as well as getting new underwear to star charts to everything. He just is too lazy to make it to the bathroom. He starts going in his pants and then runs to the bathroom to finish. He has been trained since he was 2 1/2. We only have encountered this problem within the last 8 months. He started school in September but that has been the only major change in the last year. If you have any suggestions please please leave them.
2007-01-01 06:30:01 · 5 answers · asked by Hula Doula 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Just a side note...we have gone to the specialist regarding this, they have added that he seems to be normal. His poop is also soft in the toilet so it is not constipation. I forgot to add those two points before. He himself said that he did not want to stop the activity he was doing. That is why the specialist referred to it as "laziness". He did not have suggestions for how to stop the problem though.
2007-01-01 08:22:04 · update #1
He is in preschool two days a week for 3 hours for the ones questioning why he is in school. He will be 5 soon.
2007-01-01 08:24:56 · update #2
My son did the same thing, but he grew out of it. Using the potty is very time consuming for a busy little boy, so they would rather just hold it until it comes out on it's own. Try not to make a big deal of it, since he may get hurt feelings. Keep up the positive reinforcement na dgood luck. This will pass.
2007-01-01 07:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is likely not too lazy. Possibly, he has a hard ball of poop in his intenstines, because of a previous experience with bad constipation. (Passing a painful bowel movement makes a young child reluctant to poop or poop fully.) When this happens, the intenstines get so stretched that the nerve sensations end - the child doesn't know when he needs to go to the bathroom until he feels the poop on his legs or in his pants.
This is a terrible problem because people blame the child. In fact, severe mental illness has resulted for many kids from parents' punitive approach to this medical problem.
If this is his problem, you must apologize to your son for getting it wrong, for thinking he could control it, for blaming him, for calling him lazy. If you've done all the things you list already, you've surely hurt his confidence and self-esteem by now.
How to treat - have him sit on the toilet at the same time every day, for about 20 minutes, whether he goes or not. give him very mild children's laxative daily. increase the amount of water he drinks and explain that is helps his body run better. This should clear up the problem in a week or so.
Also, school for 4 year old boys is way too stressful and inappropriate. Kids that age learn best in the context of a one on one relationship - that is, with mommy.
2007-01-01 07:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's 4 and started school, he probably has little friends. Ask him, do you think any of your friends at school would do this? Why are you?
I remember when I was little my brother did that once and my mom made my brother start helping her clean his pants and do laundry, like no fun or games and he went straight to bed. He didn't like not joining in on the fun (she used to make me come up with some game or movie he'd be missing out b/c he was cleaning) it worked.
2007-01-01 08:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you contact a GI specialist and have him checked. Then if all medical issues are ruled out, I would find other ways to help him. Sometimes medical issues do not show up until later in time.
2007-01-01 07:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a phase that most a friend of mine did the same did you try telling him to stay on the toliet untill he something buy a potty he can close to him
2007-01-01 07:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by quinton s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋