Okay here's the deal out of nowhere my gf says that she needs her space and that she has a lot on her plate. She said its nothing that I did nor is it that she doesn't want to date me. She said she has never had the chance to be herself; she lives out in the country and her ex bf lived down the road so that was all that she knew. Also she said she just doesn't want a bf right now....so its been like this for about 3 or 4 weeks and its to the point she doesnt want to see me, doesn't answer my calls anymore...yet her mother and everyone around me says not to give up and give it time. I've known this girl since I was 5 years old; me being 19 and her being 16....sooo what do I do?
2007-01-01 00:48:05 · 14 answers · asked by Tony P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IF I WERE YOU, I WOULD STOP CALLING HER AND LOOKING FOR HER, NO MATTER HOW PAINFUL IT IS. LET HER LIVE THE LIFE SHE THINKS SHE IS MISSING, COS OTHERWISE SHE CAN DECIDE TO START LIVING IT AFTER YOU ARE SERIOUS OR EVEN MARRIED! LET HER SEE THE THINGS SHE WANTS TO AND DO THE THINGS SHE WANT TO. SOONER OR LATER SHE WILL FIND OUT THAT NOT EVERYTHING IS ROSES AROUND HER. THAT NOT EVERY GUY WILL TREAT HER RIGHT. SHE WILL REALIZE WHAT SHE COULD HAVE FROM YOU- LOVE, RESPECT, CARE ETC.
2007-01-01 00:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, and if she wants you, she'll come back to you. If you keep calling, keep texting, keep e-mailing, she will get to the point, where you are just an annoyance to her, and then it ma be harder to salvage whatever you had left, from the relationship. Like the family said, "give it some time" . . . "familiarity builds contempt". She just might need some space from you, depending on how intense your relationship may've been . . . 16 years old, that's still fairly young, and people are still discovering themselves at this age, let alone, at 19! Don't stress too much, just be cool, and while she is enjoying her space, enjoy yours too, it may just turn out, that you needed a break as well!
2007-01-01 01:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by The Nile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one knows her better than her mother and if she said not to give up, then don't. It's not easy being a teen-age girl with our emotions getting out of control and peer pressure, etc. She probably does have a lot on her plate. Just respect her wish and give her space. Eventually, she'll come around. However, if you don't grant her request for some space, you'll push her away.
2007-01-01 00:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growler called it right: Go find a fun hobby, get a dog and let her go. She's full of more shed than a Christmas turkey...all you're going to do if you obsess on this one is get your feelings hurt. If she wants to stay in touch and you feel you can act like you can handle it on a part-time basis, fine. If not, when she calls(and she will), tell her you have other irons in the fire. You're not a board game that she can shelve when she feels to and pull you out when she needs a laugh or some momentary entertainment...
2007-01-01 00:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man!! The need for space line. Tony , women have used that line since pre-Ancient-Egyptian times. The one that follows it is sometimes "Its not you,...its me". I was with a girl I wanted to marry for four years, and the need for space line was the only dialogue she entered into before leaveing me. Four years of my life, mostly pretty happy, and it ends in one line. Be open minded as to her return, be charming if you see her again, but try to engage in other interests and do other healthy and happy things, because often the prognosis in this situation is not good.
2007-01-01 01:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Marcus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time and space...she is too young to be tied down to one person and needs to experience life a little bit...So should you....if it is meant to be, then you will get back together at some point....but back of now or you risk losing her friendship as well....send her a card with a note telling her how you feel and that you want to remain friends....good luck
2007-01-01 00:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the space she wants. Shes young, And She wants to explore.. If you both like each other you'll come back to one another.
2007-01-01 00:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space and start looking for a new girlfriend
2007-01-01 00:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are so young. Yes, give it time, she needs to have her fun right now with friends, family, etc. If you push her she will run.
2007-01-01 00:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space and take the opportunity to enjoy your own space.Good luck.
2007-01-01 00:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by accesscard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋