I am divorced with 2 kids. I have been on a few dates with a man that is 8 years younger and never been married. He has been concentrating on school and family. I like him, but I am afraid that being at his age, he is moving too fast thinking of having a wife. He is a gentleman, sweet, and attentive, so I don't want to just get scared and distance myself from him if it could be a good thing.
2007-01-01 04:20:51 · 7 answers · asked by ColoradoGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
8 Years is hardly a breath in today's world, honey. If your interests lie close together, if HE doesn't have a problem with the age difference, if we aren't talking you being 18 and him being 10, and if you talk to him and he can keep you in the proper perspective than by all means, date the man.
But you really are asking the wrong people. Shouldn't you have a conversation with him? Just find out what his dating motives are. Some people date for fun while others are, as you say, looking for a wife. Only he can tell you what his designs on you are.
Even if he does see you as marriage material, a short conversation may set him straight and pave the way for an honest relationship that allows the two of you to enjoy each others company with the understanding that there is no marriage in your future..
2007-01-01 04:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again...I sound like a broken record sometimes on here...Age is only a number. I have several friends who are married to those much younger or older than their mate...both male younger or female younger by many years more than 8.
You ultimently have to decide what you want to do or if you love him. You know the situation much better than any of us on here do. If you enjoy his company and believe this is lasting then by all means go for it...How do your kids get along with him? That has to be considered as well. And what role will he play in their lives?
If all seems well and good then enjoy life with him.
Seeing your name Colorado Girl...I lived all over Colorado for about 40 years...Grand Junction is where I used to call home.
2007-01-01 04:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anything else going on besides your kids? If you are out of the work place and college ... live life without growing and learning ... yeah he's going to out grow you. It's not going to be the age difference that gets in the way ... it's going to be because only one of you is changing.
2007-01-01 04:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know how you feel about the age difference. Of course you don't tell us what your ages are so it is hard to give fair advice about what you could do about it.
2007-01-01 04:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about age, its about maturity. Someone can be 50 and act 15.
2007-01-01 04:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't interested in marriage, then tell him... But if he is fun and good in the sack, then carry on enjoying it... :D
2007-01-01 04:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut. It will hardly ever be wrong.
2007-01-01 04:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋