ok i am a 23 year old female and i am not skinny but when guys look at me they think i am not good looking and make fun of me. i have alot to offer. i mean i have a big heart and i am funny and caring. but it only seems that men want looks not heart. and then men that like big girls r well most of them r ***. i do not get it. is there some one out there that looks for what is in the inside not the outside/ please let me know.
2007-01-01 04:31:32 · 28 answers · asked by angeleyes84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes seconds to look at the outside of a person and years to see the inner, but don't give up, one day you'll find a guy that looks for your inner beauty. I know, and I got of of the last good guys and I am no beauty queen!
2007-01-01 04:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As Dustin mentioned above, there are guys out there that don't care about what is on the outside as much as what is on the inside.
And to be fair, there are a lot of women out there that do the same thing to guys... they are more concerned with looks than the person on the inside, even though they might even say they are looking for the mythical "nice guy". They only want to make the effort to get to know the person if they like the outside. It's not just the nice person (hard enough to find as it is) but also trying to say (well, they have to look good to me too, have this sort of income, etc).
But there are people out there that don't fall into that way of thinking, but they are pretty uncommon if not rare. You just have to keep looking, and make sure you yourself are looking for the important things.
2007-01-01 04:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cruel Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some men who only look at the outside, true, but I would have to say that it is not the majority. The outside is the only thing that counts when they're only looking for sex. If they are looking for a relationship, there are many other factors that need to be considered.
In fairness, though, for both men AND women, the outside is the first thing we notice, and in most relationships, what's on the outside does count for men and women. It takes a long time to get to know the inside.
Also, you must understand that the factors that are most important to women are not the same as it is for men. Men tend to be more visual and require visual stimulation as women tend to be more emotional and require emotional stimulation. That's just a part of nature we all have to deal with. Personality also counts for a lot for both men and women.
In short, you don't have to have a perfect body for a man to notice you, but you must be aware that physical appearance does count when you are trying to get noticed. So, be yourself, work with what you have and make the best of it. Keep a positive attitude and let your personality shine when you are in the company of men you like.
2007-01-01 04:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men and women both care about the outside when they first meet someone but thats not what matters in the long run. I think if a man would somehow get to know you he could like you, but men are all different. Lots of men like larger women. I for example dont' like skinny girls, I like thick ones, but to keep it real, most people look at the outside to begin with.
2007-01-01 04:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, sweetheart. I know you think that guys only look at stuff on the outside. But it's NOT TRUE. Yes, there are alot of guys that are jerks and only look on the outside, but there's just as many guys that really care about what's on the inside and I'm sure would love to be in a relationship with you. You'll find your guy soon.
Good luck :)
2007-01-01 04:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
our behavior is a "learned" thing. we are taught all our lives what is good and what is bad from tv,tabloids ect. We act upon what we see. Also the porn industry does not help this, to be beautiful on the outside is so important nowdays. But there are those of us that know better, that you can't live with someone just becouse of looks, but this realization usually doesn't happen till a man has finally "grown up" and realizes that love is more lasting than any body, and time waits for no one. yes there is someone out there for you. forget the shallow people, put a smile on your face and look where others don't.
2007-01-01 04:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by fman440 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys thinks its important for a girl to have everything they look for in a girl---when it comes to the features on the face, the hair, the butt, or the breasts. But its their problem that they only like what's on the outside of a girl. On the other hand, there are also many guys that think what is in the inside are also important. Guys who aren't smart enough to see that the inside is also important, than they're not worth it at all to have a girl, and girl i meant you!
2007-01-01 04:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by missdo01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of it is in the way our brains are hardwired. Studies have shown that men are visually orientated. That being said, that does not mean that this initial orientation cannot be overcome with inner beauty, charm, and grace. However you will have to exude these qualities with the force of a volcano in order to overcome the first impression. Either that or spend your time quietly developing friendships with guys until one notices you beyond your outer appearance. I am not trying to be mean or pessimistic. Just giving it to you straight. You are 23. Start walking daily, limit fast food, and make sure your hair, nails, and makeup are flawless. You will catch your man. I am 44 and I was 40lbs overwieght until I started walking, limiting what I eat, and getting rid of fast food. Your metabolism is much younger than mine. You can do it!
2007-01-01 04:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, not all guys are like that perhpas your choice of men is the problem. Then again it sounds as if it could be an esteem thing. Work on boosting yourself up and carry yourself as the beautiful and fun person you know you are. Someone will notice, and he will love you for you not your size.
P.S. skinny girls aren't always nice girls.
You have to love you, before anyone else can.
2007-01-01 04:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Y.a.S.L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... it is all about the beauty. Perhaps you should consider the blokes that do like big girls? even if they are r*** what does r*** mean anyway?
If you mean they are ugly then eprhaps you are as bad as the rest of society in chasing beauty?. Surely if you are a larger lady you would want a slightly larger bloke rather than some skinny runt?
2007-01-01 04:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by jonnie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋