LOOK HER IN THE EYES AND SAY MOM I KNOW YOU ARE DISSAPOINTED BUT NOTHING HAPPENED AND YOU ARE SORRY.
2007-01-01 15:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋