I class my childs father as her dad, but recently my friend pointed out he is just DNA/sperm donor, as my child has received 1 x 1st birthday card, a milkshake and a packet of mints a few months ago, and 10 visits in 12 yrs. and today when i said it to him he was shocked, why? i always refer to him as dad, but my daughter says do you mean mike or my father, why was he shocked, he has never been to any events/xmas/birthdays/school/never came when she was admitted to hospital by 999 ambulance/only ever sent her 1 card/never paid maintenance, all i have ever asked for was time and having another family/girlfriend/smoke/drink/golf always comes before her.
2007-01-01 06:16:28 · 26 answers · asked by trouble 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you are thinking of the difference between a father and a dad. any man can be a father but it takes a real man to be a dad. He is your typical male who fathered a child but a real man would have been a dad to her, doing all the things he didnt..
2007-01-01 06:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
for me anyone can be a father but it takes someone real special to be a dad, a dad should be someone whose willing to give his all and as much love care and attention to a child as the mum does, it should come naturally like it does for a mum, and a dad should be there for a child 24/7 no questions and any dad that isnt giving his all isnt a dad or a father so that just leaves DNA/SPERM donor
2007-01-05 10:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by peachmelba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This male you are speaking of is NOT a father at all -- just another SPERM DONOR. Why is he supposedly 'shocked' by this situation? Children know what these "sperm donors" are, and even though the single mom does NOT even say anything ... they KNOW what the real truth is when they see their mom struggling every day.
Hey, congrats for finding a good role model for your daughter -- that she is referring to someone else as 'father' is a good sign -- that male has had a good influence on her and she has a solid grasp on reality!
2007-01-01 06:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DNA - He has his priorities all wrong, or maybe they just aren't there. There's a distinct difference between being a father and being a dad - being a father isn't too hard - anyone can get someone pregnant - but it takes a dad to love and care for his child. Love and respect are something that need to be earned, if she cant or doesn't see him as 'dad' then he hasn't filled the role of a 'dad' in her life.
2007-01-01 06:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot to be a Dad! I consider my biological father to be just a sperm donor!! My parents seperated when I was three and he has never been there for me so he does not deserve to be called a Dad. My stepdad brought me up from the age of 5 and I consider him to be my Dad......he has supported me throughout my life.
2007-01-01 06:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by KAZ M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would call him a sperm donar......he certainly isnt a father in the real sence of the word, as to be a father means many things. to be a father means being there for the child and taking an active part in their upbringing, which he is clearly not doing. He is clearly a selfish man and is only out for what he can get for himself. to say that your child would be better off without him would be rather unfare for your child. at the end of the day he is still your childs father, and whatever you may think of him, your child needs him, and probably loves him unconditionaly. The best thing to do on this occasion is to let your child, in time, to form her own opinion, and make her own decisions as what kind of relationship she wants with her father. If you interfere, you are potentially setting yourself up, for problems with your child, in that she may learn to resent your interference........let her/him make her/his own decisions.
Best of luck to you, and Happy New Year.
2007-01-01 06:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dad is a name you earn by being there for a child. Dad isn't something you get automatically.
Father (or biological father) is a name you get right away, when you have a child.
But if your child can't really see the difference between dad and father, i say DNA
2007-01-01 06:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
how does your child refer to him? if she refers to him as Mike, then Mike it is. If you don't know how to refer to him then I would us the term her biological Father. Seems to me like he was only a donor, a dad is who is there through the good and bad, through christmas plays , school projects, fever, skinned knees, learning to drive, first kisses, first dates, and walking her down the isle to be married. If he isn't there and another man is then he is dad! Mike is a donor, but without the donor there would be no daughter,so keep it in order.
2007-01-01 07:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by kathy h 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Feel sorry for him. He has missed out on having a relationship with his wonderful daughter. I know it hurts but I would let the child decide how she wants the relationship to be with her (biological father). Don't say anything negative about him. Just don't bring him up voluntarily.
2007-01-01 07:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Biological Father. Not Daddy.
2007-01-01 06:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by puffy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋