Did he not care about how I would feel?? Does he not love me like I thought??
2007-01-01 03:05:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was with my b/f for two years. I broke-up with him in a voice mail. Two days later we got back together.
He was a virgin when we broke up and we promised to be eachother's first. We almost did it two weeks after getting back together and I found out he did it during those two days.
Why did he do this?? He says he is sorry and has a reason, but I don't believe it.
Did he have to do it with the first girl to try and cheer him up??
I broke up with him b/c I had just had my g-pa, aunt, cousin, and friend die. I was just not thinking right, and he goes and sleeps with a girl.(he says he was not drunk)
Should I accept this and apologize, cuz last night when this happened I just told him I think I should leave and I walked away.
I only found out cuz the girl had called him while I was there, and I answered.
They were friends before all this.
Should I forgive him and trust him again??
2007-01-01 03:05:43 · update #1
He said he was just hanging out with her when she came onto him. He said it serves me right because He had heard that I slept with another guy(which wasn't true) and said that he is truly sorry. When I asked him how it was, all he said was it wasn't you.
Do I forgive him??
2007-01-01 03:12:46 · update #2
Honestly girl....he didn't cheat on you. Yall were broken up.
He was probabaly really sad and just "did it".
If I were you...yea I'd be upset about it but since yall were broke up when it happened then really .....it wasn't cheating
Sorry = [
2007-01-01 03:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by Country Girl 08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate 2 break anymore unwanted news & make any accusations that might not be true...but honestly (just being an outsider looking in) do you think its possible he never was a virgin & actaully was keeping it from you? The fact that he didnt tell you shows he wasnt being honest in some ways obviously. Think about it...you would have never known probably had it not been 4her. How is that fair 2 you? Its possible he was looking 4 a rebound bcuz he was hurt over your break up, & its natural (NOT ok, but normal most times) 4 a man 2 retaliate in their own way by going elsewhere 2 fulfill their own needs, or their own hurt over something. Either way, with your own issues he should have been the 1 supporting you thru your troubles, rather than thinking about himself. Whatever the case, if you truly love him you can see what chances there are of the 2 of you working past this, if you GENUINELY care 4 one another & you believe in your heart that its mutual.. otherwise, move on bcuz there's no sense in setting yourself up 4 more heartache. And what are the chances of him & this "friend" hooking up again. I know i never sleep with any of my friends, but you know him better than we do, so thats your judgement call. Good luck, keep your head up thru everything. Time heals all wounds & life's lessons are meant 2 make us stronger, not break us down, so the world wont end if you do decide 2move on, true love or not.
2007-01-01 11:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he slept with someone in just two days of being apart, I would also be questioning whether he cared or not. If they were friends before, how do you know that they weren't fooling around behind your back? I would dump him and move on. But if you truly love him then you need to sit him down and find out where this other woman fits into your relationship. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-01 11:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do stupid things sometimes, and honestly, it's like they were made to make these silly mistakes. Some people say, once a cheater, always a cheater. If you really like the guy, give him another chance. Surely it will take you time to rebuild your trust in him, and respect for him, so I suggest you tell him that, and pray to God he isn't one of those types who makes a habit out of it.
Goodluck!
2007-01-01 11:10:19 · answer #4 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no .... find yourself another guy. It's a rather dirty situation, and I am sure you do not want to be involved in it. Otherwise you would not have simply walked away that time.. Listen to what your body was telling you! It is a whole new year and you should enjoy it,
Have a HAPPY New Year! 2007
2007-01-01 11:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up dear, if he cared he would have done things differently, he didn't actions speak louder than words. This is not easy to hear, but move on and get a good guy who does care and look out for the STD's out there.
2007-01-01 11:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he did it cuz he was mad at you. he probably didn't think you two were going to get back together. second, you really shouldn't be mad since you were not together when he did it. what he did during those two days is none of your business, but if he lies about it, that is a different story.
2007-01-01 11:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys werent together 4 those 2 days...so he could do wutever the hell he wanted to....BUT....on the other side...he still shouldnt has sex with the first girl he saw...if he really loved you he would not have done that
2007-01-01 11:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been open with you and told you everything,and also apologised. give him another chance. He surely cares otherwise he wouldn't have come back to you.
2007-01-01 11:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him so he went to another girl for closure.
2007-01-01 11:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋