In this situation do I forgive and forget?? Does he not love me/..
2007-01-01 03:15:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was with my b/f for two years. I broke-up with him in a voice mail. Two days later we got back together.
He was a virgin when we broke up and we promised to be eachother's first. We almost did it two weeks after getting back together and I found out he did it during those two days.
Why did he do this?? He says he is sorry and has a reason, but I don't believe it.
Did he have to do it with the first girl to try and cheer him up??
I broke up with him b/c I had just had my g-pa, aunt, cousin, and friend die. I was just not thinking right, and he goes and sleeps with a girl.(he says he was not drunk)
Should I accept this and apologize, cuz last night when this happened I just told him I think I should leave and I walked away.
I only found out cuz the girl had called him while I was there, and I answered.
They were friends before all this.
Should I forgive him and trust him again??
2007-01-01 03:15:16 · update #1
He said he was just hanging out with her when she came onto him. He said that he is truly sorry. When I asked him how it was, all he said was it wasn't you.
Do I forgive him??
2007-01-01 03:15:54 · update #2
no you do not get back with him. If his excuse is that she came on to him that is pretty lame and a lot of guys try to use that excuse. If a girl is coming on to you and you dont want to do anything you tell them no....He is a dog and you deserve better..Say goodbye and never look back on that relationship.
2007-01-01 03:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive him and forget the issue period.
BTW,, DID YOU APPOLOGIZE to him ?? You SHOULD !! After being bf/gf for 2 years, breaking up with him in a voice mail is tacky-classless and should have been beneath you but apparently it wasn’t.
Family-friend dying is truly traumatic and am so sorry for your loss. That however isn’t a excuse to treat your b/f so rotten. You pushed him away and treated him rottenly instead of turning to him for support! As he apologized, claimed no “excuse” (I was drunk) and owned up to what he did, bet he did try to support you when you were feeling so bad because of your loss. And yet, you pushed him away after two years with a voice mail?
Sincerely Apologize to him, accept his apology, and both of you start fresh with your relationship!!
2007-01-01 11:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all he wants is pussy but i can not tell you to belive that no one can you your self have to decide what you want to do how an when you want to do it but you lucked out here are some things to help you
1) was he drunk
2)did she hand cuff him or an any way make him do it
3) when you broke up with him did he know that it was because that
4) did he pull away from here during
5) did he still talk to her after he an your self got back toghther?
6) was he trying to get you back
7) did he try to even talk it out with you before jumping in to bed with the first girl he came across
8) was he thinkin of you when he was layed up in the bed with that girl
9) does he in any way regret what he did
10) is he admitting what he did was very very wrong an that the reason he had at the time to do it was no good
if you awnsered in a negitive way to any more than half of thease questions i think you kknow what to do i aint an expert on this an i aint trying to tell you how to run your life but i am trying to help so if you need any more just email me kk hope everything woks out great good luck
2007-01-01 11:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by none of your biz. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you cant forgive him hunni
i mean you broke up with him and in the space of 2 days he had olredi slept wid anutha gyal.(once a cheater always a cheater!!)and if the otha gurl hadnt phnd wen u was ther then he probz wasn gnna tell ya.
Good Luck hun xx
2007-01-01 11:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by bre-bre double o seven 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no because you do not know if he might end up doing it when u two are together u neva know that girl and him must be having some strong feelings for each other but what i have told you u do not have to believe this is your decision anyhow
2007-01-01 11:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forgive him and be his friend but if you ever go out with him be cautious but in your mind not out loud
PS:if you ever talk to him about it dont bring the subject up too much it gets annoying and yes he loves you b/c he did say she came on to him and if he loved you wouldnt he tell the truth
2007-01-01 11:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by April 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You weren't together at the time, what obligation did he have to you? For all he knew, you weren't going to get back together because you dumped him. Was he supposed to act like you were still together after you told him that you weren't?
2007-01-01 11:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by Laura C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He wished it was you, its all your fault, you broke his heart, not the other way around.
If you had not broken up with him, then thing would have been different.
It's cause & effect, now get over it, get back with him and let him be your first as planned. It will be great.
2007-01-01 11:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I can say is "people are only humans". We all do stupid stuff from time to time without thinking. If you really really like him, stay there. Give him another chance.
2007-01-01 11:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by prissypj 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be glad he told you the truth sweetie. I know it hurts and you probably will never forget it- but you should forgive him.
2007-01-01 11:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋