2007-01-01 04:51:24 · 15 answers · asked by lisseth D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell him straight out from now, your father is an angel up in heaven...he's looking down on you and taking care of you. he loves you very much and he wants you to take care of me and be strong. he's always watching you and you'll always be in his heart. So when people or kids ask him where his father is later on, his answer will be, my father is an angel up in the sky...it's positive and he should know from now. the whole concept of "death" is something he will come to understand when he's much older..good luck and be strong urself too.
2007-01-01 04:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, well it's not too late get some pictures of his dad out and explain to him about Heaven (if you believe in heaven) or whatever you want to call it. Let him know how much his daddy loved him but God loved his daddy and wanted him with him something along that line only answer his questions don't give too much information and try to remember what you said as he will keep asking as the questions come to him. Do not ignore this issue you have to tell this child about his daddy.
2007-01-01 05:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by YoungAtHeart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he should know take him outside and show him the stars show him the brightest one explain that daddy cant come see you cause he is up there and he is much happier there tell him his dad loves him verymuch and that anytime he wants to see his dad he must look for the brightest star. i dont think it would be a good idea to explain the whole death regeem to him he is ti young just explain that god wanted him up there so he can make the world for him a better place more things can be done from up there but hiding it would be a very bad thing to do he is three not stupid and only going to get brighter every day start with this maybe it will ease his curiosty good luck..
2007-01-01 04:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard to believe a 3 year old , after 2 years is asking for dad- are you taking about dad in his presence- if so stop ?- tell him daddy is away, and hopefully with time we will see him again-
Or daddy love us but he went away- it's you and I now - and I love you very much
2007-01-01 05:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is old enough to ask he's old enough to be told the truth.Gently tell him that his father is in heaven and looks over him all the time. Also that he can talk to his dad and his dad will hear him.
2007-01-01 04:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to explain it to him. He is still a little young but, he needs to know. My kids lost there dad and my youngest was 21/2. She still knew.. I told her. if you continue not telling them when they are old enough they will resent you for this. You have to explain it on there level but, I just told her that he was her angel Although she was too young to fully undertand she accepted that and as she got older she started to understand more about death and that it is forever. It was easier on her that I had told her when she was young because I dont know how I would have ever thought she was old enough to know something like that. Kids are smarter than you think and although it wont be easy, it will never get any easier.
2007-01-01 04:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss and that of your son. Tell him that daddy is always with him and watches over him but, as much as he loved his son he had to go to heaven. Make sure that his paternal grandparents / family are in his life if at all possible (even if you don't like them, suck it up for your son's sake.)
Remember, tell him stories about his father and keep telling him that his daddy would be with him if he could but he is watching from heaven. Make sure he knows that his father's absence is no-one's fault -- esp. not his!
2007-01-01 05:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mari N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell him his father is dead. In a way sensative to a three year old's thinking. Perhaps you can ask for advice from a community centre in your city. Therapists may know the way to tell him. He needs to know and he needs to mourn just like you did. Life can't go on if we don't mourn.
2007-01-01 04:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and don't concoct some story about him going on vacation or something stupid like that. You don't have to include all of the details, but don't let him grow up disillusioned either.
2007-01-01 04:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by Wannabeadoc06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth .....my husband died and my girl was 7 ..
she knows what happen ....he took his own life ....
she asks if he's happy with the angels ???? or do i think he is singing with them??? i have pictures of him up ...and talk about it
whenever she want to....if you believe like i do i would say God
call him home ...and he is watching from the heavens above...
that he loved your son more than life itself ....as to why ...maybe
when he is older you can tell him how and why.
2007-01-01 05:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋