I always seem to get the guests that don't offer to do anything when they come to visit. Is that normal? When I visit other people I help with meals, help pick up, or take the host out to dinner.
2007-01-01 05:53:48 · 23 answers · asked by Simone 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well they are people that have told us they will be visiting...not really invited...and I think the women in the group should at least offer to help with the meals on an extended stay
2007-01-01 06:00:57 · update #1
They are people from out of state that have basically invited themselves
2007-01-01 06:06:05 · update #2
none, because they are your guests
2007-01-01 05:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the host initiates a one way invitation, the guest(s) may offer to help, but hosts should not expect it. A truly gracious host will not cook or clean while guests are there except as is absolutely necessary for the function of the gathering. Those things should be done before and after the guests arrive and then leave.
If the gathering is a mutual agreement to get together, equal effort should be put into both the effort and the material costs (food, etc) of the get-together.
Family should always be willing to pitch in.
2007-01-01 06:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by stargazerjimbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why you are allowing people to come visit you if you didn't invite them. Will they be staying at your house for a few days? If so, I think this is extremely rude of them! I would never invite myself to someone's home!
You can always tell them that something has come up, and it's impossible for you to have guests at this time. You don't need to explain any more about it. If they press you for a reason, just tell them it's personal. They sound like the kind of people you don't need in your life anyway!
2007-01-01 20:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's rough - people have their own standards and sadly some people just seem to take you for granted and take advantage. The best thing with people like that (sadly) is to be unavailable when they want to come and stay - sometimes a little white lie is easier than "i don't find you a very nice guest" but at the end of the day it's up to you - they are what they are and if that isn't what you want in your life, get rid!
2007-01-01 06:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by lozatron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often times when I have people over to visit like that I don't offer as much so there isn't as much to clean up. Otherwise just expect it and already prepare yourself for the clean up when they arrive. When you accept people for who, what and how they are you aren't as dissappointed at the end of the day. Keep doing what you're doing, sounds like you are a great guest to have over. Good Luck.
2007-01-01 06:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Million C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just a guest in a home for five days. I made my bed each day, and didn't leave my products in the bathroom each day. I did not start stirring around each morning until I heard them up. I helped clean the kitchen, and on the last night I treated them to a nice restaurant. Also, I left one afternoon to just hang at the mall so they could have some space.
2007-01-04 06:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being a doormat! Set some rules - post them on the door if necessary. No one stays at my place without a real invitation - and there are rules. How late/early you can come in. What foods you should bring to help with the costs. Real friends do not mooch on you. And if they are having financial problems - then let them stay home and earn more money.
2007-01-01 06:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens to me too.
I was raiseed to help and being nice should be it's own reward.
I also find that guests who bug me do not get a lot of invitations.....
I have a saying in the house. If you are here for a few days, take off your shoes and relax.
IF you are here for a week start with the dishes.
2007-01-01 06:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 20:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common courtesy to offer to help whether guest invited or uninvited. Uninvited should definitely take the host out to dinner.
2007-01-01 06:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't ever expect my guests to help out and I decline their offer to help because they shouldn't have to help since they are guests, but a good guest would offer. A good host wouldn't let them though.
2007-01-01 06:05:15 · answer #11 · answered by aanstalokaniskiodov_nikolai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋