My husband and I got married almost 4 years ago with a nondenominational faith with only witnesses there. There was no romantic proposal, big dream wedding or being walked down by my dad. My husband just proposed to me again, but this time it was perfect. Now, I want to plan my wedding but as if it was my first. Any suggestions on how to approach this with engagement announcements, wedding invitations?? I would like to try and have some explanation to why the new wedding...
2007-01-01 06:37:36 · 16 answers · asked by RunGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You really need to have a "renewal of vows" ceremony as opposed to a wedding ceremony. You can renew your vows and still have a nice reception. On your invitations, you can call it a celebration of marriage. I own a country club and I have seen this done many times.
2007-01-01 06:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by 14b32bbdog 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi there.
I think others have already mentioned it, but as you're already married you cannot have 'another wedding' as such.
That said, there is nothing to stop you celebrating! I would suggest having either a vow renewal or perhaps even a religious blessing followed by a big reception and party - if the latter appeals you will need to check with your local vicar to get the thumbs up.
In terms of planning, treat it as though you are having a 'proper wedding' and arrange the photogrpahers, stationery, transport etc. accordingly. - In terms of what to say to guests just tell them that they are invited to your vow renewal/blessing and make sure they are aware that it is a big affair, not just some minor celebration.
In terms of where to start, I would suggest that you take a look at one of the many planning websites on the net - Weddingsday is a favourite of mine and a link to their site is attached.
Hope this helps and congrats!
2007-01-03 23:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Wed Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant have a wedding, you are already married! You might be able to have a blessing but you can't do an engagement party, and then have a wedding as if you aren't married!!! It just doesnt work that way. You should have thought about that before you got married 4 years ago. What explanation can you possibly give? You could send out invites for the blessing (if your vicar agrees to it) and then have a party afterwards but it won't be a WEDDING cos you are married - it will just be a blessing and a party.
2007-01-01 06:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're already married so another wedding wouldn't make sense and would certainly confuse your guests. They may see this as just a way for you to play dress up and receive gifts. Sorry you missed out on these things but just because you can't have a wedding, doesn't mean you cannot celebrate your marriage.
Host a vow renewal ceremony. And, yes, you can have a party following this ceremony but don't expect gifts. Some guests may bring them - just don't expect them. Go ahead and celebrate. A successful marriage deserves a party.
2007-01-01 15:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why you can't have the wedding of your dreams, but you must treat this as a vow renewal. You cannot "get married" again.
There should not be parties, gifts and all the whoopla that goes with a first wedding. Your guests will see your wedding as only a means for this.
For whatever reason you chose the other route, it was still your choice. You know what they say, "You can't go home again". What's done, is done.
2007-01-01 07:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send invites WELL in advance, make sure you write something short and meaningful on the invites that explains why this will mean so much to you...........
Do not think that this big wedding is the be all and end all. You're already married and if it all goes to plan, GREAT, if not, you're still happily married.........in other words, stress can sometimes try and ruin an idealistic view on an event..
Remember that you may have always wanted this dream wedding, it's every girls dream but remember that your husband deserves the big day just as much and Will be extremely nervous because he will want everything to go right for you....
keep the pressure off you and your husband, preparation is the key, love is obviously already there......you'll be fine..........
congrats!!
2007-01-01 06:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it would be a bit TOO odd to have an engagement as well as though you aren't married because you are. There is nothing wrong with renewing your vowels though, lots of people do it. Send out invitations with a little humour,, maybe something to do with the fact that this is the real wedding, the one that they all missed out on, and have a great reception afterwards. Good luck
2007-01-01 06:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, with what some people said about this being innapropriate... I think they are wrong. But it should definately be a vow renewal. And there is nothing wrong with that! "Engagement announcements" would be weird maybe.... but for the invitation to the ceremony.... do what others above said... make sure you let people know that you are having the ceremony you never had to renew your vows... and let them know how much it means to both of you to share your love in front of all your family and friends. and you can DEFINATELY have a reception! Make sure you have a huge party with tons of fun, food and dancing... to keep your guests entertained :) Make sure you include on your invite that you would prefer not to accept gifts of any sort. Congratualtions!
2007-01-01 07:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by KSmom24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already had your wedding, regardless of what the circumstances were. Maybe on your 10th anniversary, you could do a vow renewal, with family and friends over for dinner at your home. What you are thinking of doing is not appropriate at all.
2007-01-01 07:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sweet that you guys are considering doing this to renew your vows and your love to each other. They have special ceremony scripts just for renewing your vows. Check at your local card stores - (like Hallmark) and see what type of invitations they have, or you can even buy blank ones and do your own . It's your day, your event and you can do it up however you want.
2007-01-01 07:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by kimmer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋