I've been on both ends of that coin, now currently on the single side.
I can tell you from experience that there is nothing worse than being in a bad marriage. If i feel alone now as a single person, believe me. I REALLY felt alone being in a bad marriage. It was much worse.
It's hard being single too, especially being a single mom now. There are times I wish there were someone special in my life (besides my son of course), but for now "it is what it is". I try not to dwell on it.
I don't know if I will ever marry again. It would take an incredible man to bring that about. Especially now with my son, I would never want a repeat of the marriage I had. i'd much rather remain single the rest of my life-less drama, less of a roller coaster ride, less pain, etc. However, it would really be nice to just have a good man in my life without all of that. Is it possible, I don't know.
Lastly, i do have many friends who are happily married and it works great for them. So, I guess it just depends on the situation. I'm not against marriage, just bad marriages.
2007-01-01 00:54:19
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answered by Singthing 4
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I guess now a days, it is completly up to you and depends a lot on what are your life expectations, the way you socialize with others, and I'd guess education has a lot to it too. The following is just a summary on my family thougths about the issue, and those not reflect an universal conclusion.
My parents have a very weird relationship (as i guess most children think about their parent). We all (me and my two sisters) definitely think it is to dependant, and that on occasion dad usually, for economic reasons, tends to force his thougths on mom. Mainly for this, we all agree that by marrying, one of the parts are forced to make more concessions than the other, and maybe it is not worth it. My oldest sister has relationship and character issues, and it is very hard to find a couple (she's 33 now). My middle sister has a great character, but is childish sometimes (27 yo), currently no known boyfriend and no known long term relashionship. I think they both won't marry if the don't their couple is not "the love of their lives" which I think is stupid as i think that is an over merchandise concept. I do think that, in order to keep a long term marriage, conssecions must be made on both parts. Due to the fact that I'm gay (damn, you must be thinking, what a f'ed up family that is, but then againg, which one isn't - and by the way I'm male and 25) I definitely don't think about marrying, but i would really like to have a long term relationship with someone, which i think marrying is basically all that there is to it. Now, the thing is one must find someone that have similar ways on seeing life, and one that would allow to make as many concessions as you do, and that you could talk with, and many other things you'd like to add to the list, but i believe those might be the most important. The last advise, I'd say is, let your couple be, and find one that lets you be too.
2007-01-01 01:23:33
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answered by Anonymous
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Sometimes we who are married remember being single, and those who are single, wished for a wife. My marriage works........(so far) because my wife basically didn't change, I still watch football, fish, and do my own thing. When I was single, sure I played the field, actually had dated 7 girls in one summer, started to become a headache. The problem with most marriages is that the women want it all. They want the big house fancy cars, trips, clothes, then when good and bored, they want kids. I think most people today don't realize kids you can't just "give back" they are there for life.
I believe my marriage is good because we have no kids. We travel, have our own time together. The most imprtant thing in marriage is having "your time". Too many men become saps, giving up their lives they had just to appease the wife, and this is not good. A lot of my friends wifes are too insecure.
Single is good only because you come and go when you want, but I basically do this anyway so I think marriage is pretty cool. I guess the guys that are single and wealthy live pretty good, but single and broke must suck lol.
If you have a good woman, marriage is better I believe.
2007-01-01 01:08:52
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answered by godzillasagoodman 2
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Married life... with the right person. I've been single a lot and would love to be married to the right person. Living together wouldn't do it for me. I'd feel something was missing. I'd like to know my man loves me enough to marry me if thats important to me.(Each to his/her own. For some of my friends, they prefer cohabitation to being married).
2007-01-01 01:04:40
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answered by Anonymous
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Married Life is or me. I believe a marriage can be perfect bliss.. or damn close to it. Imagine spending life with a mate/ partner whos only reason for waking up each morning is to be with you. After 2 abusive and failed marriages I found this kind of bliss.. and I feel the same way.. waking up to see the man I love and who loves me back every day is like a dream.
Will be 7 years in 9 days!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-01 00:51:31
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answered by luckyducky0521g 2
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Look at old people. Would you prefer to be the last one of your family & die alone or have kids, grandkids, & the whole family that YOU created.
I'd go for the latter but im 25 so not rushing into anything yet. ive got some more life to live on my own first.
2007-01-01 00:54:39
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answered by Anonymous
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single life!!! this way u can have mre fun without bein tied dwn no1 wants 2 b told what 2 do 24/7 by their partner love da life u live live a single life
2007-01-02 06:18:20
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answered by dawndawndawns 1
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married or at least committed to and living with a partner --- you get to share your life --- all the good things are more than doubled in pleasure and the bad things are more than halved in pain --- and the there is a lot more than this --- but im sorry to say it takes time and the first time around may not work
2007-01-01 01:02:31
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answered by Waterdragon 7
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i admire single existence. not because of the fact i may be unfastened to flirt with in spite of guy I cherished, yet because of the fact i does not might desire to hardship approximately all that better stuff that includes sharing your existence with somebody else. Admittedly, i'm related on the 2d, and the guy is extremely super. yet single existence is a lot freer of hassles. specific its advantageous to have somebody to cuddle as much as each now and then, yet i stumble on i've got self assurance suffocated if there is often somebody else there. I savour on my own time. Ever experience like your existence is a huge super point play, spent residing as much as what people assume you to do? the final expectation is which you are going to enhance up, locate somebody and stay luckily ever after. it fairly is normality. And we persist with normality because of the fact if we don't, its in all probability we are going to be laughed at or purely theory unusual. If I had my way, i might get myself an exceptionally super, remoted sources coated with a eye-catching woodland and spend my days writing and portray and philosophising approximately existence (specific, i'm somewhat a dreamer, in case no person had observed). each so often keep in touch with civilisation as quickly as I felt like it (total isolation might probable suck), yet having the ability to head and stay in my own international. Oh, and that i'm not frightened of dying the two. Billions of uncounted existence-varieties have died until now me, its not often a clean element. We might besides stay our lives how we'd prefer to interior the time that we've been given.
2016-12-15 12:57:42
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answered by Anonymous
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For me its the married life, but I'm lucky enough to have married my best friend and have a great relationship! so I'm biased!
it depends enitirely on the person, their aspirations in life and their experiences!
2007-01-01 00:59:19
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answered by Becci 4
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