When we were first together a year ago, she always wanted to be with me. Over the past 2-3 months she says she isn't really interested more than 1-2 times a week. I have asked her if there is anything I can do to help her but she says I have to figure it out-she isn't going to make it easy. There were never problems before except that she is very religious ( don't know if there is a guilty thing but why was she always ok with it early in relationship) and sometimes acts like she does want it and other times she acts like she could care less.
2007-01-01 03:14:45 · 7 answers · asked by kws504 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the problem isnt with the sex. it s proabbaly depper than that. u have to fix that problem together b4 thinkin about sex.
women cant have sex with someone who they are nt happy with or wound up over something with
2007-01-01 03:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lara^mt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she does still want it, im sure she does actually if she's human that it is, but things get old with any couple. You have 2 spice it up & try new things, her remark that its "your job" 2figure it out, was clue #1 to that tip. Women enjoy sex just as much as men, some women just arent as vocal in speaking their mind or telling u specifically what it is they want. As selfish as it is, we expect u 2figure it out sometimes. You havent done anything wrong though, so dont feel bad, most couples go thru this. Try romancing her though, think of things that you did in the beginning of your relationship that brought you 2 fall in love 2 begin with, or 2want 2 be more intimate. Surprise her 1evening with soft music, candlelit dinner maybe, & resurface some of that chemistry between the 2 of you........Compliment her more, tell her she looks nice or even "sexy" tell her she smells good....Come up behind her when she's cooking and spoon her from the back, wrapping your arms around her waist & giving her little kisses on the neck, intimate yet innocent....Put the moves on her at unexpected times, when she's cooking, or in the shower, or just coming in from work, ravish her!!! Bottom line, if you give her more attention & become more romantic you will find more passion will naturally come back 2 your relationship. Good luck, i think i might need 2 "unexpectedly" wake up my own man after writing this!
2007-01-01 11:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go back in your memory and rethink the conversations you two had in the beginning.The talks you two had concerning life and what you both wanted out of life and in there you will find some things she told you she would need and you have over looked.I found that in the beginning of my relationship,before we slept together we discussed certain love things that we liked and during the years while I thought he heard me I was still waiting for the things I had told him in the very beginning I needed in a relationship,well they never came and slowly my sexual desire for him died.Woman are like gardens and if you don't tend to the garden ,all will die and it sounds like your woman is wilting and dying.Being with him has caused me to lose my sexy and I want it back.You say when you ask what the trouble is she says you need to figure it out?well that tells me she's already expressed her needs and she 's tired of feeling as if she's begging for your attention and love.If she has to tell you again then it won't feel natural to her and she won't like that.Listening is the key word.people always tell you what they need whether verbally or other wise,but you must listen.Hurry or it could be too late.
2007-01-01 11:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? A lot of women go through times in their lives that they aren't interested in sex...most are into it when they are younger, lose interest, and then get back into it when they "hit their prime". You need to remember that for most women, sex is not just physical but emotional as well. Are you still showing her that you love her and making her feel like she is beautiful, desireable, etc?
2007-01-01 11:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by singleagain062005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure it out? What kind of crap is that ? I think she is seeing somebody else, and feels guilty doing it with you now....It ain't going to get any better, I would recommend finding somebody else soon
2007-01-01 11:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's PMS.
2007-01-01 11:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
????..Maybe she is desiring romance?
Try it. I bet she'll luv it. : )
Good luck!
2007-01-01 11:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋