Wha are the symptoms of someone who hasnt come to terms of a very close person who died??? Who had maybe been?

Question

in denial for over 5 years??????????

Answer 1

i lost my mum at 44 and was in denial for 3 years. i watched my life plummet quicker than a lead balloon and felt as though there was no point in living. i have a 4 year old son and i knew i needed to pull myself together but it was easier said than done. i went to the doctor and he prescribed temazepam ( as i wasnt sleeping) and fluoxetine. i knew this wasnt the answer so he recommended a bereavement counsellor. at first i didnt want to spill my guts to a stranger but i went along and there was a group of people who were in the same boat as me . i went for nearly 6 months and i must admit it helped me a lot. i then knew that there were others like me. it was certainly the best thing i ever did.

Answer 2

Every person handles death differently -- AND -- every person who is not handling death well may show that differently.

Often people think a person must cry or be sad to come to terms with a loved one's death (or even a pet's death). But, crying...or not crying... is very individual. Often it can take 1 to 3 years before a survivor really "comes to terms with" a death, especially if there had been a long or a meaningful relationship.

Denial of 5 years in length is not common. I'm not sure, however, if I understand your meaning of denial. Again, denial can be mistakenly used to describe someone who just doesn't talk about the death very much.

100% denial would be if the survivor continues after many years to talk about the person as though the person is still alive; says they are waiting for the person to call; and completely blocks out the fact of a person's death. Obviously, most survivors don't use that level of denial. BUT is is still common for survivors to show various levels of denial at different times.

You don't say what your friend/family member is doing or saying that makes you think they have been in denial for 5 years. So I can only recommend you talk to the person, find out from them what they ARE thinking and feeling, rather than guessing. Don't be afraid to talk about "the death." Talking may be just what the other person wants - and needs - to do.

Lifes

Answer 3

I really think this person is either just keeping it all in, or could even be one of these people who death just doesn't affect that much since you can't change the fact that the person is dead.

But also, remember, I'm sure you aren't with this person at all times. So you really don't know if this person has cried and grieved. Many people will only grieve in private.

Please try not to form opinions or judge. Because no one truly knows what goes on in the heads and hearts of other people. Only that person and God knows.

If this person appears to be okay, and not displaying irrational behavior, then probably this person has come to terms with this close person passing. And that is a good thing!!!!

Try not to be so concerned, and good luck to you!

Answer 4

It depends what you mean really. Somebody very close to me died 5 years ago this month and there is a part of me that thinks I see her out the corner of my eye when I'm shopping or something and then of course realise it can't be. I think about her every day. I don't think you ever really come to terms with it you just learn to cope. If the person you are talking about can't cope then maybe they need to talk to someone who understands how they feel or a professional. They have to know they are not alone. If you need more adivce or want to chat about this please feel free to email me, I totally understand how hard this is.

Answer 5

ME! Still depressed after 4 years
I started a forum for like minded people

http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/

Answer 6

Often anxiety is present. When mentioning the dead person's name, they'll get up and leave for no reason.

If the person died a tragic death, they often want every detail of how they died.

Answer 7

Don't be to eager to confront this person, people have their own ways of dealing with grief and there is no set time limit for grief to be completed.
Leave this person to handle it in their own way.

Answer 8

I had an older person tell me that even though he knows his wife is deceased he still talks to her. Take this person to a doctor is they won't admit that the person in question is dead.