This guy that I've liked 4 a long time moved but I still have feelings for him & he tells me that he still has feelings for me but he has a girlfriend where he lives now but I still talk to him all the time! Should I stop all contact with him even though I don't want to?! Advice please!?
2007-01-01 04:46:32 · 11 answers · asked by ~brunette♥~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should stop all contact with him because you are daydreaming about getting involved when 1) you're obviously too young and 2) he's taken.
Let's just say you were old enough, and he broke up with his girlfriend who's right there, to have a long-distance relationship with you. Would you be able to trust him from that distance? He cheated WITH you, so why wouldn't he cheat ON you?
Daydreams don't come true.
2007-01-01 04:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldn't stop contact with him. Definitely not. There's obviously a connection between the two of you. His girlfriend may or may not be around for the long run, but that shouldn't stop you guys from at least being friends. I don't know if she knows about you, but that's his problem as to whether he's gonna be honest. I don't know how far away he is, but it doesn't sound like talking is gonna lead to anything else...at least for now. Only time will tell.
Having said that, keep your other options open. Constantly remind yourself he is taken. And you should date too, if the opportunity presents itself. It will be good for you.
2007-01-01 12:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should quit talking to him for a while. This is because you will not be able to move on and allow yourself to possibly be open to meeting somone new as long as you are talking to this person that is not available all the time. I know it will be hard for you but after a while...you will see that it is definitely for the best. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-01 12:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Ginger P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because you liked him & he moved but how far away did he move? If it's out of state, long-distance realationships are hard.. also; if it's in-state & he has a girlfriend; if he cared about you like he tells you; why does he have a girlfriend? and why isn't he planning to hang out with you? it's tough because if it's out of state; you seem young, would you really be comitted to a long-distance relationship?
2007-01-01 12:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason to cease contact, but keep it appropriate. Don't say anything to him that you wouldn't like another girl saying to your boyfriend, and if he says anything you wouldn't want your boyfriend to say to another girl then let him know you don't feel that is appropriate.
It's fine to be friends but realize since he's moved and has a girlfriend that your relationship right now is probably all it will ever be.
Treat others as you'd like to be treated...ya can't go wrong with that.
2007-01-01 12:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person above me. It definately doesn't hurt to be friends. But since he has a girlfriend and since he moved, I think that friends should be the limit.
2007-01-01 12:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by souawnt2bcliche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just be friends. I would be so devestated to never see him. Cause he lives so far away now. Just talk to him through email and stay in touch by being friends!
2007-01-01 13:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by girlygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay friends with him, maybe you guys can meet up once in a while and go out or something. how far has he moved? if its not too far you should ask him if he wants to get together some time. if its far, keep in touch with him, its always good to have friends.
2007-01-01 12:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, u should probably just remain friends with him. He has a girlfriend and maybe if he breaks up w/ her ask him out. If he just wants to be friends then let him. Good luck!
~Rachey
2007-01-01 13:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie i had the same problem and now he's married and i just can't seem to get over it. so my advice to you is to follow your heart even if it means that you have to follow him to where he moved to. trust me if you don't you will suffer in the end.
2007-01-01 12:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋