I live with my Bossy Motherinlaw and Wife in Her House.?

Question

I been living with my very Bossy Motherinlaw and Wife for two years now. I been out of work and we lost our House so she Has takes us in. She and My wife are in Business and work full time. They leave Me at Home all day. Well she has me cleaning washing etc I cook for them as well. If I do not do as she want she yells at me and Her and My wife dont talk to me. Now they just sold my car as I have no say at all. I see they are molding Me into a submissive Maid for them. I kinda let this Happen But Now I think I am past the point of no return. Whats Next for Me? She's talking about Buying Pantys If I dont get in Line!!!!! She Has said this a few time in the Last week

Answer 1

Gee Bill,
Time to go out and find gainful employment.
Obviously your wife has lost all respect for you, and why shouldn't she, you have too.

There is never a point of no return.
You must have a friend who can loan you his couch for a few months until you get back on your feet.

I do cooking for my family, Cleaning and laundry too.
I also have a job and pick up the kids after day care.

You do not have to take this kind of abuse ( unless you like wearing women's panties.)

Time to get your life back bro'

Go seek counseling if you need help taking the next step in reclaiming your life and testicles.

Answer 2

OK -- How about if you get out of the home and into a FULL TIME JOB YOURSELF so that you can have some income coming in and be able to move back out on your own!

That is the simple (and elegant) solution to this whole mess ... and given that your mother-in-law has GRACIOUSLY allowed you (and her daughter, your wife) to move BACK into HER HOME (the mother-in-laws) ....

WHAT in the WORLD are you complaining about at this time? What is a few chores compared to the fact that you both are comfortable, living in a stable address, eating food, etc?

I see this as just and fair -- and they do to.

Let me tell you this -- washing, dishes, cooking, cleaning ... they are not chores ascribed to any given sex of individual -- they are "HOUSEHOLD CHORES" and nowadays .. they should be shared EQUALLY by the household .. and in fact, if one partner is staying home while the other is earning the lion's share of the income (and is working while the other is not), then you need to pick up more chores in the process.

In the next part -- you complain about the sale of the vehicle. Well ... when you are out of work, the bills keep coming in ... and luxuries need to be given up to pay the bills that are for NECESSITIES in life (food, clothing, shelter, utilities) ... and guess what -- a car is a LUXURY item. Selling the car is a VERY PRACTICAL way of cutting costs/expenses in a household, especially where one member is now unemployed and has been so for TWO YEARS!

Yes, TWO YEARS is a very long time to be unemployed (and you don't sound as if you are at retirement age either (or even mention that you have a pension)) -- so that is most likely not a factor in your unemployment here -- and neither is there mention of any physical disability either -- so that won't be a factor either.

Answer 3

Okay - if you are not working and they are - the least you could do is carry the other end of the load at home, since you have more idle time in which to do many of these things.

Men are quick to forget that whether women work or not outside the home, these same things are expected to be done.

Someone cannot sell an automobile in your name without your permission.

If you are not happy being at home, then take a lower level paying job until something better opens - this will allow you time away from the house, them and also again give you financial input for your share of the expenses.

The fact that she has used this circumstance as an excuse to become verbally abusive is her own childishness but most likely just speaking out of frustration.

If you do not enjoy living there - find a way to get you and your family out!

Want to be assumed a man - be a man!

Best wishes!

Answer 4

They are manipulating you, and that definitely sounds like an abusive relationship. You are in a bad position, because you don't have a job and can't support yourself. They are definitely disrespecting you, and that does not make for a good, healthy relationship. I think that you should talk with your wife first, then your mother-in-law (if you can get your wife onboard), and explain how you're feeling. Part of that conversation would include the ultimatum that if the three of you could not come to a compromise and have a respect for each other, you would leave. There's no way that you can be happy in that type of situation. If it doesn't change, get out.

On the other hand, perhaps they are just voicing frustration because you are not pulling your weight. If you don't have a job, and they do, you should definitely be doing the cleaning and cooking. You have to earn your keep. It sounds like you want respect when you give them little reason to respect you. Granted, every human being reserves some basic level of respect; however, it is really difficult to respect or love a moocher.

Answer 5

House

Answer 6

I think maybe you should start looking for a job. This is probably why they are being this way. If your wife works all day and you stay at home, whether it be your home or your mother-in-laws then you should help out around the house. It's only fair that you help out. And if she realy is as bossey as you say she is try and dothese things without being told. If that doesn't work talk to her about it. I think you need to save your marriage before you wreck it.

Answer 7

well, why don't you go to school on line so you can get a degree while staying home? that way, you will have something to fall back when you decide to look for a new career. since you guys lived with the in-laws, that's her house, she rule.

you guys need to talk and discuss things what needs to be done, tell your wife how you feel but make sure you are not out of line. respect the head of the household, that way, peace will adhere to your issue.

with their business, think of something, ideas or strategy to help add profit or client to their venture. you are a man who they wanted to hear from. show your ability in some kind of way, push yourself to a degree for them to see you have some guts to be the head of the household sometime.

Answer 8

First thing you do it wait uder her bed, when she puts her feet on the floor after waking up, probably from one of her naps, cut a horizontal line along her achilles tendon located a inch above her heel. This will put her on the floor, and put her at your mercy. Good luck!!

Kidding man, basically you need to stand up to her and let her know that this your life and you will not let her get in the way of making sweet love to your wife. You need to move out as soon as possible, and let her know that she was the primary cause of your departure. Once she realizes that you feel this way, make sure your wife knows you are telling her this, she may warm up a little. If not refer to paragraph one....

Answer 9

In the words of the Godfather, "You can act like a man!" no one is out of work for TWO FREAKIN YEARS unless they want to be. You're a lazy punk. If you wanted to be treatd like a man, quit acting like a little girl. If you want to stay home, great. Do the housework while your wife supports you, Willamena.

Answer 10

WOW...I'll avoid making you feel like the biggest loser on the planet by giving you sound advice! 1) Divorce that piece of crap AND your wife. 2) Sue her for alimony and lots of it. 3) Never forgive them OR GO BACK. 4) STOP BEING SUCH A PU**Y AND GET A JOB! 5) If there are children that you sired involved, take custody. 6) You need to learn to eat some red meat!!!!