where you could hardly see the diamond. Anyways, my friends or strangers say : "that is awfully small, or maybe he couldn't afford it, or he'll get a bigger one." I selected the engagement ring, and it was my choice. Even though my friends have huge gleaming rocks, that is not for me or my style. Help. WWUS= What Would you say?
2007-01-01 06:26:40 · 28 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He only paid $60 for it, and I was happy.
2007-01-01 06:31:31 · update #1
Smile at them, then beam at your ring while you glowingly say:
"Thank you for your kind interest. I appreciate your noticing my lovely ring. I never cease to be amazed at just how eye catching a diamond this delicate and demure can be!"
ie; If there wasn't something special about it, they wouldn't have noticed it!
2007-01-01 06:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Colleen Ann 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if you love it then that's all that matters. An engagement ring signifies his promise of marriage to YOU. Not to your friends and certainly not to strangers. You shouldn't be rude to people, but you do have a right to stand up for yourself, your fiance, and your ring if you feel bothered by it. Just explain to your friends that a huge, expensive engagement ring isn't your style, that you picked it out, and that you love it. They should understand. If they don't, just let it go. It isn't their ring. It's yours. Just remind yourself how much YOU love the ring. Besides, it's the thought behind it that counts. Plus, what's the point of spending thousands of dollars on the ring or going into debt when that money could be better spent on, say, a honeymoon! :)
2007-01-01 16:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Keruma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do take her to small claims court, and even if you do win, that does not mean you will ever see that money necessarily. The court only decides whether or not the money is owed to you, they do not actually do anything to enforce the payment. You would still have to hire a third party afterwards to garnish her wages or harass her for the money, and those businesses take almost 50% of the money for themselves. PLUS they won't even take the case if it's under $2000. The one upside (for you) is that IF you did win your case against her, that debt would then show up on her credit report and she will never be able to buy a car, or a house, or take out a loan of any type again.
2016-05-23 03:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them what you told us. thats all. youo has to be happy with the ring. not anyone else. my ring isnt anything huge either. my hands are so small it would look funny and I wanted the money towards the wedding, not the ring. He went ahead and spent $850 on mine and I got kinda angry about it, but like I said...its about you. not to mention, if you even wanted a bigger ring you could go for it in the future. I couldnt get my husband the wedding band he wanted because it was too much, but when we renew our vows in the future we are getting eachother the rings we want. congrats on the engagement ring and best of luck to you both in the future.
2007-01-01 06:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you - you have to be the most absolutely SANIST woman who I have ever answered a question from! I like you a lot and I don't even know you! I totally agree with you; that's what I am like. I didn't want a big rock, let my sisters and friends flash their around (they are scared to wear them a lot of the time), and I really don't say anything, other than "This is the ring I wanted". Now I didn't choose the specific ring I got, just the style, but I love it.
I can't wait to hear about your wedding!
2007-01-01 07:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you first show it to them, say that you picked it out. They will be less likely to say something insulting - they might be making those comments because they think you are unhappy with it, and they are trying to reassure you. Assure them that you are happy with it. That is really all that matters - that you are happy. People spend wayyy too much money on the wedding and wedding related items, and not enough money on the actual marriage. A down payment on a car or house is much more beneficial than a huge rock or expensive dress/dj/reception, etc.
2007-01-01 20:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by JadeAMurray 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The engagement ring that was given to me was my mother in law's wedding ring. They didn't have any money and certainly a diamond the size of one's hand wasn't the "in thing" back in the early 60's. I love this ring because she loved me enough to give it to her son; he then, in turn, asked me to marry him. I heard a few comments about how "sweet" or "cute" it was and it did bug me at first. But then I realized I was marrying the man of my dreams, not the ring. The sentiment is what matters.
2007-01-01 06:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by ubiquitous_mr_lovegrove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's just rude and tacky of other people in the first place! I would suggest that before someone has a chance to say anything at all, you say something like "isn't the greatest, I picked it out myself" or "he's just the sweetest guy, he got me the very ring I had been looking at for the longest". That doesn't leave room for any negative comments.
2007-01-01 06:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like it thats all that should matter, don't make him feel bad by telling him what others are saying. I think its the sweetest when the man picks out the ring and if your really in love a ring from a flea market stand would be good enough. If your truly in love it just doesn't matter ;)
2007-01-01 06:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what your friends say. If you are happy with the ring and the fact that you picked it out, then that's all that really matters. Who really cares what your friends have ... that is what they value (materialistic things) as opposed to you who value the love of your man. I say, tell them to mind their own business and if they can't deal with that, then perhaps they are truly not your friend. They should be happy for you and the ring that you have not the amount or size of the ring.
2007-01-01 12:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engagement rings should not be a status symbol among peers. It should be the best he can give you that best matches who you are (its not only a symbol of being taken, but its also a symbol of how he wants to give you his best lifelong AND how unique each persons relationship and individuality is). I know many girls who don't have a diamond, but rather another stone because thats what they wanted... some girls don't even have gemstones! (they hate those types of rings).
So, don't try comparing what you have to others, but rather reflect on how happy your are with having something that matches your own unique personality and special relationship where you care about who eachother really is.
PS
In rings, I don't like large stones either... interfers with my work, sticks out and catches on things... I like quality, subtle, and tasteful
2007-01-01 06:37:37 · answer #11 · answered by Saphire Aurora 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋