Should I let my nephew look at porn on my computer?

Question

My nephew (aged 14) has been staying with us for a couple of weeks. He's sleeping in our spare room where we keep the computer. I've notriced that the light is on very late at night. I checked the history on the PC and found that he's been visiting porn sites (no hard stuff, page 3 girl sites, playboy video clips etc). I don't see any problem with this. I think it's normal and healthy for a 14 year old boy to want to look at naked women. His parents are very strict and don't allow him any leeway at all. My girlfriend thinks I should take away the computer and report whats happened to his parents. What do people think?

Answer 1

You don't have to tell his parents. He's living with you right now so in a sense you are his guardian. It's up to you to lay down some ground rules. Though it maybe healthy and natural for a 14 year old boy to be interested in sex, It wouldn't be natural or healthy for an adult to permit it, would it? So have a talk with him.

Answer 2

I'd be more worried if he was a healthy 14 YO male and he DIDN'T want to be looking at naked women.

Problem is, he'll find the hard stuff sooner or later, unless you have some sort of filtering software. If your brother/sister (his parents) are that strict, you are going to run into some problems when they find out sooner or later. They will hold you accountable, since they left their son (your nephew) in your care. Would you let him raid your liquor cabinet too? Likely not.

If you see dog sh*t on the sidewalk, do you give it a wide berth, or go stomp right in it? My advice is to avoid potential future problems, and curtail the use of your computer, or talk to him about it.

If YOU are looking at porn with your GF, and happen to leave the browser history, perhaps he is following your footsteps. Better clean that up.

Is it healthy for him to look. Yep. Is it your responsibility to assist him. Nope.

Answer 3

I will give you the benefit of my experience with this type of situation. I have a son who liked to do the same thing. He would do look at porn at all hours of the night in secret and it really got to be a problem for the entire problem. I think he was addicted to Internet porn. But is think it leads to other problems as well. There are thousands of other things to do with the Internet that are educational. Also you do not want him to end up accidental in a chat room or something with predators who target teens. That could happen because eventually he will get enough of the type of sites he is looking at and look for more. What happened at my house is from going to so many sites that were not safe it exposed the computer to viruses. I feel that teens should use the computer in open so that adults can monitor what they are doing.

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Answer 5

You should follow the way his parents raise him. One of the biggest problems with men is that they all have a weakness when it comes to porn or women. You should try to keep his mind on better things. It is natural for men to want to seek this type thing but make sure that he keeps value's of right and wrong. Alot of men lose marriages and families over these type things. Help him become a responsible man. You will end up being so proud of him if he grows up to be a wonderful productive man and you had a hand in it. So yes I believe you should put a stop to it.

Answer 6

Nothing wrong with Playboy, Page 3 stuff, it's just nudity nothing pornographic. It's normal for boy's this age to check things out but keep an eye open to insure he does not go into more graphic sites. For someone under 16 that would be a bit much and also many of these porn sites destroy computers with viruses, etc.

Answer 7

I don't think I'd tell his parents,but I wouldn't allow him to look at sexual material because sexual desire is a feeling that adults can hardly control thus you have so much cheating and abuse going on so how can you expect a child of fourteen to control the feelings that the pictures will provide?you can't and you don't know how these feelings will develop with in him since when he's not with you his parents are strict?sex can really prove harmful to some if not introduced in a good manner and porn sites just aren't good teachers.When kids look at these pictures don't think that they won't get aroused because they will and some will masturbate and some will look for other ways to find the pleasure and who knows what that way will be?Risky.

Answer 8

I think you shouldn't allow your nephew to see any kind of porn whatsoever. You are an irresponsible uncle, you are suppose to set examples to him, but then again, you are not because you are "shacking up" with your girlfriend rather than being married to her.

I would not allow this and I would consider on telling his parents. His parents should have NEVER allowed him to stay with you.

Maybe you should listen to your mate, because in the long run, if this is damaging for your nephew....you will be to blame.

Answer 9

I would suggest putting a parental block on your PC. Let me tell you something about children and porn. When my ex was 12, his mother gave him a subscription to playboy. Ever since then he has had a bad addiction to pornography that lead to our divorce. When they get bored with something, they will move on to other things to turn them on and it can lead to danger. My ex resorted to prostitutes and contracted herpes after our divorce. He keeps going down hill, he has lost so much weight it looks as though he might have aids. Now he solicits teens on-line.(MY daughter is witness to this). It is immoral and not healthy at all. It is healthy to explore their own bodies but not involving porn. It destroys lives. Plain and simple. Do this kid the biggest favor and get him help now before its too late. He will never have a good healthy relationship with women and think of them as objects if you don't. Whats wrong with you men that think that porn is ok anyhow? It is NOT healthy, its wrong and a form of fornication. Teach this young man some morals and values and how to repect women.

Answer 10

hes not your child and if hes parents wish that he don't see that kind of thing than I think you need to respect their wishes. Explain to him tho why you may agree that it is OK but his parents have the last word on the issue, try and not make his parents look as tho they are the bad guys or he will never respect his parents. Not only are you teaching him family values but your also teaching him respect for himself and others....you'll be a better Uncle in the end. By the way...I wouldn't tell his parents unless it has become a problem to big for you to handle, it could open a new can of worms for you such as a trust issue with having their son stay with you...