I spent new years eve home alone. I have no friends cause I am extremely quiet, not shy. Just not into a lot of BS. I am so pissed. We used to do everything together now he's hardly around. We've been living together since September and it was downhill from there. I found out I was pregnant in December and he argued every day that I should have an abortion. Went to the ER twice and was put on bed rest. Had a miscarriage a week ago so I am still in a funk about that. And now he pulls this crap. Any advice for this broken heart?
2007-01-01 05:21:52 · 27 answers · asked by AmyM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pull yourself together, and dump his @ss! I am so sorry about your miscarriage.
2007-01-01 05:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice person and young enough that you could start over. This situation you are in is not making you happy and if you have no other children you could easily leave it and him behind you. Sometimes men think when they have you with an engagement or marriage they can just possess you like property and no longer have to work to maintain a relationship with you, or they might test the waters to see what you will let them get away with. If you choose to stay you might want to set those boundaries right away. You have been through a really tough time lately and it sounds like he is not concerned with your feelings so this might be what a marriage would be like with him. I think you deserve better than that but that is your decision to make. Please don't think you will be able to change him into what you want or need you can't change another person only yourself, no matter how much you love him. Take sometime to sort things out for yourself you are in control of your own destiny I have faith in you that you will not settle for this kind of a life.
2007-01-01 05:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the miscarriage. But it seems to me he lost interest in you after you all moved in together and then you got pregnant and you did not want to get rid of it. That threw him over. Get out now while it's still earlier. If that's what you want to do. Only you know when you've had enough. You will know when it's time. Trust me he might be going through his own little thing now if you love him and want to be with him talk with him. If your through then go. Good luck.
2007-01-01 05:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by voluptuousdiva4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call it off.. he's a definite JERK with capital letters. That's no way for a fiance to treat you like that.. No decent guy would do that.. why do you put up with him?
And get new friends.. talk to people. smile. laugh at jokes. You need to go out and find better people who understands you and will support you.
You should not be with this guy a day longer, much less get married and spend the rest of your life together. You'll be doing yourself and doing him a favor if you call it off early before getting married.
2007-01-01 05:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, real quick. That is just a taste of what to expect in the future if you stay with him, only it will get much worse. I am sorry you had a miscarriage. A lot of first time mothers do. The next time you have sex with someone, ask yourself if you want this person to be the father of your child (it could happen anytime, with anyone) Good luck.
2007-01-01 05:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG Thats terrible!!! how could somebody do that thing to you, I mean you should have ditched him when he told you to get an abortion, he wanted you to kill a life!!! You should be more outspoken and find a couple girlfriends even call some of your friends from school, They would like to here from you, so just remember life goes and just like the song by beyonce Irreplaceable, he is REPLACEABLE!!!!! Good Luck and Happy New Year!!!
My advice GET RID OF HIM!!!
2007-01-01 05:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by basenjicrazed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not the one for you honey, be glad you moved in together prior to marriage so you could get a taste of how it would be. As soon as you are well enough to do so, get out on your own and get back into life.
Learn the lesson(s) to be learned and know that better things are out there...move forward to those better things and leave this bad experience behind you...
2007-01-01 05:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WoW......sounds like this guy needs some help! I am sry about your miscarage. I think you should tell this guy that you dot want to see him anymore. he is no good for you. You should Move on and find a better man that loves you and wants kids and doesent presure you to do anything. You need a guy who is going to be there for you threw thick and thin. And this guy clearly is not the right guy for you. Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-01 05:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by peace love & lipgloss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, start taking birth control pills..
Secondly, find a new b/f.
Best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love.
Your b/f has already found a new g/f.
2007-01-01 05:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl leave his *** so damn fast and dont look back. He is not even worth your time. Sorry about the miscarriage. But leave him. Did he even give you and excuse about being out. He still sounds childish.
2007-01-01 05:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Dareisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋