I am three months pregnant, but am arguing with my boyfriend all the time, we dont get on and have reached a point where i have had enough but i dont want to be a single parent . What should i do?
2007-01-01 06:13:01 · 16 answers · asked by lazadoot 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Pregnancy brings about several different emotions for both u and the father. Did the arguing start prior to pregnancy or after? Men are also overwhelmed with the new responsibility. If u feel that there is no future for u and him, then leave. There are several single moms. It is important to be as stress free as possible during pregnancy, especially in the early months. Do what u feel is best, but think it over first.
2007-01-01 06:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by jdubsmom06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you only started arguing since you were pregnant, or were these problems there beforehand? If the problems are only recent, then bear in mind that pregnancy can be a very stressful time. Hormones are everywhere, and both mother and father have feelings of anxiety to deal with, which can result in arguments.
Consider getting some couples counselling, especially if you are just arguing about silly things but can't get out of the cycle of arguments. You need to give this a good shot for the sake of your baby.
And don't get your baby adopted like some people are saying - you will regret it forever!
2007-01-01 20:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you but I'm so sorry you are in this situation. It sounds really difficult. I think that you are really I know this is probably not your first choice, but have you considered making an adoption plan for the baby? You say you don't want to be a single parent -- there's no shame in that, you sound realistic. Single parenting is very very difficult even if you are rich and have a lot of support in place. And although your BF may be financially on the hook for the baby until he or she is 18 do you really want to deal with his crap for the rest of your life? If you keep the baby there's the chance he may be in your life forever. There are many people out there who have the resources and desire for a baby. Would you be open to that? Whatever you decide, I truly wish you the best.
2007-01-01 06:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Carolyn R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself if staying with this person and fighting all the time is good for you and the baby. You also need to think ahead to the future...does he want this baby? Is he gonna treat the baby right? What are his reasons for sticking around, does he love you or does he feel obligated? You don't want someone around that is going to feel obligated cause it will only cause friction and the baby will sense that and it will be constant turmoil. You should be together if you love each other and want to commit to this together. Don't feel obligated to terminate your pregnancy if you are scared of being a single mom. My sister is a single mom of three and she's only 25. It's hard but it's doable and she's not stressed out all the time over fighting with a significant other. I hope I kind of helped you on this. Good luck.
2007-01-01 06:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always other men out there, yes it is very hard being a single parent i did it and 1 and a half years after i had my son the man of my dreams walked into my life and we are still together 5 years later and working on number 2 of our own!!
there is always the option to put baby up or adoption also is it is to much for you to handle!!
Good luck girl and go with what your heart tells you to do!! i will keep you in my prays and thoughts
2007-01-01 06:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Juli L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is a beautiful alternative to parenthood. It takes a very strong person to give up your baby, it's not an easy thing to do. Just think about it and you can even go to an agency and talk to someone, you may find out that it is right for you. If not, being a single mom is very hard, but very rewarding too. Motherhood is the greatest reward you will have in life.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-01 06:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that bad being a single parent. I separated from my first husband when my two sons were 11mnths and 4yrs old. At the beginning you think you will not be able to cope but you can. You can both bring up your child as long as you stay friends atleast for the sake of the child. Sometimes a relationship does not work when living together but it can succeed with just being good friends.
2007-01-01 06:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard one.
Do you feel there is any future for both of you?
Being pregnant will bring it's own problems and stress but maybe going to see someone like a counciler, to see if you can work out your problems.
Being a single mother is not all bad, there is support and help out there for you.
So if you go ahead with your plans and you are not happy, make sure you have support in place for you as you will need it once the kid comes along.
Good Luck.
2007-01-01 06:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by chris s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not this unborn child's fault you and your boyfriend are not getting on please do not take it out on it, `becoming a parent is the best most amazing thing that can ever happen to any 1 if you do not want this child then have it adopted and let someone who is not fortunate enough to have children of there own bring this child up. its the fairest thing to do.pregnancy is a stressful time for men as well as woman lots of people forget this its worth talking things through with your boyfriend and seeing if you can save the relationship or if he is going to stand by you if you have this baby. don't rush into anything you may later regret. good luck
2007-01-01 06:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by theoriginalbitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't that bad being a single mum
He still has to provide for your baby,
Perhaps you just need some space from each other,
It really depends what you are arguing about.
2007-01-01 06:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋