I knew someone online for almost 2 years and we finally met. A nice guy & the chemistry was good. We had such a great time spending together, he has committed himself to me & he even wanted me to fly over again so I bought the airticket... but I've got a sms from him during the Xmas's eve eve that he wanted me to postpone my trip. Coz his son needs him & he is seeing the son & the son's mother a bit lately.
What should I do? He has not been calling or sms since Xmas's day & I really do not know what to do.
2007-01-01 01:42:45 · 9 answers · asked by JJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance relationships DO WORK. Trust is imperative in this type of relationship.
this relationship, on the other hand, doesn't look like a winner to me.
2007-01-01 02:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, we have a lot of telepaths here, don't we? Amazing how they can tell that he's going to do this or going to do that based on a single paragraph! I'm impressed!
Sarcasm aside...
All you can do with an online thing like this is just be patient and wait and try not to fret. You do not know what is happening where he is - good or bad - and so can't do anything about it until you -do- know. If you decide he -must- be doing X, and he turns out to be doing Y, you'll still feel like he did X and that'll be a stumbling block for the relationship in the future. That make sense?
Just be patient (although this doesn't mean you can't be pissed off because he hasn't taken a moment to send you a msg to update on the situation) and try not to jump to any conclusions. It won't help in the long run if you do.
2007-01-01 01:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by dagorath1123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships don't work.Some men feel that they have far too much time on their hands when they're not e-mailing or I.M.ing you, and there is so much around to tempt them. My personal rule is, if a man likes you he will do everything possible to be with you, come hell or high water. I've been where you are, and I know how you are hurting, but please, whatever you do, love yourself enough to keep your dignity. Never beg for his attention or his love. Let him go if that is what he wants. He may or may not come back, but either way, you (1) leave yourself open to meet better, honest, trustworthy men, or (2) if you do let him come back, it will be on your own terms. Good luck, sweetie.
2007-01-01 02:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jane Grey Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respect the fact that he is trying to be there for his son. Unfortunately, when you get involved with someone with this kind of history, you have to accept the fact that he is going to have to interact with his ex, and his child. It's the way of things. Give him time, he'll be back.
Neurotically Yours,
NightSpawn
2007-01-01 01:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by the_nightspawn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he was interested before X'mas, and then spending time with his son and perhaps ex made him change his mind. Find yourself a guy who does not have any kid or ex. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-01-01 01:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by prudence z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. It seems that he has rekindled a relationship with his child's mother. You could ask him and see where his head is at. That way you are not wondering what his deal is..
2007-01-01 01:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by delmonicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must forget him. He is going back to his wife and kid.Meet some one else.
2007-01-01 01:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cash in your ticket....doesn't look like he is interested in pursuing a relationship with you....time to move on....good luck
2007-01-01 01:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a player... dump him , find someone closer
2007-01-01 01:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by klunk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋