My partner says you in the depressed mood again i try to explain but he doesnt seem to understand me
2007-01-01 01:31:12 · 19 answers · asked by r.moore590@btinternet.com 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You sound like you need some "ME TIME"....your time is probably taken up by all those who don't appreciate you and take you for granted!!! Go and do something you really want to do, eg - get a massage, go on a holiday by yourself, go and stay at a friend's... Things you've never done because you have always felt too responsible. You can't keep being everyone's door mat....and the time away may make them appreciate you a little more.
.....Just read some of your questions and now I understand you better...so it's the auto immune disease that's making you feel this way. You husband should be more understanding! And if your children are grown up they too should be a little more sympathetic. I wish I lived closer so I could take you out somewhere...even if it's just to get you out of the house!!!
Darlin, like I said you should be doing some things that you can enjoy without the pain...can you get any thing from the doctor to stop some of the pain? I don't know much about the disorder...but you shouldn't be living this way. You deserve better!!! Email me if you need someone to talk to!!
Hope you have a brighter New Year...I send you all my Best Wishes!!
2007-01-01 01:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by shez_a_maneater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. It never ceases to amaze me that someone can say to a depressed person, 'snap out of it'! Because, if a person could just do that - then they would. No-one wants to be depressed. Firstly, don't feel guilty - depression is a sickness and you will need help to recover. Have you been to see your GP? Are you on medication? If you are answering 'No' - then the doctor's surgery is the place to start. Medication will help, but not immediately, it takes about a month for the body to react positively to ant- depressants. Also, medication may have unpleasant side effects at first - but bear with them they are transient and should pass within the first couple of weeks, If you are already on medication then I think that you need someone to talk to. Maybe this should be a counsellor, or a trusted friend or family member. Speak out all of the reasons that you feel are making you feel depressed. Also, buy a small notebook and list all of the good things that there are in your life. If you concentrate on these then your depression could become more diminished. Good luck, be strong, relax - you are going to be absolutely fine.
2007-01-01 12:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression may be only one side of the coin... Mania could be there too but our manic moments are too much fun to worry about so we don't feel sick and depressed. And we don't take our meds.
I am Bipolar and I have gotten to enjoy the depression more than the mania. I take meds for both.
See a Dr., take his advice and meds if needed, keep changing until you get the right combination to control the chemicals in your brain. That is what is imbalanced... it is a disease and more dangerous possibly than heart disease.
When you get diagnosed start with your Dr. educating your family so they can be concerned and not subjective to your moods.
If you think of suicide, definatly goe to a hospital and tell them in the emeregency dept that you might hurt yourself or someone else... Don't wait... save your life...
When under control, realize that sleep is comforting and better than death, so enjoy your sleep and don't be bothered by the attitudes of the kids and partner.
Ask them if they will try to understand by reading some info on Depression or Bipolar available from the local mental health center.
A hospital stay is not always that bad... sometimes is is a way of sactuary for the mind and soul. And you see you are not alone, nor are you that bad off. I know there is a stigma with being mentlly ill... but if you know you need help... get help and don't worry about opinion's of other's.
Blessings on you for your suffering and hope for your future...
beaux
2007-01-01 12:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by beauxPatrick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that, Sweety. You are not alone. My Mother suffered from severe depression, and so did I. I suffered for a very long time. In fact I almost commited suicide about a year ago. I use to sleep with my pistal under my bed for easy access. I couldn't do that to my kids. There Mother abandoned them, but I could not. Those were some very dark, and lonely days, I can't express that enough. But you know what??? I'm happy now, and I'm fully alive. The only thing that I can recommend is for you to seek help, and just keep pressing on. I wish that I could just take your pain away, I've been there Baby.-Voodoo
2007-01-01 10:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Voodoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has both had and supported someone with depression, i understand how you feel. You cannot snap out of it and its not all in your head...if you had a broken leg, it would be put in plaster...depression is a physical condition that occurs when the bodies natural levels of serotonin drops, which effects both the physical and emotional state. Its a vicious circle, when someone tells you to snap out of it, you feel unsupported, which makes you feel down and so the spiral continues. Yes, exercise, keeping busy, trying to find something to occupy you will help, but there is nothing wrong with admitting that you may need help and going to the GP is the best thing you can do, they do help and in my experience they will not tell you to snap out of it. If your partner or kids feel ill...who do they go to for help and comfort? There is lots of advice and information on line, they would benefit from reading it to. Try to stay positive, but most importantly, when you do get help, make sure that you are doing it for YOU.Take care .
2007-01-01 09:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by sid_tidge 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do would be to visit your GP, another thing you could do is write a letter to your partner and explain exactly how your feeling and how you wish they wouldn't just say 'you in the depressed mood again' as it really doesnt help, ask them to be there for you and support you!
Try and pin point what it is thats making you depressed? money? not enough tlc in your life? your partner not giving you enough time? your job? Once you've found out what it is, come up with a solucion to solve yout issues and make youo a happy bunny again!
A lot of people go through moments like this in their life and your partner should understand this and help you through it!
take care x
2007-01-01 09:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Becci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear about your promlem hunny.Ive been feeling the same all over xmas,Ive had a rubbish time at work and home for ages and its hard to tell someone because like you say, you just get told to cheer up or snap out of it.Kids dont understand !! but husbands should.Im not gonna go to the doctors, i dont want medication or anything, id rather just try feel ok by myself.Gonna start tomorrow by chilling out at work...christ its only a job, you shouldnt get stressed over that :)
Listen hun if you wanna chat or sound off just e-mail me.Hope you work it out
xxxx
2007-01-01 11:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jools 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless people have suffered from depression, they don't know what it is like. You can't simply snap out of it - if only it were that easy. You might get more sympathy if you are seen to be trying to help yourself. Visit your doctor, do some exercise, get some counselling if necessary. Do all you can to get yourself well. Depression is an illness like any other. Good luck.
2007-01-01 09:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ally 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're near age 35 or older, you should have your hormones checked. You'd be amazed at how many mental symptoms are caused by low hormones- anxiety, depression, mood swings, feeling hopeless, lack of motivation, irritability-- especially if you feel the depression is somewhat cyclical, or you get very down, then start to feel slightly better, then fall down again.
2007-01-01 14:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there,done that!! I suffered a deep depression for a long time,& eventually had a breakdown.You should talk to someone(Doctor),or better....get out & enjoy life while you can! No-one can fully understand what you are feeling,so,try different things in your life...like: new job,working-out,sports,Bunko group w/ friends,etc.Anything to give you peace of mind before you collapse mentally from being down so long! Good Luck!!! Enjoy Life!!!!!
2007-01-01 09:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by spicy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋