I Opened The Door And Saw My 12 Year Old Daughter?

Question

putting on lipstick and make-up. Should I let her wear it or not?

Answer 1

You can let her wear it around the house, but I wouldn't advise letting her wear it to church or school. Most girls that age are curious about makeup. YOu should buy her some natural looking makeup. Lip gloss instead of lipstick. A little powder to match her skin tone and possibly a little brown eyeliner. She will probably end up liking that look better anyways. As she gets older you can allow her to wear lipstick and eyeshadow in public. Light pretty makeup is okay for a girl around twelve to wear out, but dark noticable makeup won't give others a good impression of her. She is growing up and becoming a teenager, she deserves a teensy bit more freedom.

Answer 2

I actually asked someone about this once and she had been though that as well - in fact most moms do eventually. She said when her kids got interested in make-up, she let them get into it gradually. First, she started with a lightly colored gloss. She told her girls that they were allowed to wear that, and when she felt they were ready, they would move on to something more. 6 months later, she would get them real lipstick. Then, 6 months later, some mascara, and teach them how to use that, etc. She would break it up that way so that by the time they were allowed to wear full makeup (foundation, blush, etc) they were about 15 or so.

PS, I used to sell makeup and they say that as soon as they begin puberity (12/13ish), you should start them on a facial cleansing/moustizer routine and have them start using a light coverage foundation with sunscreen to protect their skin. That could be worked in as part of the process - learning to make the cleansing routine a habit, rewarded with letting them start wearing a very light coverage foundation. Not only are you making it a more gradual process, but teaching them good habits to protect their skin as well.

Answer 3

I think you are freaking out over this when it is just make-up. It washes off. Let her wear it at home. The best thing to do is explain that heavy make-up is for older women and I think if you take her out and buy her some light stuff like gloss, a light mascara and a little blush that should be enough and you can also control it and she feels like she is getting what she needs. Also, ask her why she is wearing it. Maybe she just wants to look pretty like mommy or something.

Answer 4

It certainly depends on what your beliefs are and how comfortable you are with your daughter wearing make-up.

In today's society girls are doing many things younger and younger and the purpose of make-up is usually to make one look older or to make her feel better about herself by making her look better (at least in her eyes/mind). Talk to her and find out why she wants to wear makeup.

If you decide to allow her to wear make-up, take her to a salon/store where she can have lessons and be taught how to apply it properly. Not only will this teach her how to apply it and "enhance" her features but how to care for her skin as well.
You may also choose to limit what she can wear - only mascara and lipstick? or within limits - nothing to outlandish.

I started wearing makeup when I was 12 (20 years ago) and wish I would have taken my parents advice and taken lessons, especially when looking back at pictures!! lol

Good luck and welcome to the world of the teenaged girl - it's just starting. Remember, open communication is very important! Even when it seems that she isn't listening, she is!! Take advantage of that!

Answer 5

Part of the thrill when I started wearing make up was the fact that my mom didn't want me to. She's 12 and is craving freedom and independence. I would let her wear stuff that doesn't change her appearance but lets her be more confident. I'd say maybe a little mascara and lip gloss would do it. Anything more is probably too much.

Answer 6

Make up is such a girly thing. Talk to her about it and tell her that if she wants to wear make up then just wear it on the weekends, but not to school as she is still just a little too young for that. That way you are showing her that you are open minded to her changing needs and maybe she will come to you with the bigger things in life. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Did you or would you have done the same at her age?

A lot of young girls do but it is very much a question of whether its is acceptable to you and your own social circle. Does it send out the wrong messages?

In the privacy of her own room she is probably just experimenting to see how she looks. No cause for alarm save it indicates what she is currently thinking about. (She is starting to grow up)

If you are not comfortable with her wearing such stuff then tell her that you dont think she is ready for it yet.

Answer 8

Maybe some colorless lipgloss, and a little blush. This way she don't feel like you are treating her unfairly, but no to everything else. A lot of kids wear makeup, and lots of it at this age, not sure about their parents. To each there own though. You want your daughter to fit in without losing control, so give a little. You can have colorless lipgloss and light blush, but no eyeshadow, mascara, ect. This way your daughter still looks like a proper young lady, and you 2 still have a good relationship. Good Luck

Answer 9

Sure she should wear it, around you....but not at school...girls try to grow up too fast these days. Although they can't stay little forever, they still need to slow down. I think lip gloss and some glitter gel are okay, but not eye makeup and lipstick. Hope this helps!

Answer 10

Let her wear it at home. When she goes out of the house, it's inappropriate. It gives the wrong message to boys (and adults about your parenting skills!)

Let her wear it at home. It takes awhile to get good at not over-doing it. Practice is fun, and if she understands the rules, then you can put on makeup with her. She will trust you if you let her do something more grown-up than usual.