I'm not being big-headed, but I'm very attractive. I'm educated, good conversationalist. Everything this man I'm with appears to desire, however, we live 4 hours away and don't see each other very often. I'm baffled as to why men use women?!!! I've even spoke to him of my using ex, however I seem to get the impression he's doin it to me! I'm hurt and angry over it especially because I confided in him over my hurtful exs. P.S I know he's been a player in the past.
2007-01-01 03:58:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would guess it's the same reason that some women use men who are loving. Think it has something to do with background. Some are honest and forthright and some are not. In an ideal world all of the honest, loving people would find each other and all of the dishonest, using folks would do the same.
2007-01-01 04:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by doobie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We teach others how to treat us by examples set. Don't let him treat you that way, make sure he knows whatever he is doing that is unacceptable-IS UNACCEPTABLE. If he doesnt call you when he says, don't answer the phone for a few days. Believe me, you are not alone. If he is the RIGHT guy and no mister right now, he will come around. If not, kick him to the curb, there are plenty out there that will suit your needs, even closer then 4 hours away. If you are smart, stop making yourself look stupid. Stand up for what YOU want. Satisfy your needs, you are important. Kick him to the curb if he makes you feel unsavory. All in all, men do this because we let them do it.
2007-01-03 08:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by joy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my dear considering you live four hours away i dont see why he cant cheat on you. like my mother used to say long distance relationships are the love of 3. so i mean if you are sufffering to much about this you have to go over there unanounced and go spy on him to see if he is truthful to you or not. he does deserve the chance. because hey i might be wrong. but see if he is infact cheating on you. and if he is then well i am sure there is plenty of great guys out there that would love to be with you. i mean you say you are atractive educated and good conversationalist, i am sure you too have a good heart and believe me if a girl with such qualities shows up in my life i would surrender to her like france :)
2007-01-01 12:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about. I was with a man for a long time. Everything was OK as long as I was doing everything for him, as long as he would benefit from what I was doing it was great but the minute I asked him to do something for me it was like I was pulling teeth, he would complain about everything that I asked him to do, so I would end up doing it myself or getting someone else to do it. Some men use women for their own benefit and don't care enough about what you want. But when you get fed-up with them it's all your fault. They just don't seem to want to take the blame for anything that goes wrong in your relationship.
2007-01-01 12:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Nan of Many 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be smart, good conversationalist and have all these great qualities. But the bottom line is men play women because they let them. You probably showed too much emotional investment too early. When men know we have you then we know we can play you.
2007-01-01 12:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Using people is wrong. Period.
You have listed some very good qualities in yourself.
But? Where is self esteem listed?
Just my opinion, but shouldn't you think about what
YOU desire? I'm not promoting being selfish and uncaring,
but, I believe we must truly know and luv ourselves
before we can share life with someone else. : )
2007-01-01 12:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usual all very beautiful women they fall in love with the bad guys so most the bad guys like to use them. I'm a very nice guy and I can never have the gas to use any women if I do not like her I live her a lone and move ahead.
2007-01-01 12:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by jashuear 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once a player, always a player. Player's rarely stop playing. You are attractive and educated, you can find a good man who appreciates you and who won't use you.
2007-01-01 12:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have given too much too soon.....BEFORE You trust someone, make sure they are trustworthy. (Start off small.)
Men AND women are just as guilty of being players...and once a player...always a player with player ways.
2007-01-01 12:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of men figure that good looking women are: one, someone you can't trust, because they have more chances to step out. two, are conceded. three, can't be as smart as they are. finally, too many men are worried about making a "commitment" and being able to play the field makes them stay young.
2007-01-01 12:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by fman440 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋