I have had counseling through the ACS and have been trying all their suggestions. I need some new direction.
2007-01-01 05:18:11 · 9 answers · asked by robert s 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
The same thing happened to me for the same reason. I was 29 years old, 8 months pregnant, and had an 18 month old daughter when I was diagnosed. I did really well while I was in treatment and going through all of my surgeries. It wasn't until about 2 years after my diagnosis when th depression set in. I am now on Lexapro (antidepressant) and I see a therapist every month. Both seem to be helping me. I was told that this is a situational depression, which makes sense.
I have also gone on retreats with women who have or had BC and that helped a lot. I am now looking into starting a local support group since there is a need for it here.
You seem to be a good husband, like mine is, which is wonderful. I know you probably want to solve her problems, fix her, etc, but it really is something she has to do on her own time. Keep being supportive of her, listen when she has a tough day, and although I never believed it, things will, and do get better. I am now at a point where cancer is not the first thing I think about in the morning. Good luck to both of you!
2007-01-01 05:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by BriteHope 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd call the cancer society and ask for a support group close to home for both of you to go together. Remember YOU and your wife are both battling cancer. So approach this with that kind of mind frame. It is a long road with many pittfalls but if you hold in your heart that this is OUR battle then you both can succeed. Try calling local hospitals, sometimes they have weekly or monthly meetings for different support groups...She does not need therapy, she needs an outlet for her to know she is not alone. NEVER, NEVER make her feel that She is battling breast cancer, always WE ARE! Also let your doctor know as her depression is common with a diagnosis of cancer, he/she might have some suggestions...Good Luck!
2007-01-01 13:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. You just need to show her that you love her no matter what. But one of the best things you can do for your wife is get her into a support group with woman who have gone through the same thing. Just tell her, that she is no less of a woman because of it. She is more beautiful because she survied. Good Luck, and may God Bless the both of you.
2007-01-01 13:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Andie F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your health care provider & get a support group for you wife. I think, the best results are from sharing with others, who are going through similar health issues. At the least, she would need her own Therapist.
2007-01-01 13:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mention the ACS, but do you know that there are other online support groups that can help your wife?
CancerCare has social workers who will call you or help direct you to local resources. They are a non-profit group:
http://www.cancercare.org/
2007-01-01 14:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Panda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sir, please be encouraged and I admire you for reaching out. I know you asked for some successful results and while I personally can't offer anything from experience, I did want to encourage you. Do you have a faith based support system? As you know, her mental state is very important to the healing process. My background is Christian and the Bible teaches that healing is available for those who will receive it. God is a miracle worker and is not a respecter of persons. She's got to know that just like others, healing is for her as well. See Isaiah 53:5 I'll keep you and your wife in my prayers.
2007-01-01 13:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Emerald Jones 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get the book by Dodie Osteen "Healed of Cancer"- she meditated on Bible Scripture specifically for healing cancer and she survived. I will say a prayer for you and your wife. Hold on and Keep the Faith - Nothing is Impossible with God.:)
2007-01-01 13:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by j b 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Apricot seeds. Eat them. The Bible says to, and they are the cure.
http://www.cancure.org/laetrile.htm
Watch this video:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=4312930190281243507
Don't believe the LIES about cyanide. The molecule is only released in the cancer cells to DESTROY the cancer cells, NOT the healthy cells.
2007-01-01 15:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by G M 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Think of people who are worse.
2007-01-01 14:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋