Is everyone here pro spanking of a child?

Question

I'm not. Just curious..

Answer 1

No. Never. It is cruel, ineffective, impatient, it teaches nothing more than fear and then the child continues the cycle as an adult. I hear so many people say "I was hit and I turned out fine" or "I only give my child one or two swats on the bottom", and I say "Whaaaaaat?!?" Everyone who hits their children attempt to justify it but beyond being a catalyst for violence it also causes a child, now grown, to harbor such guilt because the people he trusted in most hurt and humiliated him that he feels there is no other choice than to say it was 'good' for him. Then comes the complete denial and the idea that their parents did it 'because they deserved it'. That is victim mentality.

Please realize that you parents are the people a child loves and trusts most. Hitting someone defenseless should make you ashamed. That child will never be able to trust you in the same way again. He will grow up believing he deserved it, and it will wreak havoc upon his self-esteem. If you'd like to teach your children how to be in control, STAY IN CONTROL YOURSELF!! There are positive ways to parent that may take a bit more time but not make your child a victim. They should ALL be checked into and if you feel you are going to hit anyway - take your own time out. What the heck are you teaching a child by physically assaulting him? That it's only OK to hit if the person is smaller and more defenseless? You are victimizing (and committing battery against) your children! That our so-called 'modern world' continues to allow this to happen to children is devastating. How would you like it if someone hit you every time you did something they didn't like? No? Not into that? Then STOP DOING IT TO YOUR CHILDREN!

To continue to spread the nonsense that 'spanking' helps kids never to commit the offensive behavior again is ludicrous. Not in front of you, maybe. What you will see is a breaking of your child's spirit. It's terrible that anyone should want that. If you really think this won't heighten the child's chances of psychological problems in the future, I am speechless for you. Unfortunately, almost EVERYONE hits their children, and then claims the "bad" kids are the ones who were never hit. Really? Find them for me. I don't know any. Ever been to a facility for violent criminals? Ask them if their parents ever hit them. I can almost guarantee you 100% of them will have their hands up - and yet STILL be defending what was done to them.
Barbie, I'm glad you are against spanking. Although the "pro-hitters" would have us believe otherwise, we are very much in the minority. People say things have changed so from a time wherein everyone just hit their children willy-nilly but I believe in my heart that only made it all worse. In every poll more than 90% of parents say they have or would hit their children - no different than 50 years ago! So I'd love to know where "the liberal PC won't hit your kids" philosophy (which I believe in, and don't believe is PC at all - it's simple humanity and common sense) is actually ruining the world. Thank goodness there are still a few of us who haven't bought into 'oh, things were so much better then' philosphy.

Answer 2

This is a very wierd subject for me. I personally don't spank my son yet. He is much too young, only 8 months old. But, I am constantly trying to figure out the right thing to do. Every thing I know in head says no. But, the bible says spare the rod spoil a child. But, I think you can still punish your child and provide consequences without spanking. I don't believe I will spank my son. But, I would never swear to it. Some children that is the only thing that works. Different punishments work for different children. You have to find what works for you. I was spanked on rare occasions as a child, and I am not a violent person. Spanking is a touchy subject with a lot of people, but to me it's just confusing.

Answer 3

Yes and no - I was spanked as a child and I don't have a problem with that. But, I also believe that spanking is often used as the first resort instead of utilizing the MANY other options that are out there and so with my own kids, I avoid spanking and try to find other ways to dicsipline. The truth is, in most cases, there are other ways, they just take more work and a lot of parents have been to lazy to try them.

Answer 4

I am pro-spanking. And I mean spanking, not beating or abuse.

Spanking is a an effective discipline used with a combination of other discplinary tactics.

With that said, I don't think a swat on the behind after being warned one too many times will harm a child. If all it takes is a swat on the hand or buttocks to permenately damage a child's self esteem, then alot of today's children are in trouble.

I think the real problem is that parents are afraid to be parents. I've seen one too many parents in various stores trying to reason with a toddler throwing a fit on the floor. Or some pre-teenage cursing their mom out in public because she won't buy her some hooker hot pants to wear to the school dance.

Today's parents need to grow some balls and discipline their children. Stop worrying about trying to be their friend and them not liking you, or damaging them for the rest of their lives.
Give them boundaries, and if that requires you putting your hand to their bottom every now and then so be it.

I will spank my daughter if she needs it, and I don't give a gosh da** who doesn't like it. She may not alway like my decisions but she will respect them, when she has her own home then she can do what ever the heck she pleases.

Until then, she will respect me and my rules. I honestly believe the cruelest thing you can do to a child is pacify them into thinking that world revolves around them. Life doesn't work that way. Dissapointment is a part of life, the sooner they learn it...the better.

Answer 5

Spanking alone doesnt work. Theres a difference between spanking, and a parent thats just venting.

There was actually an artical in American Baby this month about spanking, and its pros and cons. Experts admitted that if spanking is working for a family, its because its not the only form of punishment.

In the sense that the parents dont just spank and thats the end of it. You have to teach the correct behavior first, booster their confidence by pointing out that behavior in them and their peers, and then spank consistantly, two swats, no questions at the time of the offense, and then resolve the issue with talking, just like you would at the end of a time out. Its very effective parenting.

Thats how we were parented, and we never hit other people, never have the desire to, we're not violent, and we certainly are well mannered and grew into responsible adults.

Its parents who simply spank to relieve their own frustraition, and do it inconsistantly and without teaching and reasoning, that result in children who are violent and misbehaved. Punishment is out of love for the child, not to make the parent feel better. Without love you have horrible children. End of story.

Iam pro spanking, and always will be.

Answer 6

i think that smacking is a very LAST resort!

there are plenty of other ways to disapline a child, through being firm and consistant when a child is behaving badly.

what does smacking actually teach a child anyway? explain to them what they have done wrong and use the time out seat, it has always worked for me. but u need to follow through with it, dont speak to the child through the time out and make sure they say sorry and know what they have done before they go to play.

i think the problem is parents let their children away with far too much and then wonder why they cant control them, using good disapline will show the child whos boss, smacking is not necessary

Answer 7

I am but it has to be done in a proper method not as a threat every time the child does something and also not every offense means spanking. Also you must never spank when angry, and the child needs to understand what he she is receiving a spanking far, do not just pick the child up and start spanking and then talk to them, and just like any other method of punishment the child should no that they are loved and should receive forgiveness for that offense.

Answer 8

My parents did it to me but I don't think that I could ever do that to my child. It created a horrible fear of my parents for me. I also agree that it can promote violence. I remember when I was probably 5 or 6 and we were playing house. I actually hit the other kid because that's how we were punished in my house. It's appalling that I did that and I can only blame two people for that...

Answer 9

Had a child development class in college. The professor was adamant that spanking was only justified when a child did something that would harm himself or others, or damage property. And then, only to the age of 8. Any other time it was much better to try other discipline techniques, and develop our parenting skills. Watch Supernanny!

Answer 10

I'm against spanking, but if the child did something wrong (not accidentally ) a few spanks wouldn't hurt.Like most of the people I say violence brings violence, My parents used to spank me until the 4th grade, I was having some bad, really bad and stupid friends but I turned to be a good boy thanks to thoes spanks.Beating is another thing, good or bad no child should be beaten, In this case the problem is not the kid , it is the parent and personally I would beat,torture and kill that sonofabitch, but that's how I think!