she is a colleague of mine (who's married and have a one year old childe) and we were just friends as everyone else. but now she's in love w/me. and after i told her that we cant talk to each other anymore (i tried to convince her stay as just friends but she couldn’t) she is being so depressed and broken hearted... she is a very nice person and i really hate to see her suffer..
if you have any thoughts that can help.. please
2007-01-01 05:51:45 · 14 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard I am sure to see your friend going through this but, she is doing it to herself. It seems that you have done all you can do. Time is the only answer for her. My advice would be to just keep your distance and in due time she will get back to her normal self. Good luck to you.....
2007-01-01 05:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is kind of a tough situation, because it seems you care for her as a freind. Sit down with her at some point, and explain, that she is married, with a year old child, and you do not want to be apart of a realationship, that invovles a child and a marraige. Tell her that you are not trying to break her heart, and make her suffer, tell her that you care for her enough to not make matter worse with her personal life, and that you guys should stay as freinds and no more. And maybe just maybe.. if she ever gets a divorce, then MAYBE something might resolve between the two of you. Tell her also that it is wrong to want to be with another man while being married to one. You can never make a person who loves you, not love you, because You can not make your heart feel what it don't want to. And if she is soo unhappy, then before proceeding on to other men, she should get a divorce, because cheating only makes matters worse, so don't get involved.
2007-01-01 06:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get over loving someone just takes time. To stop hating someone, well, I find the best way to do that is instead of putting any energy into hating the person just think of them is non-existant. The only downfall is if you work with them, but even that's not difficult. Simply stick to business discussions, if they say anything other then the business at hand say, "I am quite busy at the moment, I'll have to get back to you." The same can be said of neighbors or family, just keep it short and to the point.
2016-03-17 03:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Paula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is why did she end up loving you? I feel there is more to this story. there's nothing you can do, you've hurt her feelings and she will end up hating you for now and maybe forever. Later after she's moved on, she might be friends with you and not make a big deal of it. if you hate to see her suffer then you should have thought about that before you said what you did. move on and forget it, and she will too
2007-01-01 05:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her anything...happy, sad, mad, love you, hate you...those emotions are her decision. You said your piece now leave it at that. Her behavior is inappropriate anyway, she's married. If she's broken hearted it's her fault, not yours. She should not have become emotionally attached to a man who was not her husband.
Keep your distance and hopefully she'll grow up, wake up, and get herself together soon. She's not a very high quality person to have allowed this to occur anyway. If her marriage is so horrid she should leave it...if it's not horrid then why is she after other men?
2007-01-01 05:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should let her have her space. She needs to turn to her husband. Don't go out of your way to be nice to her. That is just leading her on. This is why you shouldn't get into relationships with coworkers and married people. She was suffering in her marriage before you came along if she wasn't in love. You two don't need to work on things, her and her husband do.
2007-01-01 05:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say how involved you were with her... and since the way you said that you told her not to "talk" to you anymore, but just to try and be friends, this makes it seem like you were more than just "talking" with her. If so, then you better make good on the other part of what you told her, which is to be friends. You are the one who will probably need to make that happen - and you probably do really need to make it happen.
2007-01-01 05:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by forex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since talkinto her didn't help try to keep ur self away not to much but let her know ur not really interested in that don't be to nice nor to agresive jus do thingz friends do but be a lil hard
2007-01-01 05:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by bellaca mala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just cant stop people or a person love u... y do u say that she loves u when she's alrdy married? doesnt she love her husband?? anyways, u hve talk to her alrdy and u said u jz wnt to stay frnds, but she cldnt be just ur frnd, wel thats her choice u cnt do anythng about that.. u have done ur part alrdy, now juz let it be for the moment give her time to thnk things over... and thats it... peace out!
2007-01-01 06:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by katrina r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stress it too much. just dont be an asshole. women tend to have short memories. she won't even remember your name once she finds another guy to fall in love with. she seems like the type that falls in and out love quickly anyway.
2007-01-01 05:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋