And I got a stable job and home. I'm a loyal and honest guy, though really shy. What can I do?
2007-01-01 03:11:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But I all want is just someone to love me. And I love kids.
2007-01-01 03:13:05 · update #1
Sounds like your a reall nice guy, just a little shy.
I'm only 19, almost 20. I've been out of High school for almost 2 years now. I know that if my boyfriend and I were to split up now, I would be lost. After a while its like you almost forget how to meet new people. Maybe meeting new people isnt the problem but, its almost like you forget the steps you need to take to become close.
Whatever you do, do not get discouraged. Perhaps you can voice this problem to one of your married/even non married peers. Explain to them that you're really looking to settle down.....
Maybe they know somebody who is in the same situation. This will take the pressure off you a little bit. You say your shy, so you're probably not the type of guy to just walk into a bar and go up to some girl. Asking a friend for help will assist you in getting past that first step.
If you do get set up and go on a date and find that you're not really interested in this girl, try it again! no harm in it.
Just dont give up. Dont get discouraged. If you want something really badly, do whatever you can to get it.
**30 years old is nothing. A close friend of my family j met a guy on an online service at 35 years old. At 38 they got married. She is now pregnant!!!! (She already has one son who is 15 years old, and now shes going to have a little girl!!).... Hopefully this story will help you keep your hopes up.
2007-01-01 03:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep working at it. You need to get out more. Go to church, develop hobbies, and attend functions with your married friends. It will happen when you least expect it. Meantime, make improvements to your self. Take a look at yourself and make an assestment of your positive and negative points. Then decide what changes if any you would like to make. Remember you want to be the same person after you meet your next lady friend. Not just to attract her. Meeting someone while doing something that you like to do gives you the added bonus of having something in common. Good luck.
2007-01-01 03:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join various clubs in your community. You are bound to meet someone nice. Maybe you could joing Big Brothers. That would be a good way to meet some single mothers and help out some boy in need of a male role model at the same time.
2007-01-01 03:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry I know 2 guys who waited for Ms Right as she came along when they were in their late 30's. They were financially set up so they can enjoy family life without a mortgage. She'll turn up - do you socialise much? Maybe you need to get out to some places where nice girls are, church or maybe some dance classes? Best Wishes
2007-01-01 03:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what it takes to try and overcome the shyness, but some dating websites are good and there are kinds of ways to meet singles. However, i'm 34, about to get married and i am starting to realize why i wanted to be single. So, you may be better off just to date casually and do your own thing. My friends are all married to and they are miserable, so i may back out.
2007-01-01 03:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop being bitter, it's seriously unattractive!
Secondly, go speed dating or join a web based dating agency, if you live in the UK go on guardian soulmates.
Good luck, there are loads of ladies out there for ya!
2007-01-01 03:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by misseliggett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're getting bitter, it's because you must be jealous.
I am 30, my friends are getting married, having babies, and I don't get bitter, I feel happy for them, that's what they want/need at this point in life, why would it make me bitter?
I personally couldn't be happier with my life, without a husband and without kids
2007-01-01 03:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by 13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so bitter, stop being jealous, be happy for what you do have, and relax. If you try too hard, it won't happen. Plus your bitterness may be conveyed to the women you talk to, and they may be picking up on it and getting a bad impression of you.
2007-01-01 03:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Laura C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.... ignore the @ss who said jump off a bridge for starters.
well im sure u have friends, so have them hook u up. go to a resturaunt or something for the 1st date. bge urself. i guarantee by 35 ull be married
2007-01-01 03:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by xojessox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly can't say what you can do about it. I myself am single with no children at 32, and yeah it gets to me sometimes, but I believe someday I will find "the one", and so will you. :)
Good luck.
2007-01-01 03:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness200574 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋