whos going to carry out trasnsactional analysis on me. What effect will that have, will it sort my head out? And what does that mean is worng with me? Any advice much appreciated.
2007-01-01 06:43:49 · 22 answers · asked by tunachunks199 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm very sorry about your loss. I know exactly what you're going through. I lost my mom 3 years ago and it's been devastating. About two months after she passed I was so depressed I simply stopped going to work. They kept trying to call me but I just didn't answer the phone. I haven't worked in nearly three years. My drinking got worse and now I'm completely dependent on it. I'm trying to muster up the courage to go in for treatment. Sorry, I'm going on too much about myself. If the therapy is working for you then stick with it. The grieving process is variable and some people it affects greatly. It's possible a clinical depression could have set it. Have you tried medication? It can be very helpful. Major depression, if untreated, can become chronic and last for years. Good luck to you, I really hope things get better for you.
2007-01-01 14:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not help. But my own mom died right about 15 years ago. It did take me almost exactly 5 years to get everything together for myself after she passed. I returned to school with a friend. We took classes. I continued and got a degree, all the while working a terrible job that made me feel like nothing every day when I went in. Right at the end of college, I apprenticed at an intern type position, and entered a professional field. Today, I am functioning fine, if not the most zestful liver you ever saw. I think finding something I wanted to do, studying it, and wrapping my life and mind around it helped me immensely to get on track and stay on track. Without some structure like this, i don't know how I would have fared.
I am sorry about your loss and trouble, btw. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-01 06:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by £º$∑® 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wish I could answer your question. I've no idea why it is taking you so long to get over mum's death. Most people grieve for about a year or so, then they begin to heal although will still have a few sad moments. But why has this tragic loss made your life become a mess and what would your mum think about the way her death has affected you. I'm sure she'd be very sad. You need to try to look on the happier moments of the times you had with her rather than dwelling on her death itself. I have lost people very close to me too and I am grateful I don't have such difficult after effects as you are experiencing.
2007-01-01 06:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Princess415 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Transactional analysis is simply a study of the way people relate to each other. Think of a conversation as a transaction, ie an action across (trans) from one to another.
Most therapy has some kind of positive effect and talking to an independent person is good for unburdening.
It sounds like you have a big problem and it probably won't be cured overnight, but hang in there as you may benefit from the therapy or find something else in your life that helps.
2007-01-01 06:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mother 8 yrs ago, and my father less than 2 months ago. Your therapist should be able to help your analysis.
Is anything "wrong" with you? Maybe, maybe not. If you're having troubles dealing with the loss after five years, I say that you are probably not dealing with it to well (but, that DOESN'T necessarily mean that anything is wrong with you).
As far as the effect, my best advice that tomorrow will take care of itself (cliche, I know). But so far, you've had 5 years of tomorrows. Try to focus on how to deal with life on life's terms. In the mean time, write a letter to your mother, include anything you wanted to tell her, but perhaps didn't. read it out loud. And then burn it.
Finally, your typing suggests that you are from the UK. With that in mind, here's a great web site for you.
Good Luck, And Happy New Year.
2007-01-01 06:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Don R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom passed about 5 years ago as well. it can really throw a wrench in your workings. It's normal to miss those we love who've passed. There's nothing wrong with you unless you can't function. It's hard to go on without your parents and easy to blame problems in life on those events. it doesn't go away, it doesn't stop hurting it just gets to be something that "is." it's not fair and it won't be but the best thing you can do is try to live your life in the pursuit of happiness and do all you can to make your life good. It will never be the way it was, but you have to make those better choices on your own now.
2007-01-01 06:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by padmalotusflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my wife 5 years ago very suddenly I came very close to a complete breakdown, I saw a therapist but to be honest it didn't help a lot but what I did find helped was talking to my family when ever I got the chance in fact we all found it a great help and comfort to each other my advice to you from someone who has been there is try to talk to your family about your feelings it can work wonders just tell them how you feel and i am sure they will help you a lot if you want to chat to someone else you can email me
2007-01-01 07:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my father about the same time ago.
I don't know what that means, but the best advice is to see a therapist at least. It will take time but you will appreciate how much better you will feel in the long run.
This probably doesn't answer your question or is in line with what you were talking about but I hope it helped.
2007-01-01 06:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of solutions... dude you're very youthful. do not say that "i'm a student so i don't get time for something". you have each and all of the time. consume despite you want to. basically bypass exterior in night and play some exterior video games. specifically soccer, Badminton, Cricket and so on and so on. Play as much as you may. Play soccer on a regular basis for an hour or 2 and you will see the diversities.
2016-10-19 07:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like this are very helpful. I would expect that you will feel better, that your inner feelings will come out and you will be taught how to deal with them in a healthy way. Nothing is wrong with you; you are still just feeling the anguish of losing your daughter, and that is completely normal and understandable! I congradulate you on getting the help that you will befefit from, and wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-01 08:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋