Do noisy neighbors bother you?

Question

Here is the story: The people in the apartment above us are constantly making noise such as loud stomping, loud music/tv and laughing/talking loud from like 10pm sometimes until 2am! I bang on the ceiling but now they started to stomp back. Real mature! I told my husband to go up there and complain to the man who is living there and he won't. He is the type that wants to be everyones 'friend". His mother owes the place too so I am so upset that he won't say anything! I can't sleep and our son is being disturbed at night too. My real question here is do you think since I have attempted to fix the problem it is my husbands turn to "be a man" and fix this once and for all!? HELP! My relationship is sufferering do to this too.

Answer 1

Some guys just don't have the type-A personality to deal with problem neighbors. If the property is owned and managed by your MIL (mother-in-law), you should bring it to her attention. It is her responsibility to regulate her tenants. Make sure she realizes that her grandson is being disturbed by it.

Obviously the easiest answer is to move into a home of your own, or find a new situation where yours is the top floor apartment, but your finances may not provide for those solutions.

If your husband is not fond of confrontation, try this: find out where the people upstairs work and hang out, and arrange to have a "chance meeting." Become friends. Later on, realize that, OMFG, you all live in THE SAME building/complex!! It's easier to ask friends to keep it down. GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

I know what a pain unwanted noise can be...I've lived near bars for the past 10 years and had problems with the owners because of the noise. What I did was this: 1. I went and spoke to the person in charge and explained that I needed to sleep at night. I quoted Mexican Benito Juarez's famous line: " To respect other peoples' rights is to have peace." (Roughly translated). Their position was: "Yeah- whatever." Very rude. 2. When they didn't stop the noise, I called the police on them. I actually went downtown and asked for an appointment with the head of the division that deals with neighborhood complaints and explained the situation. (OH: IMPORTANT: I came to this appointment prepared. I had with me a signed petition of other neighbors who were also sick of this but were unwilling to actually move their heinies. I also took pictures of the places and had a map (now you can use the Google satellite pictures...!¨) to show where this was taking place. 3. I then called every night to pester them and ask them to come and verify the noise. They did and ordered the bars to soundproof the places. (As you can imagine, I wasn't very popular with the owners of the businesses...) This took over a year and a half....A lot of time and energy! But now things are better, thank God! ......................................... I'd say this: Collect evidence that this is happening and have other neighbors join you. The more you are, the stronger you are. Finally, if this insensitive person continues to harass you with his noise...Pay him back with the same coin! That means that if you can't sleep at night because of his loud music , you might try to play loud music when he's sleeping....That way he will know HOW you feel....!!!! (OH- and make it music he doesn't like! For example if he's into rock and roll, play Big Band or classical or Latin...HA HA!) Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

For a while when I lived in an apartment I had the worst neighbors in the world. I really thought they were up there killing each other one night (they weren't). I was annoyed by their ridiculously loud t.v. (I didn't have one), and I lived alone... one evening I asked them to turn it down, and when they answered the door, I recall they weren't fully dressed... it was awful.

In college I had the other worst neighbors in the world... their dorm room had stairs on the other side of the wall where my bed was, and they would clomp up and down those dumb stairs at every hour of the night. I had to go out and tell them to be quiet so many times--I was student teaching at the time and had to get up and go to school while they were sleeping it off!!

I don't know exactly what you mean by "being a man" and fixing it once and for all... I was fortunate enough that my awful apartment neighbors moved out one day (without notifying the landlord or returning the keys). You do have to live near this guy, so I wouldn't suggest doing anything really abrasive or mean (even though I can relate to your plight, truly). Be diplomatic about it. Maybe both of you could talk to him. Good luck, and happy 2007.

Answer 4

Your husband is doing the right thing,by not confronting them (why?),because these people are probably getting "High" off drugs,and who knows if someone up there does'nt have a gun?. Call the police and file a complaint about disturbing the peace. Are there other neighbors in your building?. If so,then file a petition to have the person evicted. You have a child also,in which this situation is putting him in harm's way,if something got out of hand. If your mother-in-law does'nt know what's going on,then she should be told immediately. I'm sure she could send that man packing in no time,(no matter if he pays rent on time or not),she will find another suitable tenant. (Good Luck)

Answer 5

Yeah they do ... call the cops .. after about a half dozen times if that of going there, you should see a change. But sometimes for the worst. You might wake up some moring with flat tires, broken windows etc.

Well because they'll know it's you complaining, tell your Man to grow a pair and go up there, but these days he might get shot for doing that. Are "these" people trash? Or just azzholes?

Just call the cops, let them handle it for now and see what happens ... go from there.

Answer 6

Your hubby needs to have some cajones and go right up to get this addressed in a right to the point but tactful way. Until this simple task is done you should continue to poke and prod at him to not be such a wuss.
And furthermore tell him to put the toilet seat back down after peeing. I'm sure you have to clean that mess up too ;)

Answer 7

don't really know how you can fix it 'Once and for all" Apartment living comes with that. Only living upstairs can you avoid that my upstairs neighbors sound like the move furniture all night long or practice for the riverdance but they are nice people. Sometimes I think they try but then go back to the old habits or maybe since they can't hear what I hear they just don't realize. Maybe switch places and let them see how they sound coz it doesn't sound the same to them

Answer 8

don't leave it to your husband...go and do it yourself be nice, be calm, but be firm~ get your point across without being a bi*ch. i too have some wonderful neighbors such as yours, luckily they don't live above me they are down the hall but just as loud and obnoxious and carry their arguments into the hall for everyone to enjoy, the best one was on Christmas morning ....Gotta love the slang and cuss words in front of the kids. unfortunately my neighbors only care about themselves and not the peace of the complex. so GOOD LUCK WITH THAT.

Answer 9

Yeah they bother me all the time but like everyone else recommends you can either tell Mom in-law & let her do her part, call the police (did this at my last place) if you want to make waves, calling the police either will do one of two things infuriate them & possible retaliation if they get pissed enough ie;altercations or keyed car,missing mail,they could get scared and eventually stop or worst comes to worst you have to move from the stress of it all.I have been there too.

Answer 10

I had the same problems with my neighbors. I kept calling the apt managers and nothing was ever resolved. So i started calling the police after the 2nd time I called them lets just say I have had no more problems.