will things be different? will i be different?......i know my mom is proud and happy about my coming home, but what about everyone else, how will things change for me after experiencing such a time with these horrible conditions, how will my life be different, im so confused and nervous about coming home....
2007-01-01 05:12:30 · 13 answers · asked by Mr. Right 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is sad to hear...coming from a military family...I've seen how service life changes people especially the ones who have seen combat but the good thing is you are coming home...there is nothing to be guilty or nervous about...even in the worst situation..God is smiling on you..you are blessed...enjoy each moment of your life because you know that life is so precious...as for you being changed...as time goes on and we experience different events in our lives...we all change..but we also go stronger as survivors and not victims...you are a survivor....you will be suprized how much things stay the same in your hometown, your street, and in your house...but there will be some some changes...time has passed...just take it one day at a time and enjoy it...go to your favorite place to eat, hit the mall, and visit friends after spending time with relatives and close neighbors....I'm sure there will be some good home cooking waiting..get alot of rest...take to your friends and close relatives ...don't bottle up your thoughts..no matter what you think..it's better to release everything you picked up over there...all the fusturation, anxiety, and confusion..if there is any....Thank you, soldier...for your time served and now you can get back to your life...enjoy it...you earned the chance to sit back on the porch with your sweetie and pat a dog for as long as you like..if you're from the city...the movies and starbucks...
2007-01-01 05:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by D.E.O.N. Sphinxxx 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aww. You should be happy about coming home. You are a very brave individual and I have all the respect for you in the world. I know a few people who have been deployed for a year and yes it took a little time to adjust back to normal. Thats what they tell yall in deployment breifings. Dont worry about others it's you that has been through an ordeal and they should be considerate of your feelings. If things are actually that bad when you get home then there is always counseling. You will be fine. Just think positive and be proud of who you are and what you do. And be thank ful that you are simply COMING HOME.
2007-01-01 13:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Sweetness 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time to get back to normal when you come home & there are so many people that are going through this so don't feel alone.My husband has been back for 8 months now & it was hard for about 6 months.I think what you see there will make you appreciate more what you have here. Good luck & my prayers are with you.
2007-01-01 13:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes things will probably seem different to you. You will probably have to adjust again. Don't be nervous because alot of people are behind you 100%. I thank you for doing what you did. I pray for all of troops to come home to their loved ones. Just be proud of what you did. The hardest thing is talking about what went on over there. My son went over in the gulf war. And to this date he doesn't talk much about it. If you don't feel like talking about it just let everyone know. You will have all the support you need for when you come home. All I can say is just be proud of yourself, people will understand. Some people are going to ask you alot of questions. Just tell them when you are ready you will talk about it. Just relax and don't be nervous. Welcome Home.
2007-01-01 13:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Andie F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off~~~THANK YOU FOR SERVING ?
Please try to think about your Mom and everyone else that you left behind. They are waiting to welcome you home. Things are different for you, not for them. If you don't wish to talk about your experience, don't. They will understand. Try to relax for now and think about the positives & the blessing of being able to go home in the altogether. I am going to pray that the Lord will calm your soul and grant you peace. Get in a good Bible study class and you will meet lots of new friends and the larger churches(Baptist for instance) have support groups for all sorts of causes. If they don't have one for yours ,ask the Pastor about starting one.
My husband served in WW2 all the way through 3 tours to Viet Nam. He has seen a lot and at 80, he's doing fine and you will also. You have your life ahead of you. God will calm your fears !
" Happy New Year and Welcome Home "
2007-01-01 14:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don’t rush into anything ! Take one day at a time, don’t answer questions if you don’t want to. Yes you have seen-done things that are NOT a normal part of life as you knew it before you went. Remember you are not alone, and have support if you need it all you have to do is reach out. You will reintegrate into your life you knew before and resolve your experiences in Iraq, just give it time and don’t “push” yourself or the situation. If you gotta a girl home waiting,, give her time to readjust to you being home too, and she really needs to give you time to readjust also !!
Andie F and D.E.O.N both have equally great advice.
*handshake* Welcome home, be safe wish you well !!
2007-01-01 13:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that! The hardest part of coming home from there is being bombarded with the same stupid questions over and over and over. Just take it all in stride...it will be nice to get home.
2007-01-01 13:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be. You have been doing a good thing every one is going to love you. Come home and be happy you are safe i am sorry about you having to go.
2007-01-01 13:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by summer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember you are going home to the people that love you. Just take one day at a time, you will be fine. If you experience nightmares or night terrors, please talk to someone. It is nothing to be ashamed of. God Bless You!!!
2007-01-01 13:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
awwww...babe..here's a big....muahhhhhhhhhhh and a hug....i think if you take it one day at a time you'll be alright...and back into the swing of things...and if not...then....counseling is a good way to alleviate some of that heavy load .....
best wishes.....i'm glad you made it back safe....
2007-01-01 13:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋