my girlfriend that I didn't love my wife but because I love my baby that is why I continue live together with my wife and my kid. But now I want to devorce my wife. After hearing the truth, my girl friend did not get mad at me. She said that she's very happy that at least I'm honest with her. But she said that from now on, she just want to be friend with me and that she wanted to see me as a good father of my baby. Then my girlfriend stopped picking up the phone when I called her. I love my girl friend so much because she's sweet and warmed-hearted. I wanted to spend my life with her because I truly love her. Life is short, I want to live with the one I truely love. What can I do now?
2007-01-01 06:45:20 · 26 answers · asked by funguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep in mind that you briefly had a relationship with a very bright woman.
2007-01-01 06:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by DrB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you should deal with your marriage/divorce and the issues with your child. No smart woman would get involved in such, I can't blame your girlfriend for not picking up her phone. Not only have you lied about who you are, what you have to offer and a few other things but you also forced her to be part of something that is just wrong! She will probably have all sorts of feelings all over the place for a while about what has happened. The only thing you can do is give her time and handle your business in the right way, she will have more positive thoughts about you if she sees you working out your problems in a healthy manner. You will have to prove you aren't some reckless person by righting your wrongs the best way you can! Until then back off and get your divorce from your wife.
2007-01-01 14:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with having affairs is that someone gets hurt. Usually, its the girlfriend. If you love this girl, divorce your wife, support your child and let your girlfriend see that you are a responsible person and let her know that you still love her.
You have to understand that you just gave her some shocking news. She will need time to deal with it.
Staying with a wife you don't love is not a good situation for the child. You didn't say how old your child is, but at some point, he/she will realize that something is wrong.
Did you tell your wife about your affair? If she finds out, the divorce may be right around the corner.
2007-01-01 14:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you get in a relationship anyway? You should of divorce your wife first. Even though you have a child with her you still should of left and just continue being a good farther to you kid. You can make it wroser than it is just by having the affair. Talk to your wife first and tell her how you feel. Your girlfriend is maybe mad and feels bad about messing with a married man. But don't worry about her right now you need to worry about your family and do the right thing before more people get hurt.
2007-01-01 14:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Babycakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is this for me and you. Does the girlfriend want a relationship like that? Maybe the girlfriend is happy for you and your kid but she also wants to move on and sees there's no point because you guys can never really be together. I suggest allowing the girlfriend a chance to move in. I was just in this dilemna. If you die, can your girlfriend go to your funeral? Not without drama or getting treated like ****. Can she see you when she really needs you? Probably not. If you were both married, then it might work out, but it never would be anything but you both cheating on the people who are married to you and love you. It's a hard choice to make I know, but you should make one. If you love your kid, then stay with your wife and see your girlfriend if she'll have you.
If you dont want to leave your wife for the girlfriend then never tell your wife what has happened. It will destroy her.
2007-01-01 14:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as though you only react on condition if things go your way. Ex: you didn't want to tell your GF about your wife until you did and she surprised you with an answer that was better than you expected.
You should've been honest with your wife from the very beginning about your problems in the marriage, otherwise, you wouldn't have felt the need to cheat on her.
You remind me of the dirt-bag, cheating ex-wife of my husband. Always wanting men at her every beckon call and doesn't look out for anyone else's feelings but her own.
Quit playing with ppl's feelings and go seek professional counseling with your wife. You/wife obviously have a troubled marriage.
Did you really think that your relationship with your GF would turn out well with the way that you go about handling your communication and your lack of honesty?
An honest heart starts with you, compadre. You need a reality check and quit being so irresponsible, especially where your daughter is concerned. Be a true role model to her.
Make the right decision.
Peace...
2007-01-01 14:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I your child is young divorce while there young for the simple fact that if you divorce later on the older they get it more than likely messes up the child, trust me i know some people whos parents divorced when they were like 12 or later and they are just all messed up. so if you dont love your wife u need to divorce for the childs sake people may think that staying married for the child is good but its not because eventually they wait til the kids get older and thats what messes the kids up. as far as your girlfriend shes not doing anything wrong because she would be crazy to still try to have a romantic relationship with you when she knows your married.
2007-01-01 14:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Pholla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tel your wife wuts been goin on and that i think you should do the whole custity thing. you probly will get to see your kid alot. but be honest with your wife. tell her that there is this other girl that you love and that you dont think it will work out bettween the two of you guys anymore and that you guys can still be friends. tell her how much you love your kid and home much you wanna be a good father. She will be upset. But in the end it will all work out! Good Luck!!! And hope everything turns out for the best!!!
2007-01-01 14:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by peace love & lipgloss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a no good dirty lousy bastard. What about your wife I'm sure she was your only true love at some point. Now you want to break her heart. And as for your girl friend, now you want to tell her the truth why didn't you tell her when you first met. I hope she never answers the phone you creep.
-She spits in his face tosses her hair and walks out of the room.
2007-01-01 14:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by little lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your situation with your wife and family taken care of before anyone else getting involved with your life. There is no relationship with a girfriend as long as you are married. Your wife deserves more respect than this. Think how this might affect your relationship with your child later if this is ever told.
2007-01-01 14:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by MusicWoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about your girlfriend for a while. She is probably thinking what I'm thinking: she doesn't want to wind up like your wife...
Seriously: did you marry your wife thinking that you wanted to divorce her? Most probably not. Yet today you want to divorce. History has a tendency to repeat itself. If you have done it to one, you will do it to the next. She is having second thoughts. You may have to get that divorce first, and then if she sees you are genuine about this, maybe (!) her doubts will disappear.
2007-01-01 14:56:47 · answer #11 · answered by Alain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋