It's not that I hate my grandparents, but they are always critcizing me! When they had kids, back then kids were a lot different. They were helpful and cooperative and angels. They told their parents everything and they were never rude. Kids arent really like that anymore, and they practically hate me for that. Plus, whenever they come, they treat my mom like she is the best person in the world and they dont respect me. Also, they don't understand why I don't like to sit in their lap and have them hug and kiss me anymore. I'm 13!! And they always say that I'm acting badly and rudely. And they ignore modern technology and always talk about feminine hygene and stuff like that with my mom. The worst is when they're in public and they start talking about bras!! It's so embarassing! And they are nice to my little cousins, just not me. They act like I tire them out when little kids are more tiring and I spend most of my time talking to my talking to my friends. Help me please!
2007-01-01 05:13:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, I am happy that they are alive and I am lucky that they are still around. But they annoy me so much and are always saying what I do wrong!
2007-01-01 05:14:55 · update #1
I don't depend on them, which is one of the problems. They are used to me being a sweet cute little dependent girl instead of who I am now. They think cell phones are rude and a waste of time because you could be talking to the person next to you. They think all teenagers are rebellious, horrible, selfish people.
2007-01-01 05:27:05 · update #2
They are trying to be helpful. Enjoy them while you can...
2007-01-06 00:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Juliette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel! Except back when they had kids, their kids were brats, (aka my mom), and never listened and did drugs, and blah blah...So they think im like that now, but im not. And they are always getting on to me...for SOMETHING...and they call me stupid all the time because I don't make all A's in school anymore, when im in 9th grade and it's hard, they dont even make an effort to help me they just yell.
You just gotta sit them down and tell them..Look, im a teenager, and days and people are different now...if they're good grandparents they'll understand. Mine, however, wont get the picture after 2 years, (im 14). And i still have to live with the critisizm. ( I live with my grandparents )
I hope i helped somewhat.
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2007-01-01 05:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by savvizzle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are your grandparents and they are "stuck" in a different "time". I know it is hard but more than likely they are not going to change now. When the criticizing starts, and you really don't want to hear it, just go to that happy place in your head, don't be rude and grin while in that happy place just remain lucid. You say you love them and you are not disrespectful, then let them criticize. And as for the conversation with regard to personal items, I do that to my nieces and nephews just to embarrass them, I think it humbles. Enjoy the people in your family because you were not able to choose them and remember nothing stays the same. God Bless.
2007-01-08 20:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents grew up in a different time and place than you are. Unfortunately you can't change the way THEY act, only the way YOU react to them. Try to relax and ignore them. I know you love them, but you can't let what they say and the way the act get you down. Be yourself!!! They will either learn to accept you or not. You can't control that. It might be a good idea to talk to you Mom or another family member about how you are feeling. Maybe they can help. Keep you head up.....
2007-01-01 05:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
We have all heard the back when i was young stories from our grandparents, and some of us even from our parents. Prove them wrong, or better yet, listen to what they are saying, and maybe put out an effort to change some of your lifestyle, don't change who you are, but sometimes adults do know what is best for you.
You are way to old to have to sit on their laps though. I remember my grandpa rubbing his stubble of a beard on our faces. I hated that. But I sure miss him now.
2007-01-08 13:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by GrannyTazzyManic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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it is very hard for grandparents to change at this point in their lives .They probley don't like tech. because they don't understand it ,,maybe try to teach them how to use the computer etc.,,,respect is earned in life not given ,you said you act badly and are rude ,,being polite will go a long way with your grandparents .you are at a point in your life when things are changing,if you are embarrassed tell your mom ,maybe its time you told your family you are uncomfortable talking about certain things ....communication s the key to everything ..
2007-01-01 05:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by david y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like my daughter. i can't finish a conversation with her without her getting a text. this IS rude. this is sending a message that the person you are talking to isn't important enough to get your full attention. think about what you are doing. put your cell phone up while you are talking to people face to face. they don't really expect you to hug and kiss them. they do expect some kind of interaction other than watching you text on your cell phone. they need to take away the cell phone and gradually give you texting time. you are addicted to texting.....
2007-01-05 03:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I know what you mean, my grandmother is kind of like that too. Basically just let it roll off your back, but once in a while try to bend a little to please them; if you get pissed, you will regret it when they're not around anymore. Even just show them a little sincere affection, when you hug them say "I love you Grandma" stuff like that goes a long way.
2007-01-01 05:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well friend,i need 2 talk 2 u and know from u the about ur precise state,because givin a very generalized answewr wud maek u feel that im treatin ur case as any other teenagers.but one thing i wud like 2 know is that why ru dependant on them so much when u hv ur parents besides u
2007-01-01 05:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by dignityleo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure this problem has nothing to do with the fact that you are a rebellious, unyielding teenager. It's your parents and grandparents fault, all of it.
Why are you comparing yourself (or mimicking) to other kids your age when it's your parents and grandparents who love you, feed you, shelter you, nurse you, buy your clothes, and all the other things "kids your age" want.
You are very selfish and need to sit down with your mother and ask her why it is grandma & grandpa criticize. I suspect you give them enough reasons to keep them busy.
2007-01-01 05:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trust me, their children were not the little angels they are making them out to be. your grandparents probably said the exact same things to their own children - it's just their children grew up and now they have you to say these things to. talk to your mom, tell her how you feel, let her know it's embarrassing to you when you go out to talk about female things. ask her did they treat you like this when you were growing up? ask her what she did about it and how did it make her feel? maybe by opening up to your mom, the problem can easier for you. i hope so.
2007-01-01 05:30:39 · answer #11 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋