ok, well, im 18, but ive been sheltered most of my life... i would like to give my boy friend a BJ, but, and im embarassed to say this, i dont know the best way, or like how to make it pleasurable for him... can someone please help me out with this? (please, i dont want those answers that say that he'll help me out, because i know he will, but i would like at least some ideas before going for it)
2007-01-01 02:05:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, he knows i havent done it before, and that i do want to do it for him... i just would like to not completelky embarass myself :P haha
2007-01-01 02:11:59 · update #1
yea, i realisethat it might help, but i dont really have the urge to watch porn either
2007-01-01 02:18:33 · update #2
I understand your desire to please your boyfriend, but don't feel like you have to jump into sex. First, realize that there is a risk of contamination. You can get a life-threatening disease from ANY sexual contact. Second, you really should try to be mature about this and wait until you are married. If you ever split up you could become the subject of ridicule, whether you are a pleasant performer or not. Third, porn may be a source of the info you seek, but be careful. Some state require that you be 21 to purchase such material. Viewing such material online is also risky. There are computer viruses that thrive in the porn industry online. You might consider something as accessible as Cosmopolitan magazine. They seem to have a ton of explicit sexual advice for women in every issue, though of questionable taste.
2007-01-01 02:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by luperith 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right, well, have you seen porn movies?
Okay. Forget them.
You'll do okay now. ;)
Seriously speaking, there is no "best way", exactly. Different guys like different things. Generally, eye contact is like... THE major thing. Frankly, we're fairly easy to please, us men, but there's a difference between pleasing and OMFGYES.
That difference for me is a) eye contact and b) lots of teasing.
Don't move your head too much.
Tongue needs to be mobile. Yes, all the time it's in your mouth.
Make sure you're pretty turned on -before- you start. Nothing helps nerves so well as a good orgasm, for that matter.
Humming helps... purring... little moans and groans...
Being -into- what you're doing, IE, enjoying going down on him and making sure he KNOWS you're enjoying it is probably the biggest turn on. No man that enjoys receiving oral will ever fail to enjoy watching his girl -enjoy- devouring him.
It's not about sucking him off. It's about -devouring- him. Remember that and you'll do fine. :p
(I don't mean with chewing.)
...oh yeah. Though some men really love a "sloppy" job, shall we say, there are some of us who just feel kinda sick when it's -too- sloppy. Just a thought...
For me, a good rule is, if she's not hawking huge globs of saliva on my crotch, I'm quite happy. If she is, uh, I may need a bucket?
Oh, and, bear in mind that deep throating is not entirely simple if you're kneeling. Not sure if you're thinking down those lines, but if that's what's wanted, lying on your back with your head tipped over the edge of a bed with his hands cradling is a -really- comfortable position. If you do it right. Or, really, more if he does it right, heh.
2007-01-01 02:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by dagorath1123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
use lots of spit, make it wet and sloppy. Look up at him, and moan a little while you do it (so he thinks you're enjoying it). use pressure, don't be scared to hurt him. Don't just put your mouth on it, REALLY SUCK, especially at the tip. Use your hands too.
..... and I hope he returns the favour, there's nothing worse than a guy who is so selfish and loves to get it, but refuses to give it!
2007-01-01 02:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope your 18
2007-01-01 02:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wont answer this on this site. But I can tell you hoe to do it if you e mail me I will tell you. No I am not hitting on you it is just hard to tell you when everybody is going to read it .
2007-01-01 02:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really I'm not being funny but watch flicks and study how the girls do it.
2007-01-01 02:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you have and Idea on "How To" Just go with the flow..The more you do it, the better you get :)
2007-01-01 02:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read about it, ask other girl friends. just make sure your teeth dont scrape it and practice. you'll get better as you do it more.
2007-01-01 02:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by Courtney A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have done it b4 nd i was just honest...just tell him tat u wanna nd dat if he is ready ur ready but f he isnt just tell him tat when he is ready tell u...nd tell him tat u will b ready @ any time nd dont hesitate 2 ask!
2007-01-01 02:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋