My four year old refused to sleep in her own bed. Help!!!?

Question

My daughter refuses to sleep in her own bed ever since we moved, but that was 18months ago. Her crib was in our room at the old house, but now she has a bedroom all of her own now, but she doesn't want to sleep in her bed. I have made the mistake of not forcing the issue because I have to get up at 4:30 to get ready for work. How can I undo this horrible mistake?

She now has her own big girl bed, she gave up the crib when we moved.

Answer 1

place her in her bed, read her a story tell her its bedtime night night etc.

if she gets up say its bedtime darling put her stright back to bed.

if she gets up a 2nd time, just say bed time. dont answer any questions she has just place her in bed.

if she gets up anymore times after this just keep puting her in bed and dont say anything to her.

if she knows that u will do what she asks and answer her questions when she gets up, she will continue to get up.

if u dont answer her she will get bored and more likely to fall asleep faster,

this may be a struggle at first because u usualy give in to her (big mistake) she will test u as far as she can to see how far u will go before giving in.

Answer 2

Being a parent is hard. My sister will be 10 in February and still sleeps with my mom. Everyone gives them grief about it. Do you want that to be you? My mom always comes back with. "it doesn't hurt anything." I am sure your husband would like some privacy with you. It will take lack of sleep for probably around one week. Whatever you do if she keeps you up all night, don't allow her to nap during the day. Just keep putting her back in there no matter how much she cries. Turn on a night light for her if she is scared. Tell her she needs to be a big girl, and if she sleeps through the night without coming into mommies bed she will be rewarded with something new for her room. It will be difficult, but it is past time for it to be done. Good luck.

Answer 3

Crib? Why does a 4 yr. old have a crib? Get rid of it. You should have had Santa leave the bed and take away the crib. Look your four yr. old understands everything, so lay it on the line. She must sleep in her room, on the bed or the floor but she must stay there. I'd tell her that we were redoing her room in any color she wished and decorated it real nice. Let her have a say in her room. Make it warm with a rug and some character motif. She'll never want to leave it. treat her like a baby and she'll only act like one.

Answer 4

Try this on a day when u DON'T have to work! put her in her room read her a quick story and shut the door if shewakes up and starts to cry don't do anything. Trust me it's the only way torwards freedom. I have a 1, 3, 4,and twin 6 year olds and when we moved the 1,3 and 4 yr.olds all wanted to sleep with me I let them for a couple of days and then I started doing that. It works really good but it takes about 3 or 4 days to work for good.

Answer 5

Let her pick out new things for her room, if new things didn't move with you. things like a new comforter, curtains, decorations - things to make her room seem more of "her" own place. It's supposed to help her want to stay the night in her room, with all of these new things that she got to pick out herself.

Make sure she has a nightlight, too.

What is her bedtime routine? Maybe you could lie down with her on her bed and read stories to her or talk to her until she goes to sleep.

Answer 6

There are some good solutions under. yet, he's doing this for interest and as long as you shop giving him the attention, he will shop doing it. tell him in an authoritative voice that this is time for him to pass to mattress. do no longer ask him. tell him. positioned him to mattress without television. If he gets up, take him immediately back to mattress, without arguing or something. you are the boss. Be the boss. eliminate all remotes. If he maintains to upward push up, say no longer the rest, yet take him back to mattress - in the present day. He could learn which you will no longer post with it and he will pass to sleep. i'm no longer afraid to spank the two. Spanking isn't a beating, yet, an interest getter. regardless of you do, be employer, consistent and take no crap.

Answer 7

Maybe she still doesn't feel good about the move. Talk to her about that when you tuck her in next time. If you stay with her until she falls asleep thing will probably improve for you. Have you explainend her WHY she has to sleep in her own room? Keep repeating it until she acepts you ain't gonna have it any other way... Good luck!

Answer 8

it's going to take lost sleep on your part, as long as you're prepared for it and won't get upset. you must keep taking her back to bed and putting her there and tell her goodnight. after 3 trips out don't even tell her goodnight, just place her back in her bed. now that it's a new year can you take some vacation time and just fight it out? it's going to be rough the first few nights, but she will get the hint she needs to stay in her bed. stay strong and cosistant. if you just once give in you are starting back at square one, and it will take longer to acheive the second and third attmepts because she thinks you'll give in.

Answer 9

We had this same problem. I bought a tv with a remote control that had a sleep timer. I put on my son's favorite cartoon for 15 minutes and he had to sleep when the tv went off. After a week of this, he started falling asleep automatically. Good luck.

Answer 10

it's not a horrible mistake. you were attending to the needs of your chlid. society wants to tell you you've done something wrong, so that they can justify to themselves their neglect of their own children's needs.

most kids want no part of being in their own room until around age 7. this is normal, evolutionarily sound behavior.

the brain is wired to make children terrified at night when away from mommy. think how dangerous it has been for most of human existance. it's still somewhat dangerous in fact, and in brain biology, nothing's changed.

you can have her fall asleep in your room and then put her in her room, expecting her to come back when she wakes up. or, you can stay in her room until she falls asleep.

in any case, there is nothing wrong with making sure your child feels secure at night and you should stop listening to people who want you to think there is. you've made no mistake in that area. you've met your child's needs.